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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Blimey you two! Bit deep & thoughtful for a Frday night wasn't it?!!?

Motherhood is not something you prepare for because you can't! I was the least maternal one of all my friends but did just take to it. (Much to everyones surprise) But I'm not really a clingy, over-protective, baby talk type of mother. Everyone does it differently, so 'preparing' to do things the way you think they need to be done just doesn't work. (IMO) You just find your own way, do what works for you & figure it out as you go along. You don't have to be highly strung & constantly on top of your game even though you are constantly 'on duty'. Chill out guys, enjoy the ride!! Yes, it doesn't stop but life doesn't stop either does it?! Being a parent just adds another dimension. Some days it might seem relentless, but it passes. Take it from someone with a pre-schooler, they don't stay small forever, you can start to let your guard down & it IS rewarding. I look at things DD does & am immensly proud of what I have achieved...I taught her to speak, to walk, to count, to write her name, to use the toilet!!! I bask in the accomplishment of that...especially when I don't have to change a nappy & DD happily trots off to the toilet on her own! Job well done!!

Pep talk over! :o

Right, so anyone doing anything lovely this weekend. Make me with your plans of fabulousness!!

Hey Bebe! Well so far this weekend I've stayed in Friday night and gone to bed, then today DH (hungover) had me drive up to this little village in the snow, I thought to dine out, turned out it was just so he could get fish and chips at an "award winning" chippy. Then went to two different supermarkets, both packed, and then to MIL's. Just got home ten times more stressed that when we set out! What about you? Practising more pep talks to keep Quod and I on track?!

SPR where are you? Are you five weeks to take off???

Well I managed to bully myself into doing my planned run and so have COMPLETED 5km! Hurrah for me. Now just trying to decide if I should celebrate with a nice pint this evening, and break my 2012 booze abstinence!

Bebe you never told us that potty training had been conquered, you should take after me and brag about your achievements more.

I reckon Bebe should write a pragmatic parenting book. Complete with recipes.

We've been on snow watch all day, got about 1cm...not nearly enough in my books!

Award winning chippy sounds interesting, was it any good?

Quod well done on the running, most impressed! Have a Gold star! :o

Potty training has been conquered a while now...and dry at nights too! (mostly) Hurrah! :o There is a little boy at DDs preschool who starts school with her in Sept who is still very much in nappies (older than DD as she is the youngest) and he is showing no signs of willingness to cooperate with the efforts of his parents or the staff! No idea what they'll do if he's still in nappies come September!

Have often thought of writing a 'If I can do it, anyone can' sort of book. But there's not really much more I can say than that. I have no pearls of wisdom, or method at all. Have written a children's book, but need to do the illustrations & I have no idea how to go about getting it published!

DH is watching the rugby & getting aggitated. DD is taking an age to eat her dinner...45mins and counting! We are being bad & having dinner in the living room as the dining room is too cold!

Ooh a children's book? It might be worth you sending it to publishers as just the text, as a friend of mine who's done just that (and now had a publishing deal) was telling me they quite often like to be prescriptive about the illustrations - but then she was glad to get an illustrator on board as she can't draw!. I think there's a publication still called the Writers yearbook or something like that which will list all publishers that will accept unsolicited submissions for children's literature. I might have some web links that could be helpful, shall I send them over?

Quod that is so helpful, thank you! I keep meaning to do some digging & find out what to do, but it always gets put to the bottom of the 'to do list'!

I know what I want my main character to look like & I've drawn her, but not done anything else really. It's just a short story (think picture book for DDs sort of age) and it rhymes. (Sort of!)

AF appeared today bang on target. Somehow being at the start of a cycle feels a lot better than being at the end of one though! And a month not conceiving is another month of my life I get to have my lovely DP all to myself - funny to think there might not be that many of them left.

Who's got good snow? Here in London we had a fall last night but it is already annoying drippy wet slush.

Don't talk to me about snow!! :( We had a pitiful amount & then it rained so this morning we had frozen slush, ice & freezing fog! YUK!! :( My mum has 4" & couldn't get her car off her drive!

