The fourth WIIT thread travels far and wide, with tales of new adventures to share.

[100years]

Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Just a v quickie, have uploaded a pic oh E and me taken earlier today on her half birthday.

I'll be back later to post properly, she's currently crawling everywhere and keeping me on my toes!

Oh E is goooorgeous. Honestly one of the prettiest babies I've seen. Wonderful eyes!

I want one

It's because she is a WIIT baby, they are all lush!

What are everyone's plans for this lovely weekend?

I am not allowed either & it's NOT FAIR!!

And what is worse Bebe is if they ever do bloody come round we'll have months of not feeling like it and stop hassling me whenever it's a peak time.

I already get that & we aren't even TTC!! I thought it was the woman who was supposed to 'have a headache'!?

Yeah I get that 90% of the time too.

Hey hey, how are we all?

I have another bloody headache. Is it my body saying ha ha you had hardly any while pregnant so now we are going to play catch up? And I can't even think about going back on preventatives yet. Bugger.

Quod, I'm glad that the funding thing doesn't seem as big an issue now with it being the final year. And a huge boo to AF. I didn't have a baby shower and never been to one either, so no idea on what to do.

bebe, your cakes as always look fabulous.

Strawberry, great news for your friend :)

Harpie, is your MURCOM still over? :(

minipie, yep that's right LO is 6 months and we are TTC. Well I say we are TTC, we are not using proper contraception, I am still BF, no idea if I am ovulating, but AF has been here twice. We do want another one, and really as soon as we can, it's all in the plan but you know what mother nature is like and it might not happen for ages, or it might happen really soon, either way we will be very happy. And if it never happens, then we love LO so much we will be happy just having her, but I think we both want a sibling for her deep down and would be a bit disappointed, but we're just going for it now in case it happens. And FWIW we have't used any contraception since 4 weeks! And I didn't think it was judgmental, just came across in shock :)

Thanks for the comments on E's pic. :) We think so too, and get lots of compliments on her, which obviously makes us very proud.

Hi 100years how is your head today? For once I am on the laptop (99% of the time I am only on my smartphone) so I can actually write a decent amount without it taking ten hours and my arm getting tired!

I'm so glad I get to hear about your babies and pregnancies on this thread, as otherwise I would be so left out of the whole business of parenthood. You'd think it would be great to be footloose and fancy free but the truth is that all my friends have children or babies now and are never able to come round or have me round to theirs anymore as they are always off doing family stuff or child stuff with other parents. I always thought that once all my friends had kids I'd at least get to spend a bit of time with other people's children but the reality is not like that. So it's great to hear what motherhood is like and how your LOs are coming along.

Having yet another boring pointless lazy weekend at home. Was planning to go to London to see Dsis, but my parents have been down there and everyone has had flu, so my parents are staying and we've been put back to next week again. DH and I went for a short walk yesterday afternoon, then I made some cupcakes, which I'm going to decorate this afternoon.

Just eight weeks to go to TBT, and I can't help but be stupidly hopeful that when we get back DH will agree to crack on with TTC. I know it's not a good idea with all the uncertainty hanging over me at work, but how much longer can we put it off for? Anyway trying to occupy myself with hotel bookings and schedules for the trip.

Annoyingly, DH is keen to spend almost all our time in the cities and has cancelled, or cut short a lot of the national park stopovers that I was keen on doing. This is annoying because if you remember, the reason we had to wait till May to do TBT and couldn't go last October was because that was the optimal time weather-wise to visit the national parks. Now he wants to cancel Bryce Canyon, Lake Powell and Mammoth Lakes. Shall I just book them?!

100 - How's the head today? Today is the first day I haven't had a headache in over a week, so you have my sympathies. x E is super scrummy, no wonder you get compliments on her, she is adorable :)

Harpie - Have you questioned him on why he has changed his mind on what he wants to do? I'd be tempted to book some of the things you orignially wanted to do if it were me.

DN's cake for those not on FB.

I'm feeling so tired today, DH & I were both falling asleep at 9pm last night & I practically passed out when I went to bed! Not sure why, maybe it was all the driving I did yesterday, or maybe it was all the hours standing decorating the cake catching up with me! Not sure what DHs excuse was!!

Not sure why the above came out as one big paragraph It didn't look like that when I typed it!!

Wow that cake is just incredible. I wish I lived a bit nearer to you so I could commission cakes off you all the time! What do you charge for something like that, out of interest? Can't believe what a lot of work you put in. Better get an early night!

I haven't asked why he's changed his mind about how we spend the trip because I know the answer. The only reason it was convenient to time the trip for the spring thaw in Yosemite was because at the time, May was a sufficiently comfortable time away in the future for TTC. As usual, now it's upon us, he needs a new reason for delay.

