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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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It does make me wonder what his DM might have said in the past to deter him from the path of teenage pg.

Sorry your christmas didn't go to plan Bebe. Did you get to your church in the end? Lots of DH's are rubbish at helping with Christmas. I doubt men would bother having Christmas at all if it was left up to them. My DH certainly wouldn't, he hates the whole business.

Didn't get to church, but will go next week & to the Christingle service (which was always my favourite when I was little!). DH loves Christmas, but he just doesn't do anything to help! I said maybe it might be nice to go out one year for Christmas & he said 'No, much nicer to be at home with just family than be watched by strangers'! I'm thinking, much nicer not to spend hours in the kitchen & then have all the cleaning up to do & live with the mess for 3 days, but hey ho!

I did get lots of pressies though, so wasn't all bad! :o Although DD did get her favourite new toy confiscated & sent to her room for nearly killing the kitten! (Long Story!)

Apart from your MIL, was it a good day?!

No it was pretty grim. Trying to please everyone always results in pleasing noone but my dear mother will try. Now at DMIL's who is determinedly refusing any help whatsoever and will later explode with miserable anger because nobody helps her.

Happy Boxing Day all!!

At FILs house and after a very fraught start on Friday, the festive period has been ok. However DH and I spent 3 hours in the kitchen this morning preparing door for 18 people whilst FIL flapped about the SMIL did her usual lazy cow thing of sitting gossiping with her precious daughter, drinking champagne and smoking. Am currently "resting" in my room (calming down my frustration with a mint tea) before going out to face the entire extended family sober for the 2nd day running!!

AC and Bebe. Sorry to hear that your Xmas days were not perfect either. I've definitely missed bein able to get smashed to survive DHs family this year! Thank God it's at least 2 years until I'm with them again for the festive season and I'm not planning on being pregnant that year!

Bebe, your pressie haul sounds good!! Glad DH pulled his finer out after your birthday!

Might be on again today if I need another "rest"!! Although I think is better go now and be sociable!!

Enjoy!

I think I'm having some sort of Christmas breakdown!! Just shouted at DH to put DD to bed just couldn't deal with her hysterics anymore, especially after a day of the MIL!! Why does this time of year turn even the calmest and most rational of people into complete lunatics?

Sorry you're having a crappy day to spr x

AC sorry u had a sucky Xmas too

I think there is probably too much pressure on everyone to have 'the perfect christmas' when in reality it just doesn't exist!!

A belated happy xmas all! I am at the PILs too now - had to bargain with DP and in the end in return for spending Xmas day with my family (which was lovely - sharing my sisters news with extended family, aww) we're now with his fam for 4 days!!! I will doubtless go mad. They are very nice but go totally OTT on the hosting front with the result that it's not really relaxing being here. Plus they all instigate a board games marathon that honestly goes on for hours and hours of each day. Participation is obligatory.

Plus DP and I have been away from home since xmas eve - right over most fertile bit of my cycle- so have been challenged with trying to very very quietly SWI in a variety of rooms with paper thin walls, not something DP usually enjoys very much!. So far I have got to say DP is displaying surprising commitment and dedication to the mission!

Sorry Bebe that you have been run off your feet and that others are also enduring the PILs. How long has everyone got before normality is allowed to return??

My goodness Quod you are actually TTC!!!!

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What AC said!!!! :o

It would appear so! :)

Eeeeeek!! How exciting!!
at Mr Quod and the quiet TTC!! Do we have a POAS date yet?!?!

We've escaped the inlaws and are at my parents now. Just chilling out and relaxing which is lovely. The festive period with the inlaws was anything but restful and I was utterly shattered after 4 nights there!!! SMIL had a few moments of reverting to being bloody rude to me on Boxing Day. Made all the worse by her having had a few drinks and me being sober!!

Thank God we won't be doing it again next year!

Squeals with delight that Quod is now TTC :) :o

I will try and post later if LO has another nap, or if she goes down early. Want to catch up with everyone properly.

Haha. Well, my cycles are variable - from 29-33 days normally, so Fri 6 Jan will be CD33. I'm going to try very hard not to work myself up into a frenzy before then (although obvs I am crossing my fingers that I have the same fall-pg-at-drop-of-a-hat ability that my sister and my mum do! I appreciate this is not hugely realistic).