Sorry bout AF Quod, although you seem fairly positive about it. Enjoy your couple time, you won't realise how precious it is until it's gone!

I suppose we've got "good" snow, we've certainly got a lot of it. I am not a fan though!

Can't vouch for the award winning chippy, all I got was a bag of chips not even any salt and vinegar on them. DH said his fish was good.

Sorry AF arrived, Quod. Hope you're not too disappointed.

Hey everyone. Boy you lot have been busy since my last visit.

Well AF got me again :( boo hiss, 16 day cycle, that sucks, and it was heavy as it was the one before. So more getting jiggy this month.

Masterchef, do you think they didn't kick anyone out because of the fact they knew the "I know how to cook a curry and no one can criticise me" woman was leaving? (ooh conspiracy, they need x episodes)

Strawberry, just carry on as you can and hopefully you won't have many people saying things about it.

Quod, sorry AF got you. :( I would say we are on similar dates, but given the shortness of this last cycle I have no idea when the next one will be. I had 35 in my head for having a baby by! So I know what you mean about age. Brill brill stuff on the run :) And seriously, don't they say that DTD twice a day everyday is not as good as a little break between DTD? Sperm needs to build back up or something.

Bebe, any more delicious muffins made? Congrats to your friend. Hey, look into the book thing, we could say we knew you when :)

AC, hope your DH was pleased with the snow, has he been a big kid in it? Sorry you feel that bad about your job that you are worried you will keep it.

OMG, that book sounds positively ghastly. Not like something that rings true for me. For me, being a mother is something I have found (so far) wonderful, rewarding, hard (in a good way) enjoyable and I think it's what I've been waiting for. I don't have a shock of motherhood, I don't live on the edge of stress and exhaustion (yes I'm tired, but I'm good on it most of the time) I can articulate positive things I do, and I don't find it a hurdle. I could gush and gush about how fabulous it's been so far, and yes I know that things will not always be easy or chilled, but I think it does have something to do with how you approach it. I just see how well LO is getting on with things and think, wow, she's really learning new things and I love that, and knowing each day will bring something different, and that I'm teaching her things, for me it's the BEST THING EVER

Well LO has come down with her first proper proper cold, started mid week, and carried on over the weekend, she sounds like she has a hoarse/sore throat too, we've had a few nights of screaming from her, which has been awful for her. And she ended up sleeping on me for 3 nights, last night I propped the end of her cot mattress up from underneath and she (thankfully) slept in there. Poor little thing, and she is still poorly with it. Had to cancel going to the first party she had been invited to :(

She's also crawling, although it's not a conventional crawl, she can definitely get to where she wants to get to now, and the laminate isn't really stopping her get there either! OMG, on the watch out now for everything.

I've also come down with the cold LO has, as has OH, so we're a bit lurgified in this house. :(

Hmm, I'm sure there is other stuff, but I need to try and put E to bed, and given how poorly she is it's not as settled as normal.

100years sorry to hear you and LO are poorly. It can't be nice seeing her unwell and not able to understand what's going on.

No DH has not been out frolicking in the snow, he is complaining that it is melting though. Must just be an aesthetic thing!

Three months today till TBT! Can you believe it?

3 months, weyhey :) Not long now :)

Yeah, poor thing has been remarkably chirpy in the day considering she sounds like darth vader most of the time, she also sounds like her throat is bad, but come the evenings she is not a happy bunny.

I can't believe she's crawling already! Where does the time go? It doesn't seem like two minutes since you were waiting to TTC.

And I can't believe that your DD is so grown up, Bebe. Thank goodness I have some down to earth "normal" people to tell me how it is, not just these crazy books!

Oh Quod I nearly forgot: well done on the 5k! I don't think I'm going to get there tbh, running's not my cup of tea.

Well done on the 5k run Quod! Sorry about AF, next month will be be better when you have got the timings right. I have an image in my mind of you using a pointer to highlight pertinent points on a FF graph with your OH looking a bit worried!

