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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Thanks bebe, yeah I have heard that about banana

Bebe I'm watching that programme now, it's very moving indeed.

You'll have to post a pic of the cakes, they sound amazing.

100 sorry E is under par, though weaning sounds like loads of fun!

Well, one of the girls in my company announced her pg today and for the first time I realised I feel a bit jealous as well as excited for her - not a nice way to feel :(

Had some really bad news re my PhD funding today, looks like it might end before I have a chance to complete, as my 'writing up' year isnt covered by my funding agreement - so stupid!! I'm trying to find out of there's anything else I can do, as there's no way I can afford the fees for the writing up year otherwise, plus support myself. Really worrying and upsetting to think I'm so close to finishing - 3 yrs work - but have this massive obstacle in the way of getting my qualification and completing!

Just dropping in really quickly

Coconut & Pineapple cucpakes

I'll be back later but I need to finish off the 'sorting hat' cake topper I've made for a friend.

Quod - is there no other additional/alternative funding that you might be able to take out to help? x

AMAZING! Wow, bebe - I just had a look at some of your other flikrstream, you are SO talented. Love the Yoda cake!

Have found out that the fees are reduced for the writing up year so hundreds rather than several thousand pounds, phew! Would have been nice if I'd been told that info to save the blind panic. Still waiting to hear about the maintenance grant. I really don't want to have to take out any sort of loan, as my PhD isn't really a stepping-stone to higher earnings that would justify that. Also, I don't want to accrue any debt before we start looking for a mortgage. Crossing fingers. As you say, that Marine doc last night really puts things in perspective.

AF is on its way in today, booooooooooooo!
I'm going to have to find time to talk to DP on our trip about whether we have another go next month or whether we hold off now until both of us feel a bit more on stable footing, which feels in my gut like the right thing to do.

Bebe those are really lovely! Quod's right, you're so talented. I take it nothing more has been said about Australia? Your DH must at least be cheered to be asked? I know I would be.

Quod good news about the fees, if not the maintenance. I thought it seemed a bit much to charge thousands when all you were doing was writing up. Sorry to hear AF is on her way. It seemed so promising! Are you very upset?

Thanks Quod! The Yoda cake was for DH, he's a sci fi geek!!

Good news about the fees

X posts, I'm on phone, I'll try and catch up later

Your cakes look perfect Bebe! I love the cupcake bouquet in the flower pot!

Bad news about AF Quod, why the change of heart about next month? Because of the phd funding? You've got to do what feels right.

I have just found out one of my best friends is pregnant! So excited!

Any news re CV LWH?

Ooh that's exciting news about your friend! Have you been let in on the secret early or is she about 12 weeks? It's great when your friend's take the plunge so you can share the experience. If only one of DH's friends would get the baby bug. MURCOM over I'm afraid!

Haven't done anything else about getting a new job. Just burying my head in the sand.

Thanks for the support you lot. Yes, I'm a bit disappointed, but I feel like if it's going to happen, I'd rather it's when DP is fully behind it with his mind as well as his heart, and in all honesty I don't feel like that time is too far away. We've had a chat about things and I think we're going to put TTC on hold for a few months - as it is I'd be risking MS at my most busy time if we conceived next month, and then I really can't afford to be ill/off work/not on form til mid-July as it's when I'm in charge and if I'm not there things will seize up. So I reckon we'll start TTC again in June. The other advantage of that would be that there's a strong chance I could finish my PhD before a baby arrived, which would at this late stage be much better than breaking right near the end. It's very strange to think that I started the PhD 3 years ago thinking that I would definitely take Maternity Leave during it, and yet here we are. But we are where we are, so just got to get on with it. And in a few months things could be really different, as DP and I both come to the end of very important/stressful phrases in our lives.

My sister has decided to have a baby shower! So I can get really excited about that in the meantime. What do people do at baby showers?! I've never been on one. Anyone got any tips for making it AMAZING?

You can only take one step at a time Harpie, don't beat yourself up! What sort of notice do you have to give? Would you feel better if you handed your notice in or do you want to hang on until you have something concrete to move onto? Or are you considering giving your current job another chance?

My friend is only 8 weeks so it's a bit hush hush for the moment but I am so happy for her! She was in the position of pitting off TTC until careers, health and house were sorted and she was quite worried about her fertility. Turns out everything was fine as she became upduffed within a few months of TTC.

