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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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I've had a lovely weekend! Hanging out with the girls while DP was away, then a film with DP this morning and catching up with 4 different couples/babies this pm, including meeting our friend's newborn who I got to sit and hold for an hour - she is gorgeous and it definitely made me VERY broody. DP has been asked today to be godparent for another friends' daughter which is very sweet and he is very touched.

AC what are you finding boring - the walking or the running? Are you doing it on a treadmill (dullorama) or outside?

Bebe what kind of cake did you make your DH?

On a treadmill. It's minus one degrees out there, with ice on the ground!

Quod, glad you didn't do too much, just build it up slowly. They say, never build up more than 10% more than your previous week, and always have a week where you do the same as the previous week every few weeks. So e.g. week one 3 miles, week two 3.3 miles, week three 3.7 miles, week four 3.7 miles, week five 4 miles. I've used low numbers, but I think you get my drift. also never increase your speed more than 10% faster than the previous week. Good news on the TTC this next month, even if it looks like low odds, always good to give it a go.

AC, yep treadmill running is BORING, a lot of people I know call it the dreadmill!

Bebe, yeah, feeding has been pretty good this weekend :) occasional soreness, but lot less than there was. Sorry you've got a cold from DD. I have now got over mine :)

LO is now rolling like mad everywhere, over and over she goes, no leaving her for a minute or two on the mat, she'd be out the room!!! She seems to need a bit more interaction now, as she gets more frustrated with things being out of reach, but I enjoy playing with her. She's really really grown, she looks massive now, yet she's only about 13lbs, but I can see how big she has got, not so long ago that she was weeny tiny.

I usually set the treadmill to its steepest incline and walk uphill at a fast pace, which is compatible with MN, Facebook, etc.!

Running on a treadmill is easier anyway, I can run 1.5km on the treadmill before getting bored but if I try to run 500m to the shop I collapse in a panting, wheezing heap halfway.

Oh sigh DH is back to not wanting DC at all. He says with every week that passes he feels his life is slipping away and the weekends between now and then are all he's got left and he's being pushed in a direction he doesn't want. Pretty impressive turnaround time for DH who usually waits until just before the TTC deadline before he does his u turn.

I had really hoped that me getting this new job would make a difference but it doesn't seem to have. Don't need you to say anything we've been through this enough times now, ad nauseum. Just feel better for writing it down and telling somebody.

Oh man alive AC, that sucks again :( I know you don't need us to say anything, but hugs for you.

AC he needs to stop only thinking about himself and get a f***g grip. I don't know how you cope emotionally with this, I really don't. Hugs, wine etc for you x

He's acting like a child! Having a baby means he won't be the baby anymore, he needs to grow up & like strawberry said, get a f***g grip!!! Not that that's really helpful, or is anything we haven't said before! Sorry!! Copious amounts of

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What was your response AC?

I'm still seething with the unfairness......

I said fine, that's it then, no children. What's the point in going over it all again?

He's now voluntarily watching that 15 children programme whilst researching prams online. I said "what the hell are you doing?" and he said "deciding which pram to get." I give up.

Shake him!! Then give him a slap!

2nd one of our PG friends has had her baby this morning, less than a week after the 1st friend (who was 5weeks early). 3rd friend is having a sweep today so will probably have a baby by the weekend! Feeling broodier than usual & have an excuse to browse the baby section of the Next catalogue!

AF turned up last night, 5 days early, deep joy. This is the last month til May that I can TTC should DH have a MURCOM in the next 2 weeks! It's just not going to happen.

Oh FFS. This is getting ridiculous now. I agree with everybody else. You are a bloody saint!!!

By now I would have definitely done some slapping and quite possibly stormed out of the house. I just don't understand him and it's so unfair on you. It sounds like he's very disenchanted with life at the moment and not seeing the bigger picture (that children enrich your life)

Bebe. I hope that the MURCOM is forthcoming soon and that seeing all these babies doesn't make you feel too crappy.

