WIITs take things to the third thread, hoping the Gruffalo stays in his bed.

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Welcome to the third WIIT thread. Are you all ready for more action?

Recent stats as follows :)

JBells PG#2 arrived! Luca John born 16th May at 3.10pm
mrswantstobeamum PG#1 EDD 17th June
Squirrel007 PG#1 EDD 13 July
WYorksLass PG#1 (boy) EDD 25th August
100years PG#1 EDD 1st Sept. Last working day 29th July
Nannyl PG#1 EDD 13 Sept
Strawberrypie PG#1 EDD 8th October
WhyWait PG#1 EDD 22st November
MrsSatsuma TTC#1 since Nov 2010
ShaggingWithIntent TTC since April 2011
AmandaCooper TTC #1 June 2011
AstroZola (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones It's really complicated, TTC#2 at some point soon
Quodbilet TTC#1 sometime in the future

Settle in for more action and adventure.

Definitely up the snacks. Bananas are a good one. Yoghurts also good, not sure if you can eat them?! Pitta bread & hummus also really yummy. I struggled towards 'the end' coz I just couldn't eat much in one go so would eat my meals then just not feel hungry. So try to eat little & often! :)

If you produce loads of milk when LO has arrived you might consider donating to a milk bank? :)

Quod why did you make me read this awful book Baby Hunger??!

Well today I am off to my mum's for friends wedding (which I'm making the cake for) and once again, yep you guessed it, DH isn't coming!!! It has crossed my mind to not come back, coz I'd doubt he'd even bloody well notice!

I am livid! How the hell am I supposed to explain to my friend that he came back for our friends wedding last month, but not hers? She is actually getting married today & having reception tomorrow, and he offered to ring her today and apologise! Erm, NO, it's her wedding day, don't be a twat!!!! It's apparently some major work related training/assesment thing (not even pretending to understand) that he has been 'trying to get out of all week'!! The fact that he has had 6 months notice of the date for the wedding hasn't even registered with him! I am so cross...can you tell?! This is a big deal for me, I'm trying to sort out my cake business, and this is my first ever wedding cake. I really needed his help & support (bet that sounds lame, coz it's cake, not like I'm solving 3rd world debt) and now I have to ice & stack this cake (never done that) whilst looking after DD. Probably making more of this than I should, but I am really cross! :(

Oh bebe I think I'd be livid too if I were you. Your DH should be there with you.

You are very talented though, and I'm sure the cake will be a success :)

I'm not surprised you're cross, Bebe. I'd be livid.

Bebe that doesn't sound lame at all, it's no small thing at all making someone's wedding cake, I would also be livid! Sounds like your DH suffers from the same symptom mine does whereby it is apparently impossible for them to keep a day off work actually free . Saying that I'm sure you'll do a wonderful job regardless. Let us know how it goes.

AC I know that book is so depressing, isn't it? Telling us stuff we already know - I found it useful to make DP read it though, I think it takes quite a lot to drum into a man that fertility is a finite resource and gambling with it is a bad idea.

Hmm bebe that does seem pretty crap on your DH's part. You need him to watch DD surely. Will there be anyone else at the wedding who can help you? Good luck with the cake - from your profile pics I'm sure it will be amazing.

100 sounds like you need feeding up then! Nuts are good unless you are avoiding those due to allergy history. Popcorn maybe? (I've got slightly addicted to popcorn )

AC I haven't read Baby Hunger but as I recall it's another one of those books that suggests the reason women are leaving babies till later is because of their careers. Whereas IME the main reason is nothing to do with careers, it's because they are single or their DPs/DHs "aren't ready" for babies (not that we know anyone like that ).

Quod so when is your AF due ... just trying to figure out if our 2wws will be ending at the same time...

Minipie I'm on either 7DPO or 8DPO at the moment, so at the outside AF should be here a week today, to helpfully correspond with a quite-high-stress 2 day trip away with work! How about you? I think you're a bit later, no? How are you finding the 2WW-induced insanity?

Reckon I OV'd on Tuesday (+ve OPK on monday) so yes I'm a few days behind you. If my cycle is the same as last time AF will arrive 6 August, if it's 2 weeks after OV it will be on 9 August. Who knows!

I'm finding it fine this month TBH. First month of TTC was kind of a "trial run" and not too obsessive. Second month I did OPKs and SWId like clockwork so was a bit obsessive in the 2WW and disappointed to get BFP. Now third month, I think I've accepted you don't automatically get an A just because you revised properly (as it were) so am relatively resigned to getting a BFN.

