WIITs take things to the third thread, hoping the Gruffalo stays in his bed.

[100years]

Old thread in here

Welcome to the third WIIT thread. Are you all ready for more action?

Recent stats as follows :)

JBells PG#2 arrived! Luca John born 16th May at 3.10pm
mrswantstobeamum PG#1 EDD 17th June
Squirrel007 PG#1 EDD 13 July
WYorksLass PG#1 (boy) EDD 25th August
100years PG#1 EDD 1st Sept. Last working day 29th July
Nannyl PG#1 EDD 13 Sept
Strawberrypie PG#1 EDD 8th October
WhyWait PG#1 EDD 22st November
MrsSatsuma TTC#1 since Nov 2010
ShaggingWithIntent TTC since April 2011
AmandaCooper TTC #1 June 2011
AstroZola (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones It's really complicated, TTC#2 at some point soon
Quodbilet TTC#1 sometime in the future

Settle in for more action and adventure.

Woooo Hooo!! Hurrah for TTC and DTD this morning.
I can never get DH to DTD in the mornings (probably because he is rubbish at lie-ins and likes to get up and get on with things rather than laze in bed!

Hello all! Bit late to the party (or is this the after party?) due to completely failing to check my PMs . Thanks AC for nudging me this way!

I haven't read through the whole thread but re JBells's DH - are you ok JB? Have you spoken to him yet... and how are you doing with the DCs.

AC congratulations (again) on starting to TTC, I know how you feel about not scaring the Gruffalo DH. Oh and as an aside - can't believe you DTD on a Monday morning! I am no good for anything on a Monday morning let alone feeling particularly loving...

Amazed at how many updiffed ladies there are on this thread - I'm hoping that means this thread is lucky and I will soon be the proud owner of a BFP pg test. Actually at the moment I'd settle for a positive OV stick.

Quod, bebe, how are your TTC plans or not plans coming along... or should I not ask...

Hey TTC ladies, does anyone want a box of OPKs?

I bought them thinking I would use them and then we decided to go eu naturelle for the first few months, and then didn't need to use them after all. They go out of date 10/2011, so they won't be any good for me to keep.

It is these ones I got them when they were on offer the one week before we started. The box has been opened(to read the instructions), but the package inside(with the tests in) has not.

I think I am PM enabled. Not after anything for them, bought them that long ago that I've forgotten what I paid.

Keeping FX that I won;t need any and that I've got upduffed this month but sods law says I'll end up PMing you in 2 weeks!!!

Minipie I?m pretty sure you will know everyone on the thread and that they will know you. I?m not sure why you didn?t come across with the first WIIT thread when we were all on the original Waiting to TTC threads together. Perhaps you were off dithering at just the wrong moment!

Don?t worry - BDing first thing on a Monday morning is unlikely to become a regular thing for us. DH and I had been apart since last Wednesday night so it was a special occasion!

100years if SWI gets updiffed this month and I don?t, I?ll be first reserve for the OPKs. I?m telling myself I won?t be too upset if it doesn?t happen first time, because we?ll be in Ibiza when I test and if I?m not pg we?ll be able to get drunk and party all week, which is quite a good consolation. Will hopefully be testing on our second wedding anniversary.

Can I be second reserve for the OPKs? AC I just know you're going to get updiffed immediately (what with all your cycle knowledge)!

Good luck to SWI - when are you testing? sounds like you have a couple of weeks to go?

Well that's it all over DH has gone off on one says I took advantage of him this morning and tricked him. He wants me to take the MAP again. Says if I do have a baby I'll be completely on my own cause he's not throwing his life away on a ch thing he doesn't give a fuck about.

Ouch bebe that sounds really annoying! Do you think you'll be ok with the cake decorating while it's strapped up?

Hi minipie nice to 'see' you again

Grrr at your DH Amanda :( I thought he'd actually come round to the idea this time? Either way, he's being completely unfair by dithering so much and changing his mind back and forth.

DO NOT TAKE IT........
He's just as responsible as you and don't let him guilt you into it. You made a decision together and now he's backing out. It's not fair on you.

I know it's not my place to tell you what to do but that's what I think. I am sooooooooo cross. Grrrrr

There is absolutely zero chance of me taking it. Still less of me being pg on CD10 unfortunately.

How dare he back out again?!! It is unfair of him to insist you take the MAP again. How was it you 'tricked' him exactly???

