The fourth WIIT thread travels far and wide, with tales of new adventures to share.

[100years]

Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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bebe, did you enjoy masterchef? Bebe, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so shite at the moment. I have been there, been depressed, felt like you are describing, I've been up and down several times, and I'll happily talk about it to people as I don't feel like it should be hidden. So if you want to PM me I will chat about things, obviously you might not want to post on here other stuff.

In other news, I've started a blog about life with the pumpkin anyone want the link?

I've just thought. I sound like I'm saying I too think you are depressed bebe, I can't obviously make that 'diagnosis' over 'tinernet, I was just saying I know how you feel. GP is good place to go to talk about it to see if they think you are and to discuss options, it's not always meds.

I simply don't know why you can't have a baby. It's completely shit and weird. DH and DD have a good relationship, you're a brilliant mummy, your lifestyle is geared around being a family and having DC, you've already got all the kit, your family back the idea, your DD is desperate for a sibling, it wouldn't cost that much. What's the frigging problem???!

You've every right to be feeling stressed and down after everything life's thrown at you and not being able to grow your family, and having to be the one holding it all together for everyone. I think people underestimate the stress of not being able to have a baby, when it's not fertility reasons. Get all the support you can. We're all here for you.

100years what's the link?

Thanks guys :)

100 - I didn't think you were diagnosing me!

Some days I can feel ok & then it'll all just hit me out of the blue. Have had a particularly low week, made worse by lack of sleep. (Having an insomniac phase) Seeing 2 mummies at school with their 2nd LOs & having to be all pleasant & interested without bursting into tears & then DD having a playdate with a friend whose mum is PG with her 2nd (& who wanted to talk to me about it & kept dropping it into the conversation) has taken alot of energy!! Sounds really pathetic, but AF is looming & I'm feeling all wobbly & emotional & tired! Hoping I'll snap out of it soon when the hormones all level back out again!

Must add, I don't feel all this :( about 'MN friends' or WIITs, don't want anyone thinking they can't talk about baby stuff! :o

100 - I'd like the link too :)

I do think it's much worse for you Bebe. I barely have any contact with babies and children, so it's not constantly rubbed in my face. And not having children has its advantages.

Bebe I've just been in a shop that does custom cakes to order - prices start from £70.

Aw bebe. Maybe it's different on here because you are 'choosing' to socialise here and know we'll be talking about babies. Whereas in the school playground or play dates you are thrust into those things with no preparation.

Certainly worth talking through things with someone proper. I had counselling, it really helped me.

I've pm'd the link to you both. But I've done it off the MN app so I'm hoping it worked. Not sure about putting the link in the thread yet till I've done a little more or feel more confident about what I'm writing.

Cross post there. Mmmmm cake.

My sis makes cakes. I can ask her what she charges of you want me to.

Harpie - Interesting about cake. 2 websites I've looked at have said prices start from £40 & £50. It does just depend how complicated I guess.

100 - Blog is looking (and sounding) good! :) She's so adorable!
Please do ask your sister, I'm trying to get a good idea so as I can price things competitively but also realistically!

Thanks for all your kind words, I'm feeling a bit better today despite it all!

Although our living room light went bang this morning & now isn't working (we had to being our only lamp downstairs) and now in the heavy rain our back door is leaking & there was a pool of water all over the floor! Oh the joys of an old house!

Took DD to her first drama class/group today. She's such a superstar I'm mega proud of her! The teacher said she was really good, listened & joined in with everything. They don't usually start until 4, she's not 4 til August! :o SO proud!!

Sorry to hear you are feeling down bebe. Have you spoken to DH about how you are feeling? I bet you have kept it to yourself to avoid putting any pressure on him as you are such a kind person but FWIW I think it would be a good thing.

Edith is lovely 100! good luck with the food- we will be taking a baby led approach too (well we are letting her play with food already and she is having a bit of a chew then spitting most out again!) I figure if she can pick up the food, chew then swallow it on her own then she is old enough to have it (within reason) 5 months old tomorrow, unreal how fast it has gone!

