thinking of trying for a girl and want to hear your experiences

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Okay - so i know it's not PC to want a particular sex BUT I have always envisaged having a daughter. My son is 17months old and when he was born i have to be honest i was disappointed. I can't believe i could say that now and i love him more than anything else in the world and would not swap him at all!!

BUT - we have started trying for a brother or sister for him and I am wondering whether the 'girl' theories are worth giving a go.

I have done a lot of reading up and my thoughts are:
Timing method Timing method - seems to make sense but I am worried about missing out on pregnancy completely and don't really want to be TRYING for too long!
Diet method - I think a balanced diet is necessary when trying for any baby. Though i have been drinking oj and eating yoghurt.... not sure this will tip the balance though!!
Sperm count - again i know lowering it is supposed to work for a girl but i am concerned lowering it too much will just result in no pregnancy at all!!

My orginal plan was just sex every other day and see what happens - the normal sensible way to conceive... But wondering if any ladies out there have had luck? Or think it's all rubbish?

Also - I haven't been charting cycles for long as just came off the pill - first cycle was 31 days and then 34 days so i think ovulation is around day 20/21 as was monitoring mucus too.....

Anyway - I just wondered if anyone felt comfortable sharing their stories? I don't want to talk about it with any of my friends or family!

Thanks!

I absolutely yearn for the day when I see a thread like this with someone desperate for a boy .

Why do we seem to so utterly undervalue boys nowadays - most of us are married/partnered with them after all?

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ooh I had my moo comment - how exciting that has never happened before even when I have used the c word!

Really stichingmoss? I've never noticed that.

I have had it said to me more times than I care to count: esp when I was pg with DS2. It broke my heart.

And if I ever mention I want to try for DC3 it is immediately assumed by 90% of people that I must be desperate for a girl.

Really? That's rubbish.

I have two girls and I've had comments like that about hoping it will be/wanting a boy though.

I think generally girls are 'preferred'. When we were expecting dc3 a lot of people did assume we were hoping for a boy though.

I meant, that's rubbish as in, rubbish for you to experience, not you're talking rubbish! Sorry, just realised they may have come across wrong.

Why was pinky's messge deleted? Are we not allowed to tell someone that they are being stupid now? Do we only like fluffy snufflekins posts? Are we really so desperate to be pandered to?

For fucks sake, grow UP

Little white wolf - you shouldn't feel guilty. All humans have emotions. Wishing you lots of luck with your pregnancy. I hope everything works out for you

The good news is that this has confirmed what i was thinking all along!! (in more ways than one!)

so thank you all

Hi there
We're going to move this thread out of conception into Other Subjects as we feel it might fit better there.
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MNHQ

tickle, it is rubbish isn't it? Especially as it took three rounds of IVF to conceive DS1 and DS2 was an unbelievable miracle bonus baby who we were so thrilled to have and the thought I should be disappointed with him was unbelievably offensive .

op, if you cannot accept that there is a 50/50 chance of either sex then I suggest you don't get pregnant yet.
wait until you want another child instead of trying to get a particular sex.

I will readily admit that I can't really understand how anyone could be disappointed with their new baby. but you already have been once... it wouldn't be fair on you or the baby to do it again.

moss I crave a boy but always feel too guilty to admit it. Am pregnant with DC two and people tell me it's a boy etc but I don't allow myself to believe it because I would love a boy so much however if its another DD then I will live that baby just as much.

Just means I would need to persuade DH for another try for my blue one

'Love that baby' even

Lissie - we delete posts that contain personal attacks.
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MNHQ

Olivia, I kind of get that. I was just shocked that someone reported it.

Olivia, I kind of get that. I was just shocked that someone reported it.

I reported it lissielou.

Hi there
We have a DS and a DD. I can't really tell you how or what we did to 'get' a boy and a girl but I can tell you which day DD was conceived on?? She was conceived on day 10 of my cycle. So before I ovulated.

So maybe there is something to the timing method.

Well drcrab your DD wouldn't have been conceived before you ovulated, more likely you mean that this was the day you had sex.

(Wondering how many people actually paid attention in biology)

Ticklebumpkin, why?

Ticklebumpkin, why?

DD was conceived on the 12th day or a 35 day cycle. My best guess is that ovulation happened several days later. HTH.

Really Cote?

Because I don't want to read a load of childish name-calling posts when I come on here.

Make a point in an adult way or risk having your post deleted for breaching the talk policy. I don't care either way.