WIITs take things to the third thread, hoping the Gruffalo stays in his bed.

[100years]

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Welcome to the third WIIT thread. Are you all ready for more action?

Recent stats as follows :)

JBells PG#2 arrived! Luca John born 16th May at 3.10pm
mrswantstobeamum PG#1 EDD 17th June
Squirrel007 PG#1 EDD 13 July
WYorksLass PG#1 (boy) EDD 25th August
100years PG#1 EDD 1st Sept. Last working day 29th July
Nannyl PG#1 EDD 13 Sept
Strawberrypie PG#1 EDD 8th October
WhyWait PG#1 EDD 22st November
MrsSatsuma TTC#1 since Nov 2010
ShaggingWithIntent TTC since April 2011
AmandaCooper TTC #1 June 2011
AstroZola (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones It's really complicated, TTC#2 at some point soon
Quodbilet TTC#1 sometime in the future

Settle in for more action and adventure.

Oh boo bebe, that sucks :(

Yummy Thai last night :) Haven't been for ages as OH prefers curry to Thai, so it was really nice to go.

Massive BH this morning, proper rock hard stomach and OH felt how hard bump had gone!

Quod that's a shame that your temp dropped, it would have been so cool if you were pg just like that. Are you going back to waiting ie business as usual now or do you think you might try next month?

If you or Minipie want the OPKs just shout up. I really can't see me getting any use out of them. I'm happy to send them on.

Minipie I'm not sure about how an ultimatum would go down. It must be obvious that splitting up would be a massively risky strategy for me. Also I've seen this debated on other threads and it's always said that it's a really underhand and unreasonable thing to do to your partner. Plus I don't want to leave him. No doubt he'd immediately shack up with some 21 year old who'd be pg in the first month

Sorry to hear you have no symptoms. People don't always straight away though, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you pass the exam this time!

100years I redoubled my efforts to find one but there's nothing. It's something fertility friend could do as an add on easily, I wonder why they don't. How long did you give it with your ex before you decided it was never happening?

Your LO is going to be in your arms so so soon. You will finally see her little face and look into her eyes. Isn't it amazing!

AC, in the september before we had split up over it, I was not happy and hadn't been for a while, anyway he made this mad romantic gesture and we got back together after discussing everything, said we would try for kids, spent the next 6 months trying to get him to commit to when and things like that, never happened, then one day he literally turned around and said "I don't think I want kids" and that was it really, we spent that evening talking, him knowing that those words would finish us, I spent the night awake crying etc etc, then we spoke about it again the next day and decided it was better to split. It wasn't till afterwards that I realised it wasn't the only issue between us for me, he still said afterwards he was happy other than the kids issue, I know there were other things that I wasn't happy with and in the end it was a good thing. But the split decision was based on babies/wanting a family. It's hard to describe it writing it down, but I think that's it in a nutshell.

But yeah I can't believe she will soon be here. I still find it hard to believe I'm actually pregnant.

AC I think that ultimatums aren't a good idea unless a person really has reached the point where the ultimatum us true - i.e. they actually do feel that they'd rather split up than not have DC. If a person does feel like that, I don't think it's unreasonable or underhand to give their spouse an ultimatum - it's an unpleasant word, but it's basically just telling the spouse how they feel and giving the spouse a chance to change their mind before the decision is made.

But it sounds like you don't feel that way, so yes, I guess it wouldn't be right to say "babies or else" since that's not really how you feel...

Thanks re the OPKs... let's see how the testing goes this weekend... might take you up on them if I get another BFN.

100 stupid question but what is BH?

BH is Braxton Hicks :)

I feel sick :( Bleurgh. I want to go back to bed, but waiting for a delivery, once that's come I think I will have a snooze.

DH is driving me up the wall already today. I'm really pissed off with him & my hormones aren't helping!!! Stressed out trying to sort all the stuff to take to ILs for DDs party. Hosting a party at someone elses house is really stressful & he just doesn't get it. The plan was to be outside in their huge garden with the paysets & trampoline & now it's looking like it will probably rain & I haven't got a clue what to take & will feel awkward as hell being in their house with all our friends. DD has 7 cousins round about her age & not one of them is coming (only found out yesterday that 4 of them weren't coming) so have made 12 party bags for 5 children! So what was supposed to be a family party with a few friends is now a party with friends & about 4 grown up family members! DH just took an hour to get out of bed after I went & asked him to get up coz I really needed his help. It's a pirate party (everyone supposed to be in costume) which was his idea & he hasn't bothered to organise a costume & says it doesn't really matter. This after he made a big song and dance about there being a forfeit or anyone not in costume. Now he tells me none of our grown up friends are bothering either. He's done fuck all organisation for the party (not that I expected he would) and even when I'm asking for help it's like I'm being unreasonable in asking. Tried talking to him about the 'plan' for the day, and wet weather 'plans' (he arranged with his dad a week ago that we would move party from our house to his dads) and he is just sat on his laptop (and was all night last night) and just grunts in my general direction & never bloody listens. I sit waiting for a response for ages before he even acknowleges I spoke! This isn't a new thing, it happens all the time, but kinda hoped he might show a little more interest seeing that he is about his only child!!!

