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The fourth WIIT thread travels far and wide, with tales of new adventures to share.

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100years · 17/09/2011 13:00

Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Awayinamangercooper · 10/02/2012 13:24

Sorry Bebe, I cross posted then and have since been in work. That's appalling about your DH - presumably it was a competitor? God I'd hate to be involved in a business as cutthroat as that. Is it a sign of the times or was it always this way?

I think I am going to have to tell work. I can't get union advice till next month as I only just joined and you have to wait four weeks to use any of the services. They have really positive equalities policies here, which suggests disclosure needn't be the nail in the coffin for my job.

Going to see my grandma this afternoon for some cheering up.

bebejones · 10/02/2012 15:22

We have our suspiscions about who it could be, but can't prove anything! DH has taken it so personally & is really low. We are having a chinese tonight to try & cheer ourselves up.

I think it's a good idea to tell work. If you do something wrong that could possibly be because of the ADHD then they surely would be less likely to fire you?! [clueless] (Haven't put that very well, finding it really hard to structure sentances at the moment, just can't think of the words...apparently this is an MS thing Hmm I think it's a sign that I'm getting old Wink)

Hope you have a lovely time with your Grandma, they do have a knack of cheering a person up don't they!! :o

Awayinamangercooper · 10/02/2012 17:31

They do indeed! A big plate of egg and chips, lots of cups of tea and confusing anecdotes about people called Doris and Vera later and I'm feeling much better. My cousin dropped by as well which was nice as I hadn't seen him in ages and he gave me a lift to the station - bonus!

Enjoy your Chinese. Hope it does the trick!

bebejones · 10/02/2012 18:04

Chinese was shut! :( Had chips....but not award winning ones! Wink

Glad GrandmaCooper cheered you up :)

Quodlibet · 10/02/2012 19:46

We're about to have chips! Over at my sisters admiring her bump.
AC, sorry to hear about the ADHD. But then a diagnosis is the first step to things starting to improve hopefully?

Awayinamangercooper · 10/02/2012 19:51

Hi Quod! How's the bump coming on?

Quodlibet · 10/02/2012 19:51

We're about to have chips! Over at my sisters admiring her bump.
AC, sorry to hear about the ADHD complicating everything. But hopefully a diagnosis is the first step to things starting to improve?

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100years · 10/02/2012 19:56

bebe, I know, time goes far too quickly. Really sorry to hear about what's happened for your DH. That really sucks, and having an idea of who it is doesn't make it any easier.

AC (((((un MN hugs))))) Why do you put you wouldn't be able to keep DH? How has he been with it?I think telling work is a good idea, because they will at least have an idea of things and will possibly be a little more understanding. When do you start on the meds?

Quod, is she growing a bump already?

Got E weighed this morning, 13lb12, a little thing still, not yet double birth weight. She's doing so much, keeping us on our toes! Got a jumperoo delivered yesterday, BIG HIT :)

Doing 30 day shred and feeling the effects after just 2 days of it.

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Awayinamangercooper · 10/02/2012 21:08

I just worry that the dynamics of our relationship could change if my career is gone, I feel like my job's part of who I am.

Awayinamangercooper · 10/02/2012 21:08

What is the 30 day shred?

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100years · 10/02/2012 21:47

AC I totally understand how you feel about your job being part of who you are. When I had to stop working on the road I felt like I'd stopped doing what I was supposed to do and even now I don't feel like I know what I want job wise. I know when I go back to work it's sitting at a computer taking calls and helping that way, but I'm a hands on helper and so I have lost part of me. I try not to dwell on what happened, but there are times when it really really bothers me and in a way I'd love to turn back time, but otoh I wouldn't as I don't know if I'd have what I have now (a family) if I was still doing what I was doing, as life's little great things happen at the times when you least expect them. On phone so I've tried to condense it to make sense more.

30 day shred seen some amazing results from people I know who've done it, I want to firm up my baby belly.

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bebejones · 10/02/2012 22:02

I was doing 30 day shred before I hurt my hip (bursitis) & just never got back into it Blush Wouldn't be able to do alot of it at the moment with my dodgy back but does really work!

Quod - Hope you have a lovely time with your sister & her bump :)

AC - Totally makes sense about your job being part of your identity. How has your DH taken things?