It's quite funny, after all this time feeling VERY tumultuous and het-up about it all, once we actually 'got going', aside from one or two moments in the middle of the night waking up going OH MY GOD, I've felt pretty calm about it all - it suddenly seems to have sunk in that you have to do one day at a time, and not try to cope with the entirety of the future all at once, if that makes sense?

I am hiding in bedroom at the PILS doing 'marking' today. Added advantage of plenty of pity cups of tea brought my way because I am working!

Hi then everyone :)

Well how was Christmas, other than Quod getting it on?

AC, I hope your experience at your friend's the other day is out of your mind now. I think you kind of build up the resistance to things being mentally draining. Lovely news about your friend having a baby on Christmas eve. And Grr to your MIL about life being over, does she feel like her life is over? I bet your DH is overjoyed at her saying that.

strawberry, how are you doing, how was LO on Christmas day, E was really good for us, though had no idea what was going on, just enjoyed pulling at bits of paper when she could be bothered to hold things!

Quod, to be fair, twins must be a whole different ball game, but we have been out quite a lot, E is very good when we go out and we have not stopped having meals out.

I'm LOLing at MURCOM :)

SPR, I think it's good that you have an excuse to 'rest' when things get too much. I went and fed E in the other room the other day while we were out, just to have a bit of quiet from everything!

bebe, Sorry your DH didn't really help you with anything and that you had a bit of a crappy time.

Right, well. We had a busy time over Christmas. Went to my family on Christmas eve to spend then and Christmas day with them, and travelled up to Oh's parents on Christmas day in the evening to have boxing day with them and travelled home yesterday. Christmas day was lovely. Very busy, my sister and her two girls were there, we have found out what was wrong with the LO when she was in hospital and so she needs a couple of updated immunisations which should hopefully stop any of this happening again. It was very very busy there though as there was a lot of present opening, grandparents came over and lunch etc, lots going on! Was lovely to spend the time with family and being a mum on Christmas day. The journey to the IL's was fine, but then there was no traffic on the road. :) Boxing day was very chilled. Went out for a walk and visited a friend. TRavelled home yesterday and instead of it taking us 2 hours it took us 5 :( Bum.

Am getting E referred for a TT snip in the new year, turns out the problems with her feeding are partly due to a tongue tie, which was diagnosed the day after she was born, but as there have been no problems with feeding up till now I've not thought much about it, however it's not been a massive problem, just not been as easy as it was. It's better than it had been, but still feels slightly wrong at the moment. My nipple is starting to suffer!

Got to go do the tea now, will try and post again later. :)

SPR the thought of having to spend four nights under the roof of either of our parents puts the whole thing into perspective. You have my deepest sympathies - and no wonder you and SMIL had cranky moments. Now that you're at your parents are you able to confirm my suspicion that being pg at Christmas gives you a Lovely Warm Glow?!

Speaking of which, how are you feeling now? Are you well in yourself or do you still have evil symptoms?!

Quod good to hear you are not panicking and that you and DP are taking TTC in your stride. Wait till you get your BFP though and see if you panic then lol. Supposedly I now have five cycles left before it's finally my turn so there's still a chance we could be bump buddies.

100years yes it was singularly unhelpful, I wouldn't mind but she knows it is DH dragging his feet and she's so desperate for gc that she's already given us a cot. Also she adores DH and is a brilliant mum, one of those people who mothers everybody. I can't believe she would not make the same choice to have him if she had her time over again.

Your Christmas sounds like it was damn near perfect. Did you have a Lovely Warm Glow?! Hope E is ok, it's supposed to be the simplest thing ever to snip TT isn't it?

Here's a question for you all: is getting incredibly angry at your DP to the point of tears and rage in an argument that starts about where we will park the car when we get home a symptom of

A) early pregnancy hormones, or
B) spending TOO BLOODY LONG at the PILS?

And just to set my mind at rest, if the answer is B,whose fault is it we have spent TOO LONG at the PILS?

A) mine, or
B) DP's?

Probably a BB I'm guessing Quod! You are not alone, we argue about crappy stuff like that too, and it's usually always DHs fault!