Sorry to rant, just really feeling hacked off! :( Supposed to be a happy day, and I just want to kill him... & it's not even 9am!

Bebe our husbands are just massive wankers. If it's not all about them they're not interested. After all the trouble you've gone to with the catering, particularly the cake, as well.

I'm sure the party will go smoothly whether it rains or shines. The important thing is that DD has a nice day.

Ended up cancelling the party at ILs (FIL being a wanker too) so had a third of the people come to our house. (Had to ring people & cancel coz we can't fit over 20 people in our house) I'm gutted, I went to so much effort. DH has fallen out with his dad, I feel like the whole thing was a total let down. DD doesn't really know whats happened, but she was really upset not to see her Grandad. Now have a house full of food & a massive cake (decided to leave the cake for her Birthday on Tuesday & just eat the cupcakes today). Really fed up. Bastards the lot of them! :(
Going to the zoo on Tuesday with my mum & Grandma for DDs actual Birthday, so hoping that it will be a lovely day out to make up for the shambles today. Then BIL will hopefully come & see her in the evening & we will have a little birthday tea & cut the cake. Thank God DD is too young for this to really matter. We won't get away with this sort of thing next year!

Oh bebe, sorry you had a shit weekend and that your plans were scuppered. :( I'm glad DD isn't really aware of what is going on, although it's not nice that she was upset by it. I'm sure you will have a fab day out at the Zoo, can I come too???

Had a good weekend myself. Really enjoyed the wedding, was actually full of beans, which considering most of the time recently I've been knackered beyond belief is great. Had a little dance at the reception and although it hurt my pelvic pain yesterday I wouldn't have changed it, I just can't not dance at a wedding. OH was commenting on how full of beans I was. Debating what to do today, was thinking about seeing family, but woke at 5am and not managed to get back to sleep. Have had some food now which is what I think I needed, but we have food being delivered between 8:30 and 9:30 so I can't even go back to bed for a proper sleep now, then it's the drive there and back and avoiding the traffic. Pah, I don't know, will prob try and have a snooze for a bit, do the food delivery and then decide. May just have to sleep there for half hour if I go over.

AGGH Bebe I'm really cross on your behalf, how bloody useless! Everyone's right in saying that it's most important that your DD had a good time, but your DH and FIL have clearly been too wrapped up in themselves and totally missed the point

Well, I'm a couple of days into AF which turned up on my work trip. Boo but not the end of the world, and it did mean I was able to party quite hard over the weekend . My company won 2 prizes on our trip away, jury prize and audience prize, both £2k! Hurrah! Totally unexpected but the money will be a real help at the moment. DP played a festival in London which went down really really well so it's been a good weekend all round here. Really upsetting to find out about all the rioting though.

In answer to the question about us TTCing, we won't start immediately (would have been an awful time work-wise for me which would have meant me missing out on the majority of my work and money next year as everything in my company gears around May-Sept at the moment) but it's definitely been good for clarifying our feelings and I feel hopeful that we might start by the end of the year. Nice to know I'm no longer undecided or terrified about it, because it all felt like the 'right' thing to be happening, IYKWIM?

AC I'm sorry you're in the middle of this dilemma. I was thinking about it over the weekend. I can't see how it's possible for you to just shut down your emotions and box them up for the sake of keeping the peace with DH, I don't see how long term that can come to any good. Whether you package it as an ultimatum or not, he's got to acknowledge your feelings and deal with them in some way, and I think you should keep pushing for that even if it's horrible in the meantime. But that's just me, I'm not one for letting something lie to keep the peace.

Oh dear bebe what a shame. Not sure what is going on with your DH and FIL but hope they sort themselves out soon.

100 dancing at the wedding is pretty impressive, well done! hope you carry on feeling good for the last stretch. Same to WYorks.

Quod sorry about AF but congratulations on the prizes, that is fantastic! And glad your "practice run" in TTCing has proved useful in working out your plans.