Not really sure what to charge. SIL paid for the bits I needed to buy, so essentially paid cost (ish, coz I had some stuff) So that was £20, but if I had to get everything it'd be closer to £30. And a friend of mine says she pays her staff (deli, where they make cakes) £6.40/hour, so going by that I'd have earnt £76.80 in hours, plus the £30 would be over £100. Just don't think I can charge that really. So won't even earn minimum wage!! The last cake that I made for a friend I charged her £40, which made me about £15 profit & I spent about 7-8hours doing it!! Tis a bit of a dilema, I'm sure that people usually charge £40 and upwards for birthday cakes so I'm not sure. Any ideas/input from all the WIITs would be appreciated!

Re TBT do you think asking him might make him feel uncomfortable? That might be a good thing! Make him realise you are on to him?!

I think £90 to £100 is probably about right for something very intricate like that. You could probably do it a bit quicker if you did it again I bet?

Why don't you take one of those photos and email it to a load of professional cake makers and say "I'm looking to buy something like this for my DS, how much would you charge?"

Hey harpie, getting on the computer is always a bonus, I find it difficult also to post much on the iPhone, but I try. I have a friend who has no kids, I don't think she wants them either, we actually see her a bit more now than we did before, whether that's because I'm not doing stupid shifts or what I don't know, but it's lovely to have her round. She loves E and always is amazed at how she is doing. Hope the cupcakes were nice. And Where is that damn Gruffalo, he seems to have been taking a very long nap recently, we need to wake him up obviously. If you want to do things then you should get the chance to do them too, it's a trip for both of you, not just him.

bebe, sorry to hear you have been all headachy too, they are horrible aren't they. Early nights are good though. And your cake is pretty amazing.

Re the headache, thanks for asking both of you. It seemed to be OK this morning, but then came back again early afternoon and has gone again now. I have very light blood so I think AF is here now which often can affect my heads.

Oh god a childhood friend has just emailed me a photo of her +pg test this will be her second child

Hugs harpie. :( For you.

:(

Took DD into preschool just as a mummy friend was picking up her little boy & taking her 5 day old baby in to show the kids! When I picked DD up later: 'Mummy, I really NEED a baby sister, it's very important!'

Sorry 100years that was very insensitive of me when you had just said you thought AF was starting. Are you feeling ok about it or are you disappointed?

Good point about the Gruffalo I hope he's not strayed onto someone else's thread. No doubt I will need him when DH and I get back from TBT. Bebe you sound like you need him as well. That's sweet about your DD but very for you.

Bloody hell Bebe no more gin for you!

All quiet in WIIT land?! Hope everyone is ok? x

Hugs for you bebe too, with your DD going on about needing a little sister. I hope you get the chance to give her a sibling soon.

harpie, don't worry, I'm a tough cookie :) Seriously though we are all in this together and I am happy to hear your stories and you will listen to mine, don't be afraid to say you are sad or at someone else being pg, I expect if I get a BFP you will be equally joyed and envious at the same time (though maybe a little less joy than me) it doesn't make you a bad person. I am fine with it(AF arriving), although it's taken an age to start properly, have had 4 or 5 days of spotting on and off for the proper bleeding to be starting now. We have a daughter, she is gorgeous and still very young, I have no idea if I even could get pg at the moment with the fact I'm still BF quite a lot, I'm enjoying life as it is at the moment, if I'm still waiting for that BFP in a year then I will probably be a little less well we'll see what happens than I am now, but I'm very lucky with what I have now. If that all makes sense. There wasn't that same disappointment I felt when I was TTC before I got pg when AF arrived.

I can hear pumpkin awake need to go sort her out, I might be back in a while, I might not, but

IT'S THE MASTERCHEF FINAL FINAL TONIGHT :)

I won't get to watch the final til tomorrow night at the earliest....NO spoilers pretty please?!?!?! :o

I'm really trying hard not to feel envious of any PG people, but I can't help it. I do obviously love DD, but I've been waiting to TTC #2 for nearly 3 years this is a bigger age gap than I ever would have wanted. She needs a playmate, somedays I hear her trying to get the cat to join in her games and it breaks my heart. Trouble is even if I get PG tomorrow she will be 4.6 & at school full time by the time the baby arrives, they are hardly likely to be close or good playmates! I'm considering speaking to my GP as somedays I do feel like I might actually be depressed, but I don't know if he'll take me seriously or if I am just imagining things. I have no patience at all, I get wound up so easily, I'm snappy & horrible most of the time. I can hear myself saying things (sort of out of body experience) and I just can't stop myself. I'm getting pretty tired of having to be nice & pretend that everything is ok when inside I feel like I'm falling apart. Just clinging on by my fingernails trying to hold things together for DH even though sometimes I really resent the situation we are in because of him & why can't we just have a baby? Then I end up beating myself up & feeling so guilty that DD should be enough, and that I should feel lucky to have her. I need a break from all the shit, but can't exactly run away!

Sorry for the rambling offload, just really struggling with about a million emotions! :(