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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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100 ahh your PILs sound lovely! I totally agree with your logic that worrying about things doesn't change the outcome of anything except to make the present more unpleasant, unfortunately I come from a long line of worriers and it's a habit I have to consciously shake at times!

I was disappointed about no Xmas OBEM but a whole series to look forward to more than makes up for it...AC if it's in Leeds might you recognise anyone? My DP realised he'd been to Uni with one of the dads in the last series!

Bebe - does conking out at 9.30pm count as a symptom? Other than that it's just achy boobs really but that's pretty normal for me some months. I did have a tiny bit of spotting at about 5dpo too. (this way madness lies!) Maybe only another 4 days or so of waiting!

Bloody hell there's another person on my fb who's pg and who only got married this summer. I really worry what it means that DH won't have a baby with me. Because it doesn't seem to be a common experience. I wonder sometimes if he doesn't really love me, or if he's having an affair. Sorry to be glum girls.

Aw AC big hugs for you re your DH and his lack of wanting to ttc. Do you seriously worry an affair might be happening I hope not. But if you do then can we help you in any way through things? I hope it's just a glum day that's made you say that.

Quod. Yeah they are lovely. Re conking out at that time, hmm I felt tired but didn't conk out, but I'll say yes if you want me to. But I don't want to get your hopes any more up than they are for you.

Right. Bit of a come clean from me. And I've not said owt before because of being outed worries, and others being in the not TTC yet place and wanting to be TTC but I figure things might not even happen. And well. I/we would love another LO. And well if it happened quickly then that would be a good thing. I'm ebf and well that's the extent of protection we are and have been using since she was 4 weeks. it might or might not happen, but if it does then , if not then we are very much happy with just having one LO. I feel a bit saying about this for the others who haven't yet got their DPs to have a MURCOM, but I also feel I'm not being totally honest not saying if I popped up saying I'd had a bfp and not said anything. So if you are Facebook friends of mine do not say any more about what I've just said please. We're just seeing what happens in a very casual way.

AC - I really feel for you. It seems like everyone I know is getting updiffed (most for a 2nd time). My niece (my step sisters daughter if we are going to get technical!) has just annouced to the world that she is 9 weeks PG. She's just 20, lives at home, and hasn't been with her latest boyfriend 5mins! She's due on the same date I was due with DD which is bizarre. Just can't help thinking 'Stupid girl'!! But she is happy & my SSis seems to be quite excited so each to their own. I have 2 friends who are imminently due to produce their 2nd DC & another friend due Feb (3rd DC) and another friend due May (2nd DC) and a school friend who has just had her 2nd this week. DH is now insistant that DD was a troublesome baby & really hardwork...she wasn't! So this is the latest excuse! I often wonder too if he even loves me anymore, or seeing someone else (although not sure when he would have time!!) so I shall be glum with you. Have a very big un-MNy hug & a double G&T! :)

Quod - When is POAS??

100 - Wish I was as chilled out as you x

Wow 100 that is exciting - and I am quite impressed that you've got ONE baby dealt with so calmly that you feel you could take on another one! Clearly there are lots of advantages to having them close together. You shouldn't feel bad - we've all got our own sets of circumstances which are unrelated to each other's. Good luck to you!

AC, have you spoken to your DH about it making you feel like that? IME the two things (him not being ready for fatherhood and his feelings for you) are likely to be entirely separate kettles of fish. I know my DP wouldn't have been ready at 30 AT ALL. It might be a good idea to bring up the fact that those feelings are emerging in you so that he can be aware of them and make sure that you don't feel that way. I do know very well myself that you do sit there going 'but WHY doesn't he want to have a child with me? Aren't I good enough to breed with?' but I also know that having this tension over a long period of time can skew elements of your relationship and lead you to attribute feelings to the other person that they just don't have. Definitely worth bringing up with him to clear the air I reckon - I used to have to write down some of the things my DP said to reassure me after our discussions, because I realised that otherwise I was forgetting them and painting another picture of him in my head that more fitted the gloomy outlook I was feeling (does that make sense?).