Well AF arrived for me yesterday with a vengeance not unexpected really since I had no pg symptoms at all, but it does mean I'm now wondering what we are doing "wrong" so to speak. I know it's only been 3 months but I am an impatient kind of girl ! Cycle is now regular and I'm using OPKs so I know we are SWIing right before OV day so I don't think it's a timing issue. Though it's not a great cycle as it's 32 days with OV on day 19/20 which is quite a short luteal phase I gather. I don't get EWCM so maybe I need to get myself onto the grapefruit juice!! Any more tips appreciated...

Ah that's a shame Minipie. I don't reckon you should wonder about doing it 'wrong' just yet! Even if all the biology and timing lines up, isn't it meant to be about 1/4 chance that the egg fertilises, and then further odds that it implants? Maybe you have to just roll the dice a couple more times.

Thanks Quod. That's what DH says... and I'm sure you're both right. I just wish there was something I could do (even if it doesn't actually make any difference) as I hate feeling so passive, you know?

Think my impatience is also being fuelled by the fact that quite a few of my friends are pg and due around Christmas time - it would be so nice if my ML overlapped with them, whereas at this rate they'll all be heading back to work just as I go off

mini, my doctor said to me when I went before TTC to expect it to take at least 6 months, so there is nothing you are doing wrong, yes it's passive, but sadly all you can do is keep trying and just keep up with the SWI and keeping fingers cross. I feel a bit bad as I was second month, and so I have only one months disappointment to go off, but I know how much I felt that first month when AF turned up.

Horrendous night here in London, my old flat (where my BF lives) is right in the thick of where some of the worst looting was - a flat above a shop too, 3 doors down from Currys which was totally done over. She's away on hols but her (ex)DP was back there all night last night on fire/looter watch . We're off to help with the clean-up in a bit. All so sad.

Quod. I'm in London too - helicopters overhead as I came out of the tube last night, and read this morning that there had been shops smashed up about 15 min walk from where I live. I find it really depressing that there are that number of people willing to join in. Hope your BF's flat is ok.

I'm feeling better about the TTC, thanks all for your reassurance . On the plus side, during the time we've been trying, DH has got keener and keener on having DC - I'm not sure that would have happened if I'd got pg straight away whereas now I think he'll appreciate it more if when it does happen.

Am in Birmingham myself, and very pleased I came home from my family's house when I did as if I had left it later there would have been problems getting home on quite a few of the routes I travel, not that that is the problem, but wouldn't have liked to have been caught up in something driving home. Probably missed it by half an hour at the most. It's all very horrible isn't it :(

mini, I'm glad you are feeling better about the TTC and that your DH has become more keen :)

OH last night put his head on my belly and got a good booting :) I reckon I'm going to mis my bump when it's gone, although I'll have my own actual baby in my arms.

Sorry, I know there are far more important things to get pissed off over, esp with everything that's going on at the moment, but I've been sat in all day waiting for a delivery of the cot, to ring them and then discover the cot is out of stock and therefore not being delivered today, and isn't in stock for another 2 weeks, and we weren't even fecking informed that it wasn't coming. Thank fook I rang them and asked what the deal was. Oh we can upgrade if we want to, but the one we bought/ordered is the one that's the most expensive anyway! So in the mean time I have to wait for OH to come home, discuss what we are going to do, then go from there. I know it's trivial, but I specifically got up early in case it came early, have done nothing in case they came while I was in the shower or whatever, and now I have no cot :(

How annoying 100! I'd be tempted to cancel the order and find another company to get it from - but I guess that might mean an even longer wait...?

We have cancelled. Ordered a slightly different one bit does the same thing as in it goes bedside. I was having a little bulb earlier, damn hormones! Stupid I know but u get all excited, it's the last thing to get and then it's not even there!

The new one will be here a week before the other one possibly gets in stock at the warehouse :)

Good decision

Thanks mini :)

Been for a lovely meal with OH this evening as we have been together for 2 years today :) Went to Loch Fyne, am proper stuffed with lovely yummy food :)

Hope DD had a good day today bebe.

Hope SPR is doing OK, not seen her in a while, know the first bit with sickness and stuff is proper horrid. :(

Where iiiiiiisssss everybodeeeeeeeeeeeeee?

Hope everyone's alright! 100 you seem better than last week?

But where is nannyl, jbells? MrsS? Where have they all gone??

SPR, AC, Bebe, hope you're all OK too...

Yeah Quod, I'm feeling quite good thanks :) Must be the extra food I'm consuming now!!! LOL. The weird sickness I had at the beginning of last week has gone :)

LO is now 2/5 engaged :) Whoop 3 weeks to go. She is also lying (at the moment) LOA which is quite good :)

How are you Quod?

I'm good thanks - just had to arrange for an extension from my supervisor as haven't got my work in order - been really distracted with the whole 2WW thing and the rioting, now really disappointed with myself! Not the end of the world but a bit of a wake up call to pull my socks up.