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Do you consider it morally wrong to...

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emkana · 05/03/2006 21:37

... agree to go on a date with a married man?

My friend went out the other night and ended up kissing a man who confessed to her that he was married. At the end of the evening they exchanged e/mail addresses, now he's been in touch to say he would like to see her again.

Do you consider it morally wrong to agree to meet this man? Personally I feel that I wouldn't want to see him really considering that he's willing to do this to his wife.

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MarsOnLife · 05/03/2006 23:15

mtpw... try not to hold back and sit on the fence. Say what you mean! Grin

harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:16

god would I betray my age if I was to say what about the sisterhood?
I'm serious actually
It was ingrained in me - don't do that to another woman

jenniferjuniper · 05/03/2006 23:17

i dont think its a question of blaming the other woman for leading the man astray but of questioning the morals of both of them individually

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:17

you know, i take that back, i thought you sounded angry at me, but i think im being too paranoid! i reread as very very angry on topic.

hunkermunker · 05/03/2006 23:17

He should keep it in his pants, she should not wheedle it out of his pants. Simple.

It's just manners fgs.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/03/2006 23:17

The example lockets states lists two betrayals though. Husband cheating on wife. Best friend cheating with best friends husband.

There is equal culpability/blame/anger/whatever there IMO.

edam · 05/03/2006 23:18

Yes, it is morally wrong to date a married man. The adulterer is much more to blame than the other party. But the single person is still doing something very wrong. And asking to be hurt, as well as hurting others.

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:19

oh, i know what i am on about on this too guys! my dh has put it about a bit in the past and i have not one bit of hostility towards the poor cows that fell for his crap!

hunkermunker · 05/03/2006 23:20

As a woman, I'd never go for a married man. If he'd treat his wife that shabbily, he'd treat me that badly, IMO.

jenniferjuniper · 05/03/2006 23:20

hunkermunker -manners made me Smile my xh obviously had terrible manners !

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:21

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Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:26

Grin lockets, its a situation that would generate a hell of a lot of anger, how awful for your mum

confession time for me now - i am SOOO paranoid that when i read the op, my first thought was i wounder where she lives - ie near me, is she talking about my dh! talk about your longshot! am pmsl at myself!!

harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:26

does anyone talk about the sisterhood anymore?
or care?

jenniferjuniper · 05/03/2006 23:27

sisterhood means nothing to the young uns round here - most of them will tear your hair out if you so much as look at them sideways !

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:27

but i tell you - at the risk of getting into trouble for generalising.....

PAH, BLOODY MEN! need castrating and shipping off to the moon, half of em!!

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:29

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chapsmum · 05/03/2006 23:29

MTPW you are priceless,
hourly kicks in the ball from stell toe capped boots maditory castration!!

Have you ever thought of running for prime minister, you'd soon have the house of commons neutered and beggin for mercy!
ROFL!!

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:30

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harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:30

really lockets? me too
five sisters I mean
like in Pride and Prejudice
I am Lydia Smile

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:31

what about the argument that there is and can never be such thing as 'sisterhood' as women are naturally in competition with one another to secure the best man (ie genes) and will screw one another over in a second for REALLY good dna??

or car, or money, or big house......

Women are far nastier to women than men EVER are - how does that sit with the idea of sisterhood?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/03/2006 23:32

I havent got any sisters Sad

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/03/2006 23:32

Again, i think its 50/50 Grin

More personality thing than gender thing.

Mytwopenceworth · 05/03/2006 23:33

lockets - locked in breeding camps of course!

harpsichordcarrier · 05/03/2006 23:34

well that - iirc - was one of the messages at the heart of 70s feminism
(god I am showing my age)
I mean to stop colluding with men in this idea that we are in competition etc.
I think today's young women could do with a big fat dose of sisterhood, with their recreational "bisexuality" and post-ironic hot pants.

lockets · 05/03/2006 23:36

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