I think overall it can be a really damaging thing to compare our relationships and our life-stages to each other. My DP hasn't married me, nor shown any serious intention to do so - if I wanted to I could compare that to our friends/other people and draw conclusions from it but actually where does that get you? But if you are starting to lose confidence in your DH's feelings for you, then you need to make him aware of that.

No I guess he's probably not having an affair but I can't help it running across the back of my mind, there just doesn't seem to be any good reason for him to keep saying no if he's fully committed to me. I'm moping around because I'm in my fertile period, it's the end of another year and I've done the usual mad thing of tearfully pleading with him to TTC after resolving to be stoical and not mention it. DH is now in a mood and warning me I better not wreck the night out by being miserable, and moaning about him online.

Bebe I'm sorry you're in the same boat old thing, it's very shit isn't it. I'm drowning my sorrows with a cherry brandy cocktail with lots of cream, but I might move onto g&t later! Did your DH ever go along to counselling in the end?

Quod how old is your DP? DH is 31 now, not that it makes a huge amount of difference! I don't think he'll be receptive to any more attempts to emotionally blackmail him this week, I'll have to wait till my sanity returns and then try to tackle the subject with a level head on.

Are you worried that your DP doesn't want to get married? Presumably you will both get wills done once you are pg to put your affairs in order. Are you bothered about the less practical bits? I have to say I'm surprised I managed to talk DH into it.

100years by all means TTC away, you fill me with confidence that having DC is actually worth all this madness. I am full of happiness for you, and don't feel it makes any difference to my situation, apart from cheering me up.

Cherry brandy cocktail sounds scrummy!!

100 - you give hope to us all :o

And DH did about 2 counselling sessions and then didn't have time to do it anymore!!

One more week until fertile time...which would produce a baby with an EDD of 30th Sept........not that I'm a saddo who works it out every month! (Please tell me I'm not the only person who does that...I'm crazy aren't I?!)

Does everyone have lovely plans for tonight? I don't really 'do' New Years coz it's always a bit of a let down for me. Not sure what I expect to happen but nothing ever does! Plus a babysitter is extortionate!! SO we are watching '2012' and having some drinks then watching the London fireworks on the telly!

Bebe I don't work it out every month but seeing as I'm hoping against hope to TTC from May I do have the EDD of 22 February tattooed on my brain!

I knew it...I am a crazy person!! I think it's wishful thinking in case of MURCOM!!

Happy New Year to all my lovely WIITs :)

Bebe you're just more optimistic than me babe.

Rest assured I am the reigning queen of bonkers!

I'm not sure it's optimism. More that I just live in my own little fantasy world alot of the time. (It's a happy place full of Gin, candyfloss & kittens where I never get fat & DH caves to my every whim! :o)

Happy new year.

Feeding already! Lol one of the best things to start the year doing I reckon.

I'd settle for a cup of tea!

I think I may be about to smother DH with a pillow, not sure I can stand the snoring anymore and don't see why I should be the one who gets up first so he can sleep in every bloody day!!!!!! Little bit hacked off this morning... Can you tell??

It is pretty peaceful here. The plus side of having no children I suppose. DH normally snores like a bison but he seems to have found a comfortable position. If it's any comfort, I think the cat's about to start making breakfast noises.

DD would still have been asleep too if the poor little girl hadn't started coughing again. She sounds awful :(

DH has man flu...think it's terminal!

Has she got his man flu? Glad not to be in your house Bebe!

I have got the little egg symbol on the persona monitor this morning. Hopefully there are only four more of these to go before TTC. Going to do round three of 3 month pre TTC healthy living starting at the beginning of March, so I've only got a couple of months left of wild parties (ahem!)