Still, though, there's a little corner of my head going "please please please"...

How are you feeling about it? Do you know what result you would really want? If I told you now that you definitely aren't pg, how would you feel...?

I think I'd definitely feel disappointment along with a swirl of other things if I'm honest with myself! It would kind of be convenient to happen now as a full stop to the endless discussions about 'when', and wonderful to have short-cutted the potential months of TTC agony I've seen other people go through and to fast-forward on to just getting used to the idea of a pg, which I reckon I could do pretty easily! But realistically I know there'll be other months, and I'm hoping that us actually TTC officially is not too far off. I've had a few days of obsessing that I could well be but now weirdly feel like I'm just being silly and I'm not.

Think your exam analogy is a great one to remember BTW!

oops 6 Aug should read 8 Aug in my post above.

Sounds like you are now pretty keen on being pg then ? Well, I guess that means that even if it's a BFN this time, you've "tested the water" as it were and worked out that you are keen, so it'll be less scary when you do TTC?

Know what you mean about convincing yourself that you are, then that you're not. I have discovered that just about everything can be interpreted as a sign of pregnancy if you try hard enough.

It's funny about the exam analogy. I started to think about why I was so annoyed about last month's BFN, and I realised it was because with everything else in life (eg exams), I've always thought that if I work hard enough at it I'll get the right result. So was a bit put out when I did everything possible and still got a Fail. But have now accepted it's only about 25% down to what I do, and 75% down to luck and biology... so not really like an exam at all.

Yeah squirrel, it's not normal to produce milk pre pregnancy, but I could! Had it checked at the hops once as it can be a sign of something - can't remember now, but I was fine and they said not to worry. Thanks for the food advice - yeah no cheese for me, but have ordered a load of extra stuff like humous and avocados etc for next week :)

Bebe, no, no yogs either, but I do have soya yogs, so I have those instead. Re milk donation, I will look into it when I'm established, I'm not sure what the medical history side of things is like, I can't donate blood because of migraines, would hope it's not the same for milk, but if I have to take meds again once LO is here then I might not be able to do it. Sorry you have gone alone to the wedding, I hope you have a good time, and I have no doubt the cake will be ace anyway.

mini, I don't like the texture of nuts, otherwise that would be a good suggestion. Thank you anyway :) I think when I was TTC, I was obsessive over timing etc when in the first month, second month I thought a bit more relaxed about it and low and behold BFP, not saying it will definitely work, but at least I enjoyed the month a little bit more.

Quod I hope it's not too much longer for you to start TTC if this months ups has not 'worked'

Felt better yesterday, not fully Ok, but a lot better :) Still feeling OK today, although I'm still knucking fackered a lot of the time! But that's fine. Have eaten a little bit more, possibly still not quite enough, but seriously there is only so much you can actually eat compared to what I was eating, will take a little time to get to probably eating the right amount if that makes sense. :)

Yesterday I was 35 weeks, which meant 35 days to go never realised the numbers worked out like that till it happened!

Today was meant to be my official last day at work :) Wow, and I think come tomorrow when I'm not on 'sick leave' and am on actual annual leave/maternity leave I'll kind of get more excited about being off work. :)

100years, i seem to have the opposite problem in that i can't stop eating! stops me feeling sick too.

Just been for afternoon tea at Bettys, vey decadent, i could get used to it very easily! It was a birthday present from me to my aunt. She recently turned 60 and said that instead of birthday presents she'd like people to take her wherever they want fo afternoon tea. I think its a fab idea and may use it in the future!

Tea at Bettys sounds lush WYorks! Are you still feeling sick with under a month to go?!

100 it's quite hard to eat when you don't feel hungry, isn't it? Hope you find some nice things to fill up on.

Minipie I'm glad you've come up with that exam comparison because my mind works the same way, and you've saved me working that out for myself! I guess that's what this board is for hey? And yes the imaginary symptoms! Oh god it's terrible.

Posted before I'd finished!

Bebe you're prob still at the wedding but looking forward to hearing how your cake went.

What's everyone else doing this weekend? My DP's away all weekend again (boo) so I might just get some work done, no special plans

I'm home...wish I wasn't. DH & his work is making me miserable. Not feeling very loved at the moment. Not helped by DD being a winge bag all weekend. :(

Will be back later for proper catch up when I have recovered from the weekend!

Oh Bebe. Sorry to hear that DH is being miserable. You'd Cale looked absolutely amazing. I bet your friends were delighted!!!