Ooooooh symptom spotting already, what fun!

Have you ever rowed like that before though? If so then B, if not I'll say A

And if it's B then it's always b for the other question.

Screaming unhappy child for the past 20 mins. Can babies have bad dreams coz she woke up with a sad face and she's not right yet. (daddy is rocking her just now) bless her. Poor thing. Nothing that I worry about though, just one of those things. She'll be right as reign soon

AC. Yeah it was lovely being a mum at Christmas. I have a mummy card :) and we gave E a daughter card! I have a daughter! Wow. It was too busy though in Christmas day to bask in my I'm a mummy thing. I think we've already decided next year we'll do it home alone for the day! Having done his family last year and mine this year we think it's just us next year.

Yeah the TT thing is easy. But it's a bit more of a thing to do when older as they then need a general anaesthetic, whereas now the nerves haven't grown properly (if at all yet) so a very easy thing.

She calmed down soon after I posted. No idea what was up. But we've been out for a meal and she was happy then slept! No bother.

DH has sodded off out for yet another night out with a mate. I am sat in watching last Christmas's One Born Every Minute. There is one heck of a lot of groaning going on. I can't really believe that will ever be me, doing a load of mooing and then finally being handed a wriggly baby!

100years sounds like you've got the right idea, where did you all go for dinner?

I don't think I moo'd as such when in birth, I did a low pitched long grunt type of noise though when I was pushing, right from the back of my throat!

We went to a local vegetarian curry place, we were going to go to Nandos as it is quick and easy, but they had a 25 min wait for a table and we weren't doing that, so plan b was get some takeaway stuff from the veggie place, but there was loads of tables available so we ended eating in :) Was lovely, and we got takeaway bits and are about to have them for lunch.

Watching the Bourne trilogy with OH this afternoon, or as many of them as we can, got them for Christmas so going to enjoy watching them in sequence over the next few days or just this afternoon, depending on how we get on.

LO had her 16 week jabs today, she seems to be fine and only cried a little bit.

Oooh I didn't know there was an Xmas OBEM to look forward to!

100 I am so impressed with how chilled out about everything you are and how you have taken everything in your stride so easily with your little one. I hope I could be like that.

SPR hats off to your 4 days at the PILs. I managed 3 nights (and pretty much 4 days in total) but one more night would have led to a homicide I think. I just find it really hard to relax there - DP's mum is really snippy with his dad all the time and prone to finding the worst in any situation which I find difficult to cope with, plus pretty much every minute of the day is structured so there's not really any time to just flop about and relax. We (me and DP) pretty much always have a barney by the time we leave - or in the car on the way home!

What is everyone doing for NY?

No there's not a Xmas OBEM this year, I was watching last year's. But there's a new series filmed at Leeds General Hospital starting on 4 Jan at 9pm.

New OBEM?!?! Eeeek! :o

I didn't 'moo'...no grunting either...or screaming! I was surprisingly quiet & didn't even swear once, quite miraculous really! I did lots of 'ow ow ow owwwwwwww'! But that was about it, until I had the epidural then I was really very quiet & calm!

SPR - definitely sainthood coming your way, 4 days at my mothers would start driving me mad. But 4 days at my PILS..... Just couldn't do it, love them to bits...in small doses! So well done you!

Quod - anymore symptoms?!

Thanks Quod. I try to stay calm, not a lot bothers me for very long usually, and to be honest a lot of the time I try and think that worrying isn't going to make a difference except to make you worried and 'stressed' at the time, although it doesn't always work that way and I do worry about some things, but that's only natural.

NYE I reckon I/we will probably be in bed asleep already! LOL.

Hmm OBEM, would I be wrong to do a face at the women who make a big massive drama out of it now I have been through it?

I think I would actually be fine with 4 days with my PIL(they will be IL when we get married so I'll call them that for ease). They actually said the nicest thing to me over Christmas. I was given some money from them, a lot more than I was expecting and was quite blown away by it as it was the same as OH got, and had a bit of a tear in my eye saying thanks, FIL then said "well you're family now, so we share it the same for you too" or words very similar to those, I can't remember the exact words he said. Well then I had proper tears! Just made me feel really lovely.