Poor DD has been ill for nearly 6 weeks with this awful cough (and an eye infection before Christmas) rang the out of hours GP and they won't even see her! DH has got something else, the pair of them have been constantly ill since about September. I'm probably the healthiest one in this house (MS & slipped disc aside)!

So time for you to eat & drink all the things you won't be 'allowed' then! :o Bring on the runny eggs, smelly unpasturised cheese, nuts, booze & illegal pharmaceuticals caffeine! :o

Happy NY all! Are we all having a day off today (Bebe you never seem to get a day off :( )

So AF is here so I'm not with xmas child. Have had a small cry and a chat with DP this morning already, who has reminded me that it is ridiculous of me to simultaneously hold the belief that it might take months to conceive with the one that I should be magically fertile like my sister and conceive at the first unbridled contact with the spermz. Still, there's very little ration in this game is there?

My cycle was only 28 days as oppose to normal of 30-32 days so I fear our outstanding sex efforts might all have been a couple of days too late! Very annoyingly this month I'm away for few days right over the middle of my cycle, agghhh! DP has offered to give me sperm in a cup to take with me but I don't think we're quite at that point yet.

Oh Quod, that AF is a real bitch isn't she! Mine can always be relied upon to turn up early when it is most inconvenient (eg Christmas day!!) If you SWI before you go away it might possibly be close enough IYSWIM? Sperm can live for 5 days right? Worth a shot no?!

DD is back at preschool tomorrow...can't wait, neeeeeed a break! But DH isn't going back til Weds! :) Have got physio at lunchtime though & am back on the diet...have 2 stone (that I lost 2010 & put back on 2011) to lose! :(

Sorry to hear you weren't lucky this month Quod, on the plus side it seems your disappointment has confirmed your wish for a LO, which we were never really in much doubt about!

at sperm in a cup.

Yes if I have another short cycle next month we could get one in before I go . Or if I have a long one maybe when I get back! It's bloody annoying that it's so unpredictable. I am reminding myself of things I can and can't control.

AC one irritating thing is that I've decided that if we don't conceive this month or at a push the month after then we should put it on the back burner til the summer as I can't afford to be floored with 1st-trimester morning sickness in June/July - we've got several productions on at once around that time and if I'm not up to leading the team at a very demanding/full-on time things may well all fall apart. So despite a head-start I may well soon be back to waiting, oh joy. You may yet beat me to the baby!

Quod, sorry to hear about AF getting you. I had a few tears the first (and only) time AF got me after we properly started to TTC - I got pg the next month.

bebe, sorry you are also suffering with GIBP (Glumness Induced By Partner) problems.

AC did you go out?

Sorry if I put my foot in it with the 'best thing' comment I made. It was the middle of the night and I didn't think.

I'm super shattered at the moment. LO Has taken to waking up more frequently again in the middle of the night! Feels like she is 6 weeks old again. But thankfully OH had her for a couple of hours this morning while I went back to bed. :) It really helped. Think I'm off to bed now, so if she is awake a million times again then I won't feel so bad in the morning - or that's the plan.

I found a post of mine from 2010 with a timetable for TTC preparation and am pleased to say I can finally tick pretty much everything off!:

Adapt exercise regime to include yoga or pilates; ok not done that but there's still time!

Find new flat, ideally with a lift; check

Pay off final installment of overdraft check

Amass savings to cover loan repayments during maternity leave; no longer necessary as loan term ends this year

Attend sister's hen do in London and her wedding; check and cousin's the following year!

July - Holiday in Spain for first wedding anniversary; check and second wedding anniversary!

Rubella test; booked for Friday

Come off the pill (last pill date 6 August 2010); check

Go to dentist for check-up; check

September - Start charting cycle; check and stopped again

Cervical smear test; check

to Las Vegas for DH's 30th birthday; no but going in May

DH to cut down smoking one year quit today woo hoo!

DH to cut down drinking and start zinc supplements. yeah right!

Ok so we're running 15 months over schedule, but I've nearly cracked it!