Cannot believe he is doing this to you, this was his schedule, his decision, his choice & now he is trying to 'blame' you! Am livid at him on your behalf!

This is just typical of DH and his chronic FOF. He actually said that I'd "sprung" it on him "from nowhere" and he couldn't understand why I'd "just decide to have a baby and want to do it immediately".

Anyway in the end he calmed down from his position of total panic and we talked a bit. Minipie told me on the other thread that we'd need a dry run and it was spot on.

Woke up this morning to masses of EWCM so it seems the dry run may have been just in time. Have left DH to think about whether to BD tonight. He was suitably contrite this morning so I think it's not a definite lost cause.

I have mentioned TTC a couple of times haven't I? I'm sure it's come up in conversation...

bebe, sorry to hear you have a traumatised finger! I've never heard of that before, hope the week of strapping helps it. Mine when I did it was middle finger of my right hand, and was a PITA when I wasn't able to use it.

SWI - the wait :( Boo.

squirrel - yay, great that you managed a lie in :) My OH is the opposite way, when I'm really bad I'm worried about something being badly wrong, he's saying it's just out of control hormones - he says the man is pressing the wrong buttons in there!

AC, I had started a reply with well done on the DTD, but sounds like the gruffalo is needed big time now :( Don't know what to say to you.

Hello minipie, welcome back.

OPK list then - SWI, then AC (we will ignore the little outburst from DH) then minipie :) Yay hopefully they will work magic for whoever has them.

Spoke to docs yest (telephone consultation) re hips, sorted out pain relief, he asked about work and was it better when I was off, I explained how it was, able to rest at home, he said if I needed it then they would sign me off. I said I was going to go in this week and see how it went, but if it was bad again then I would come home as I was in tears last week through it and won't put myself through it again. I've also managed (whoa a miracle) to get an appointment at the hosp for 1 to 1 physio on Thursday morning, so will hopefully have a few things to do to help, and get the belts explained properly and maybe try a few of theirs out.

Got appointment this afternoon for a check over due to my history of depression, just a normal follow on appointment, I'm fine - I think, think the major tears were all related to tiredness through poor sleep because of pain and the sh1t shifts at work and the pain I was having, although when I'm bawling I'm obviously thinking it's loads worse in my head! Then tomorrow having a growth scan, then an appointment with the nasty docs, then phys on Thursday morning, and my shifts start again tomorrow, so it's busy times for me, and you won't see a lot of me on here after today, although I will come update after tomorrow's scan. :)

RAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!

Let me at Mr Cooper................

Very good :)

Well done you for talking to him about things and hopefully his little freak out last night was just shock. I'm also pretty sure you said you'd mentioned it to him once or twice

100 - sounds like you've got a very busy few days/weeks!!

Well I packed DH off to London this morning having had 3 nights of DTD and so we are now into the 2ww (or 12 day wait to be precise) and keeping everything crossed :) If I have no luck this month then I think I might make an appointment with my GP to find out if there is anything else I should be doing to maximise our chances.

100 - Really hope the physio can help you, I had exercises to do & tips to how to minimise impact etc. Finger is right index one & it is a major PITA, can hardly even hold a pen or type let alone pick DD up! :( That'll teach me to be messing about like a child with DH...GP told me off (tongue in cheek) said I should know better at my age!! :o

AC - glad you managed to talk to him. His FOF is really very bad isn't it?! Hope you are ok xx

SWI - FX for you...well as much as I can!

thanks Bebe! I feel bad being excited about the 2WW when Mr Cooper is being a prat and ex-Mrjbells is acting like a twat.

AC oh dear. So sorry the wobble happened after all (and in such unpleasant terms) but glad he has been contrite since and hope very much that he comes round.

In a way I think it's better if they come round after a bit of a panic as it's more reassuring that they've thought about it and made their own decision rather than been arm-twisted into it. (Can you tell I'm trying to convince myself of the benefits of a DH with FOF?)

And oh yes, you definitely have mentioned it to him once or twice - there's evidence on this here website to prove it. "Sprung from nowhere" hmmmm.

Good luck SWI, keep us posted! And don't feel guilty, we are all rooting for you.

bebe how's your finger... and indeed your DH?

squirrel very envious of a year off work (roll on that BFP for me!) - enjoy the time off, I hear the main thing is to get all the sleep you can!!