Are any of OHs friends anywhere near having Children LWH?

Sorry Quod x-posted. I have never been to one but I have heard rumours of guess the flavour of baby food type party games. I would imagine a mocktail making competition might go down better :)

A game of putting a nappy on a doll, bathing a doll, feeding a doll etc whilst blindfolded was played by a friend versus her husband at hers.

I had a BBQ with friends/family instead of a proper baby shower, but the 'proper' one I went to we played a game where chocolate bars had been melted into nappies and you had to sniff/lick to identify what type of chocolate bar it was. SO gross, but very funny. Also I've seen people (on telly) do a game where all the guests are asked to provide a baby picture beforehand & they are displayed on a board (numbered) & everyone has to guess who each baby is! A friend of mine went away on a spa trip with a couple of friends & her sisters for a pre mummy treat instead of a baby shower.

Hello everyone! It's been a long time since I was on this thread but just wanted to pop in to say CONGRATULATIONS to SPR! Saskia is a lovely name. Can't believe you have an actual baby!

Best of luck to Quod and 100 with the ttcing. I'm going a leetle bit crazy after 10 months ttc with no joy but hopefully will happen soon. On the plus side, DH is now fully on board with the TTCing and is even genuinely disappointed when I get AF each month

Is Ms Cooper around at all ?

And wtf is MURCOM?!

Minipie!!!! it's nice to see you back on the thread. I have changed my name to give myself an air of mystery but I'm still the same old AC with endless FOF trouble. The MURCOM (can't actually remember what it stands for but it means when your DP finally sees the TTC light) was short-lived.

Hello AC!! that air of mystery is working, I didn't recognise you at all

oh dear... your DH still being an eejit then?

MURCOM... hmmm... Male Unexpected R... Change Of Mind? (can't work out the R)?

Minipie!!! :o Welcome back!!

Think MURCOM was Male Unprecidented Rapid Change of Mind (I think, not sure)

I'm SO tired, SIL asked me last night to make a cake for DN for his 3rd Birthday party...which is Saturday! A little more notice would have been good, especially since I'm still feeling crappy! So am up to my eyeballs in fondant & haven't sat down all afternoon. Legs are now throbbing & have pins & needles, or 'poodles and needles' as DD calls them! :o

Hey minipie, thanks :) Nice to see you in here and sorry you are still waiting for a BFP. Have done a quick ctrl + F search (apple computers are ACE) and have found the original post it was by Quod who invented the phrase MURCOM in December :) Male Unpredicted Rapid Change Of Mind

Pumpkin is 6 months tomorrow. Aaargh. Weaning starts then! BLW to be precise so not sure how much she will get in to start with.

Ooh what a lovely welcome! I should go away more often

hold on a tick... 100 you have a 6 month old and are ttcing again? wow that is brave. I've got a friend who has a 21 month old and a newborn and that looks like seriously hard work (and she has a daily mothers help). Mind you, she has read that age gap of 18 to 24 months is the worst, so I guess if you get updiffed now yours would only be a gap of 15 months which I can see might be better in many ways.

I was nearly there on the MURCOM meaning then!

bebe your cakes, as ever, look amazing

WHY WON'T HE JUST LET ME HAVE A BABY?????

I am now past the point where I could give birth to my first child before age 35. I am already eleven years older than my mother was when she had me. Fucking stupid wankers on another thread banging on about how "selfish" I must be. I need to get a tshirt that says "I'd have had a baby years ago but my husband's determined to have me birth on the geriatrics ward".

sorry for the rant. Ovulating.

Thought I'd counteract the lovely welcome with some OV rage, MP. Got to keep you on your toes!

I think the rage is utterly justified AC

100 sorry if my post sounded judgmental - wasn't meant to be! just thinking aloud really.

I am sure you have a good degree of rage as well, particularly if it has taken your DH all this TTCing to get fully on board with TTC. What are they like?!

To be fair to him, once I had a few strops in the first couple of months of TTCing, he stopped expressing doubts and cooperated fully even when I demanded 2am SWI because the pee stick said yes. But it's only recently that he's expressed any actual enthusiasm about the idea of me being pg and having a baby.

Sad, isn't it, that I should be made happy by the fact DH is finally getting enthusiastic. Other women have DHs who are enthusiastic from the start. But I have had to be satisfied with mere acquiescence