Awayinamangercooper · 11/02/2012 08:46

DH isn't bothered. He says it's just my latest fad and that I'm always getting obsessed with things and then moving on to the next thing. He hasn't of course given any thought to the meds affecting TTC. And I couldn't possibly say to my boss in March "well I've got this problem but this is the answer" and then three months later stop the medication for nine months to have a baby.

Awayinamangercooper · 11/02/2012 08:50

100years I'm really embarrassed to say I can't remember what you were doing before and how to came to give it up. I'm glad it's not just me though, I feel it's fundamentally selfish to prioritise career, as if it's just a neutral income source.

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100years · 11/02/2012 16:25

Bebe, I can see how it does work, I'm feeling it after 2 days, looking forward to carrying on with it in a weird way.

AC I used to work as an ambulance woman, but had an accident and so was finished from working on the road and now work taking calls for them and processing 999 calls. It's not really what I enjoy, I'm more of a hands on type of carer. Re not knowing if I would be where I am now if I was still on the road, it's a lot more complicated than that, being on the road wouldn't have stopped me trying for a family, but my circumstances changing (through not working on the road) meant that I was in the right place at the right time and met my OH now and things have been wonderful. Had I been on the road, I don't know if I would have had the chance to meet my OH. There is more to it than that, but I fear I may be outing myself too much in a public forum if I post it all. I am happy to tell you in private if you are more interested. Things happen for a reason, and aside from the fact I don't feel fulfilled in my work anymore the rest of my life is pretty good.

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strawberrypie · 12/02/2012 20:39

Is there any way you could go back to your original role at some point 100, or is it out of the question? Or a more hands-on role but with no driving eg in a hospital or health centre? Well done on the running btw! OH and I went to the park run at Heaton Park this Saturday but it was cancelled due to ice!

How are you doing AC?

Karma will get the person who is causing you problems Bebe- I don't believe in fate etc but I really think people who do bad things attract negativity in their own lives and end up unhappy. I really hope things pick up soon x

bebejones · 14/02/2012 19:49

Happy Valentine's day to all my lovely WIITs, love you guys! :o

Thanks and Wine for everyone xxx

Awayinamangercooper · 15/02/2012 09:41

Bloody hell 100years that's awful. I'm glad there's been a silver lining for you in meeting your lovely OH. Everything seems a bit bleak to me at the moment. At least I got a clean bill of health at the dentist just now! My rubella test was fine, my smear was fine. I should be all ready to go.

Awayinamangercooper · 15/02/2012 14:45

I would like to hear the rest of the story by the way.

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100years · 15/02/2012 15:05

Strawberry, I don't know if I could, it's long and complicated, I would need to be retrained as though I was a new - never done it before - person, which obviously means taking time out, it's now a uni degree, whereas I did in service training and time on the job as a trainee. It's not the driving that's the problem, it's the patient handling and lifting, e.g. carrying a pt down a flight of stairs. I think I may need an op to right the problem I have, then do I risk putting myself in a situation where I could get injured again, I just don't know. It's something I miss terribly, but I'm not sure I could do it again. Hmm. And the thing is I don't really know what I want to do with my life work wise anymore. Didn't realise where you were in the country, I know that area a bit as my sister used to live near Heaton Park, the ILs live not far away, I might be in contact with you when we are going there one weekend and see if you want to meet up and do the park run, don't have to run it together as we will probably be different paces, but could say hi.

Aw, bebe, thanks, happy valentines to you too. How did your cupcakes turn out?

Thanks AC. Ace for all your clean bills of health. Keep positive about everything and it will come right in the end :)

30 day shred is so far going well, having a rest day today, not doing it every single day, I figure I need to ease into it seeing as E is still less than 6 months, got to not do too much on my body. Plus I'm still going out for runs and walks so I'm not just doing it.

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100years · 15/02/2012 15:06

AC, slight cross posting (didn't refresh the screen after starting typing and fed E in the process) I will mail you.

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strawberrypie · 15/02/2012 16:23

Great idea about meeting up 100, we can have a coffee in the cafe afterwards, anyway!

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100years · 15/02/2012 16:36

Excellent stuff :) I'll let you know when we're coming up next.

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Awayinamangercooper · 15/02/2012 16:54

Ooh can I come just for the coffee afterwards?!

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100years · 15/02/2012 17:01

Yay :) Of course :) It's not too far for you either.

Maybe we should just meet for cake and drinks Wink

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