I always feel bad posting in here as I would hate those waiting or TTC to think I'm being insensitive.

AC it seems like he says one thing and then says the complete opposite. Does he actually know how he feels about having kids or is he just 'testing out' different attitudes to it? Either way it's not at all fair on you - given how much time you've given to thinking about the issue and coming to conclusions about it he owes you the same, in terms of making up his mind do that you can both guide your lives rather than all this tumult and volte facing all the time.

SPR please dont feel bad posting on here, it's lovely to eat reports from people who have made it to the other side! How many weeks remaining for you now?

100 the rolling video was brilliant, thank you!

Sorry, should have said AC that from over here the fact that he is still looking up prams on the Internet makes it look like he hasn't ruled out kids at all, the idea's still clearly very much on the table, more that he's having trouble coming to terms with the magnitude of the change that would come about (I can identify with that feeling, but not the way he seems to be channelling it)

SPR - DO NOT feel bad. I for one like hearing about all of the babies! :)

This may be a bad time to bring this up, but I have some OV sticks with a 'use by' of end of March 2012 (cheapie amazon ones bought back when DH wasn't being a complete arse), free to a good home if anyone would like them PM me your address! :)

Currently trying to work out how to bribe DD to play in her room so I can watch 15 kids on 4od!!

Bebe I just heard that my pg friend has had her baby girl as well. Sounds like her labour was a horrific ordeal! I'm all out of RL pg friends for now, I think... but no doubt there's one brewing!

Can't believe you and I are still going with this! The idea that we might be trying for ages when we actually get started ttc seems preposterous! The people on the new waiting thread must be sick of me bragging that I've been waiting so long !

SPR thanks for the pep talk, I should be used to this behaviour by now and just ignore it. He blows hot and cold all the time, I guess he's a ditherer!

Quod I think he needs an outlet for his "I'm red; now I'm green" behaviour that isn't me! Dadsnet?

Hmmmm Dadsnet might be good....possibly?! Although don't they just talk about cars, DIY, tits & sex?? (From what I've seen when I accidentally stumbled in there by mistake!) Do any of his mates have kids, could they maybe be persuaded to convince him his life won't be over when he has a baby?

I'm feeling very low about the baby thing, all these babies coming at once has sort of stirred it all up again. Plus was having discussions at toddler group about births & baby names today. (One of the other mummies is 7months PG and already looks fit to burst!) Told DD about the baby born today (she plays sometimes with the older sister) and she said 'If X has a baby I want one too but not a girl, I want a boy baby & I will give him some of my toys because that would be nice wouldn't it?!'

Oh Bebe it's not fair is it.

Not really, but life is a bit of a bitch sometimes as we both know!

DD did actually ask DH over dinner if she could have a baby brother & he told her no coz they are too expensive! But maybe in a couple of years we could 'get one'!! A COUPLE OF YEARS??? WT actual F?! Hoping he was joking!

Oh hooray for DD, hope he didn't think you put her up to it! Is 2 more years doable, with the MS, or will you have to go back onto treatment?

I don't think he thinks I put her up to it, she asks me all the time, but actually asking him is rare! It's a tricky one with the MS. If I have 2 more years like the last 2 then it's doable. But there are no guarantees with this stupid illness. My HCPs are amazed that I am so well without medication & have urged me to have another baby now. I don't want to go back onto treatment & with the lack of relapses I'm not sure I qualify anymore Also another 2 years will make DD nearly 6, probably nearer 7 by the time the baby came along & that's too big an age gap IMO. Would mean that new baby would be starting primary when DD is leaving so would mean me having to be in 2 different places physically in the mornings when DD will probably still need me to take her to school. (The school we would like her to go to at Secondary level is 25min drive away) There is just too much to think about & my head is going to explode!! Feeling more resigned to never having another baby. DH had an awful meeting at work yesterday which has the potential to be very very damaging. Just don't know what the next month holds, let alone the next 2 years!