Sorry about your AF too 100, hope your cycles even out soon. Thanks for the info on contraception, I must have the same
leaflet as you-I found that bit about not using a dummy interesting. My LO does not have one but like E she sucks her hands.

AC stop torturing yourself by imagining parenthood to be some kind of horrific nightmare! Put the mad books down and just do it without thinking too much then be glad you did when you look at your LO for the first time! Sorry for ranting but I promise you it will be better than you could have imagined when you get your baby. The next 3 months will fly by!

How are things going Bebe? How is your OH doing at the moment?

I know AC it seems mad. She's 5 months on Thursday. Time is flying by. Last Friday put me at halfway through my maternity leave it's going way too quickly.

Thanks strawberry. I hope they even out too, got not idea when the next one will be. You seem like you too are getting on fab with motherhood.

Never rains but it pours! Don't think the Universe wants me to ever have another child! :( DHs work is so crap!!

100 - Cannot believe Edith is 5months already!! How did that happen?!

Supposed to have snow here tonight, it is raining!! :(

It's pouring here too Bebe, I just didn't know whether to say. You know all the work problems I've had? Well it seems I have the neurological disorder ADHD. I'm on the waiting list to see a consultant psychiatrist for medication and just hoping it gets sorted enough and in time for me to keep my job. Naturally the medication cannot be taken during pregnancy, or while breastfeeding, so probably won't be able to both keep my job (and DH?) and have a baby.

OMG AC!!!! How & when did you find this all out?! What has DH said? Is he being supportive? Have you told work? Fingers crossed the medication will help. Are they going to give you some emotional support as well? xx

AC At least you know what is wrong and it can be sorted. Try not to think about how it affects TTC and just concentrate on getting better for now then you can approach TTC from a good place and there is bound to be a way to make it work. Keep your chin up, we know you are a very strong person (((((hugs)))))))

Bebe hopefully in a few months (years?) we can look back on this difficult period and think "thank God that's over!" There has got to be an end to it at some point!

I agree ^ AC, try not to think about how it will affect TTC. They (doctors etc) will have been there before & will have strategies (sp?) (it's early!!) for coping/controlling. Knowing what's wrong now will hopefully mean that things start to work themselves out & improve for you. xx

Thanks guys, why on earth I didn't tell you sooner I don't know. I haven't told work, not sure if I should tell them now or hold off until I have a full diagnosis and a report - which could be months. I've joined the Union, so hopefully they can give me some advice.

I've made an appt to see a counsellor, because it's pretty overwhelming and my family are all preoccupied with my sister's spinal surgery, so I don't want to burden them when there's nothing they can do.

Bebe I think our wait to TTC is going to be way longer than either of us ever anticipated. Hope you're ok xx

You silly thing, you! You should have told us, there might not be much we can do, but it helps to unload onto someone & have a friendly ear to listen!! :)

Hope you don't have to wait too long. If it was me, I would tell work. Not least because if they know that problems you are having are due to a medical condition they might be inclined to be a bit more forgiving (maybe) and also would cover yourself IYSWIM? But then I guess it depends on what you do, the job etc. See what the Union say.

DH is having a really shitty time at work. A new client he had have withdrawn their contract 2 weeks before project was launched properly, due to an anonymous & slanderous letter sent to their CEO about DH. It wasn't going to be a big earner, (but might have led to other things) but DH is devastated that someone clearly has it in for him. He had invested alot of time and energy into this deal. Plus his company are out of pocket for works & preparations for this client. All a big mess. So the run of bad luck continues & I look forward to another weekend of him moping around the house under a dark cloud & snapping at everyone. :( Lord alone knows when we will ever TTC. DD is asking everyday for a baby sister (she has now decided she doesn't want a brother!) and keeps telling all her teachers 'Daddy is going to get me a baby sister'...not sure where she thinks he is going to 'get' one from!! :o

Strawberry I only heard that about dummies recently, I could never understand why my mum was so anti - and I think she's either forgotten the reason or didn't really know at the time, just knew there was some issue iyswim? I can fill her in!