Any news on the job front LWH?

I think the right person won Masterchef. Is anyone watching Homeland?

Hope all the new WIIT mummies have had a lovely first Mother's Day with their LOs :)

I got some perfume that I wanted & a homemade card that DDs preschool staff had sent through the post! Tesco & MIL put a bit of a dampner (sp?) on the day but that's a long story!

Strawberry, you are right, I haven't told DH...I probably ought to...I more than likely won't, unless I have to! (That decision is based on what MIL has done today :()

I was very pleased with the Masterchef result, I'd been saying to DH for ages that I thought she was going to win. Although I always had a soft spot for Andrew! :o He was like a little pixie person! :o

Just quickly logging in to wish those of you who are a happy Mothers Day! In transit at the airport and waiting for my flight home...

Oh no! What has the dreaded MIL done Bebe???

100years it's a lovely idea to do a blog and record all the special moments with DD. All the family and your friends will be able to keep up to date. Keep them coming!

Hooray for your DD Bebe and her drama skills! It's amazing when you start to see where their talents lie. My friend's little girl has got the most amazing voice and sings professionally, which is unprecedented in the family. It's do strange to see a young woman you've known from a baby suddenly on the stage doing this incredible performance. Did DH come good with the perfume gift? Sorry to hear MIL upset you.

Strawberry it's just ticking along at the moment. I'm not as stressed out as I was but I don't know how long it will last. Ideally it would all come good obviously but if not the longer I can string it along without making and boobs the better for my CV.

When is E 6 months? So much time has passed since we were all waiting!

Quod how was your flight?

On the positive side all this stress has knocked my cycle out by 10 days, which means slightly longer to wait to TTC but no danger of missing out on maternity pay if I fall first month. Now I just have to convince DH!

How was the flight Quod?

Strawberry - It's all a bit over complicated to explain. MIL has mental health issues which means often she can be a complete cow (I know it's not her fault...well it is, sort of, she stopped taking her meds...again) but on Sunday she was absolutely poisonous to DH on the phone & reduced him to tears. :(

Harpie - Good news about the maternity pay! Fingers crossed.

Got a week of cupcake hell (it's the wedding job on Sat) and I have about 136 to make! (Done some yesterday, now in freezer)

Kitten went to vets yesterday...snippety snip! Mwaaahahahahahahahaa So he is feeling sorry for himself & not his usual under-my-feet-tearing-around-scratching-biting-generally-naughty self!

Anways...back to the cupcakes!

I wish DH would agree to out cat being snipped. He's been quite aggressive towards MIL, resulting in her not wanting to look after him for us. I feel sorry for the poor little guy anyway he must feel frustrated.

Had to get Woody done, he smells so bad & is scratching everything (marking terriotory) would only have been a matter of time before he started spraying everywhere! If your DH goes away for a few days just get it done & the cat would be fine by the time he got back & he probably wouldn't notice!! :o Unless he makes a habit of examining the cats balls?! DH thinks I'm a meanie & doesn't 'approve' but I personally think it's necessary for us, especially with another male (neutered) cat in the house!

Ours scratches everything constantly and this is another reason MIL is rethinking the arrangement to look after him, particularly as she has a new suite on order. Don't cats scratch anyway? He doesn't spray, otherwise we'd have had him done by now. He's coming up to 18 months old.

DH would go absolutely loopy if I did that btw, he is madly deeply head over heels in love with the cat

Cats do scratch but IMO they are worse before snippity snip!! You can train them to only scratch specific things. (Although all of ours have wrecked the sofa in the dining room, but don't touch any of the others ) Woody is a git though, he scratches the rug, and has ripped lining paper off the walls in the kitchen! It helps calm them down a bit too, no more raging hormones! (At 18months he's pretty much a cat teenager!)

Is he vaccinated? Could you put him in a cattery?

MIL has never not given in to DH yet, I'm not worried she might start now.