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Why are oldtimers so unwelcoming to newbies

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NameChanged123 · 01/03/2006 14:26

I am a new member of mumsnet and was really pleased to find it. Unfortunately I have found that most of you oldtimers aren't very welcoming to newbies. Everytime I post on a thread I get ignored, you oldtimers only reply to each other. Sometimes I post on a thread and it just stops all together. I just think it would be nice to make newbies feel more welcome

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PeachyClair · 01/03/2006 17:51

Welcome VC123

i think you'll find as a mn obsessive I reply to everyone on every non-antenatal thread! Wink

it happens to us all, old or new, and I think lots of people (me included Blush) just read the initial question when there are a lot of replies. Not ignoring you I promise (well I am not)

kleggie · 01/03/2006 17:52

Oh and who was lavenderr?

jco · 01/03/2006 18:12

oh yeah i want to know who lavender was?!

Blu · 01/03/2006 18:15

Lavender was a poster who used to start therads like 'my DH punched my child' then when we all said 'leave him' would abuse us, and then let her DH come on under her posting name and abuse us too!
Then she hoped we would get excited about her DH teaching her kids to shoot pheasants illgally with real guns, and thought we might be impresssed with theri increased survival skillls should they happen to survive a plane crash with a gun that they had in their hadn luggage.
We didn't. Get excitied / impressed, that is.
So her DH called us thick tarts and she was bannned.

snafu · 01/03/2006 18:20

Oh, this old chestnut. Booooooring. Chiz chiz chiz.

(Only joking, of course. Welcome, new bugs Grin)

Blu · 01/03/2006 18:21

And before long you will be asking: Who was JudgeFlounce?

A notorious troll who purported to be a barrister, but astute legal MN-ers spotted that she was giving out dangerously innacurate advice. Other astute MN-er spotted that 'she' gave directions to somwhere by describing it 'as between the carphone warehouse and the Crown and Anchor', and therefore sussed her as a man.

After some wild accusations on MN 'she' was identified as probably being a male psychologist with a penchant for dubious posts on other sites!

alliebaba · 01/03/2006 18:21

i'm new.. i never talk to anyone or take the pi** out of them....

SorenLorensen · 01/03/2006 18:22

Lav's dh also reckoned women only breast-fed in public because they were closet lesbians and got a thrill out of flashing their norks. Nice man.

harpsichordcarrier · 01/03/2006 18:24

Shock sl reeeeeeeeeeally??

SorenLorensen · 01/03/2006 18:24

Oh yes. He was a real charmer.

Blu · 01/03/2006 18:25

alliebaba - lots of us don't take the piss - much - either!

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 01/03/2006 18:25

I sort of miss the Lavenderrrrrrr threads. Made for interesting reading on a Saturday afternoon.

Don't forget JF's dead son. We may never know the truth about that one Shock

Kathy1972 · 01/03/2006 18:25

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SorenLorensen · 01/03/2006 18:26

Actually I kind of miss some of lav's mad ideas. Like the notorious free fruit for people on benefits thread. People shouldn't be on benefits because look at Madonna - she's a big success and a multi-millionaire. Go out and be Madonna all you people on benefits.

poppadum · 01/03/2006 18:30

I seem to have missed all the interesting posters and argy-bargys on MN. Now my only hope is to pretend to be a Mothercare shopping, Burberry wearing, child modelling chav and piss the Codettes off.

spidermama · 01/03/2006 18:31

I've been here for slightly less than a year but I think old timers should be allowed to chat amongst themselves at times. Why not? Some of them share a history and know loads about each other and have been through stuff topgether.

I'm not sure anyone is knowingly unfriendly to newcomers are they?

harpsichordcarrier · 01/03/2006 18:34

this always seems such a strange question to me
like - why do people talk more readily to people they know than ot those they don't?
errrrrrrrrr
but fwiw I found mn extremely welcoming

MaloryTowers · 01/03/2006 18:35

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/03/2006 18:41

thanks mt
I think
another tip for you
you won't get people to like you by going "why is no-one talking to me????" in a whiny tone
as I realised when I was banned from yet another Mother and Toddler group Grin

MaloryTowers · 01/03/2006 18:41

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/03/2006 18:45
Grin mwah mwah MT
DumbledoresGirl · 01/03/2006 18:45

Some people do have the knack (whether deliberate or not) of being accepted and appearing like old timers with a few days of their first post. She won't agree with me I know, but WigWamBam is one of those (I was astonished to find she had joined after me) and Harpsi is another, as is Spidermama and welshboris. All of you joined after me and already seem like old timers.

DumbledoresGirl · 01/03/2006 18:46

within

alliebaba · 01/03/2006 18:46

your best bet as said before is stick your oar in and people will notice you.. it's not intentional that people are ignored.. ( i did it myself the other day, naughty baba) posts often cross, or bits get missed.. deal with it, and enjoy Grin

MaloryTowers · 01/03/2006 18:47

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