Helo just popping in keep reading but then not having time to say everything i want to say plus ds is being a real cryer lately :( and tiredness is a bitch lol

swi. Dont b silly get as xcited as u want its nice to read good news :)

Ac. I really hope it was just a freak out blip. Dont know wot to say hope your ok

bebe. Hops your fingers ok and it wont affect u to much

right dd dragging me sumwhere will try to get bk online later to carry on with replying to all the news and update u on my still shitty situation regarding ex

hugs

Hello all sorry I went a bit quiet on you yesterday. Thank you so much for your support.

I don't know what's going on with my cycle at all. If the signs are anything to go by (which hopefully they are after all the practice I've had reading them!) I am ovulating much earlier than usual. I had loads of EWCM yesterday but of course DH flatly refused to come near me.

Then, out of nowhere, he DTD this morning without a murmur. Oh except to ask if it was safe, to which I replied "oh come on, you know it's not."

I had a pre-ovulation temperature this morning, so hopefully we haven't missed our chance this month. Will probably fret all day.

100years good luck for your scan, hope it cheers you up to see your baby. I'm glad your doctor is sympathetic, it must make you feel that much better just knowing you don't have to soldier on at work if it gets too much. Who are the nasty docs??

Lol at WIIT Gruffalo! I think it's too soon to put him back in his cage, no doubt my mad DH will be waiting when I get home with the MAP!

SWI good luck with the 2ww dont worry I will be joining you now it seems although my cycle's gone haywire ever since the month I had all that work stress, so I'm not sure when! I'm just going to jump DH as much as possible. Not sure if I'll spot a temp rise though, look at my useless chart!

Minipie thank god you warned me about the wobble, I think we may have caught it just in time. I said to him yesterday that he had to spend the day thinking about it and come to a decision and that if the decision was that he wasn't ready he had to communicate that clearly. And so last night he said we would try, but wouldn't actually try - and spent the whole night playing with the cat. I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with FOF.

It doesn't help our FOM at all, does it!

JBells lovely to hear from you. You sound very positive, even if tired. Did DD drag you off somewhere nice? x

Morning AC

I hope that you are ok. It sounds like MrCooper is having a bit of a tough time deciding what he wants but his actions in DTD when he knows it's not safe show that he's not totally freaked out. Could it be that he worries that it won't happen? MrShagging revealed to me that part of the reason he was putting off TTC was because he knew how much I wanted a baby and he was (and still iss) worried that he wouldn't be able to give me one. Men are pretty silly at times!

Your chart looks quite confusing. Mine is also a bit all over the place this month and it's making me doubt my OV date (not helpful at all) Although I think -I- my thermometer had a bit of a fuck up on Monday (when I should have had the pre OV dip) My Chart

I HATE the 2WW

Oh, and just seen a very good insult over on AIBU that made me smile this morning.
Off you fuck then cuntychops

AC if it's any reassurance my DH has shown no signs of wobbling since... think it was just a reaction to it all becoming "real" after months of TTCing being a purely notional concept. Hopefully yours will be the same.

I think it helps to mention TTCing/ov status occasionally during the day but NOT at the time of DTD - that way I know he is aware of the consequences and still happy with the general TTC plan, but I don't completely freak him out/ruin the romance by making him think of babies just at the crucial time...

Actually my FOM has pretty much receded altogether. Lots of my friends are now pg or recently had babies - I think seeing people I know coping ok with it helps, it suggests I can do it too (though of course I do worry that they've all had easy babies and mine will turn out to be a refluxy colicy clingy type). I'm still not the world's broodiest person but I was never going to be really. Plus of course, DH's FOF means I've had to be the "keen" one...

I'm still [boggle] by why your DH seems to be much keener in the mornings than in the evenings though!?

JBells sorry to hear things are still shitty with your ex but you sound like you're coping well. Hope things are ok.

SWI awww that's quite sweet of your DH really (if a little illogical - I mean he's certainly not going to give you a baby if he doesn't TTC is he?!)

Forgot to pee on OV stick yesterday - doh. Must get better at this!

Yes - please enlighten us as to the morning DTD...... Do you have flexi working hours? work form home? work near home? I have no idea how DH and & would ever manage weekday morning DTD (if we lived together!!!)

Ah yes, [boggle] in my post should be . I always think of it in my head as boggle rather than confused!