Minipie the book says it's primarily because women are single or in the wrong relationships - which is due to careers getting in the way of meeting new people and spending quality time nurturing fledgling relationships. It doesn't say anything you don't already know and it's made me even more anxious when there's nothing I can do. Compared with the jobs of the women profiled mine is a walk in the park - only difference being that they all love their work and are uber successful.

Quod you're so right about the benefits of conceiving "by mistake" at this point - they would so outweigh the negatives. No chance of that here though with DH scrutinising the Persona test like a forensic psychiatrist every day.

Bebe sorry your DH is still being a grouch. The wedding cake was fabulous I love the little figures on the top! You're so clever. DD looked so cute as well did you both have a good time?

100years you must be really getting fed up now you've got to the end. I'd hate to have to force myself to eat if I didn't feel like it.

WYorks Bettys sounds lovely I wish they would open one in Leeds.

Oh AC I'm sorry Baby Hunger has made you more stressed, I didn't advocate you reading it at all, just foisting it on the DH.

I do of course appreciate that conceiving after an accident and bypassing all that stuff is somehow cheating! Just because actually I think it's a good thing to come to a hard conscious decision together. On the other hand I've really grilled myself and I don't think I've been dishonest - we both took our eye off the contraceptive ball after being carried away, I flagged it up with DP as soon as I realised, we discussed the MAP and jointly decided to let things run their course.

Bebe can you post a pic of the wedding cake on here? I'd really like to see!

This week is turning into a bit of an agony for me - had some vague 'symptoms' - hot flushes, faint/dizzy spells, needing to get up to wee, really vivid dreams - which are driving me a bit bonkers. All of course could be nothing at all. The end of this week, when it would be sensible to test and find out one way or the other, I'm away for 2 days with a load of work people, and then DP's got a big show the day I get back which loads of people inc his parents are coming down for, not ideal testing times! I really feel for people who have to do this month after month, I fear I would lose my sanity extremely fast.

Minipie - loving the exam thingy...brill! :o

100 - How are you feeling today?

WYorks - One of my friends worked at Bettys while she was at Uni. She loved it! Very sounds fab!

Quod - Could you maybe test before you go?

For non fb'ers here is the cake

DHs black mood continues, I fear he is sliding down the slippery meltdown slope again. Can't face that again & I don't want DD to witness it. Really hoping his therapist can help this week.

Wedding was lovely, a big garden party. Very chilled out. Yummy food, loads of drink, great music & lovely friends! :)

Bebe the cake is great! Really sorry to hear about your DH, trying to look in a positive light at least he's already seeing the therapist so he's in a position to be helped with it. Un-mn hugs for you.

WYorks, I've been trying to eat more, it's been making me feel better, less light headed :) The Bettys tea sounds lovely.

Quod, yeah, there has been no hunger otherwise I would have eaten more, it's more a case of thinking I ought to eat something now as it's been x mins since I had something.

I don't care if it's not MN, but I am a huggy person, so hush for you bebe, sorry you had a shit time when you got home. And your cake was fabby :)

AC, I'm not fed up of it yet? I reckon give me a few weeks and I'll be there saying right get her out of me!

Pah, I was sick last night :( A lot, at a restaurant too :( Boo. Wasn't pleasant, then again at home. And quite a few BH last night. Hobbible. So given I've been trying to eat more, and was feeling better the fact I puked yesterday has put me back a little and feeling bit feak and weeble today. Weight still not gone up yet, hmm, and my friend who came over yesterday asked if I had lost weight, I seem to be a lot slimmer in non bump places.

Got a quiet week before a busy weekend, other than a scan on Wed and visiting a friend on Thursday. Got a wedding to go to this coming weekend, is the last social function/thing planned before the arrival of LO. At the day and evening do, no chance of an afternoon nap during either, ah well, might have to go home quite early from it.

Hope everyone else is OK.

100 oh that sounds horrid, you poor thing. Thought it was only my family that said feak and weeble! Hope you feel in better shape at the weekend.

Well I cracked here and did a cheapy test this morning, BFN. It is only 11DPO but making me reconcile with the idea that my symptoms are most probably largely imaginary! Got to say I was more disappointed than relieved, which I think is helpful to learn in any case.

Yay for other people saying feak and weeble :) I thought it was just me! Bought me a mini hand held fan to try and keep cool when out and about and for when I'm in Labour - Labour OMFG!!!!

Sorry you were disappointed with the BFN, it does kind of show where you are at. (((quod)))