Sad and Angry - or am I overeacting?

[Carla]

DH is 27 years my senior which, althought no the norm, works for us.

DD1 has started her second term at school and since she learnt to ride her bike during the hols has been cycling her to school in the mornings. I pick up DD2 from nursery in the car and then pick up DD1 in the car.

This morning DH returns and says 'Some woman just made me b....y angry.

As DH was locking up DD1's bike, the conversation went like this:

A Mother:Is that your daughter or your granddaughter?

DH: My daughter

A Mother: Is your wife much younger than you?

DH: Yes

A Mother: Don't you think a child has a right to a father when they're in their twenties?

DH: I'ts none of your damn business.

I'm absolutely seething! I think it's bad enough to think that way, let alone say it and in front of a five year old. We've only been at the school just over a term and unfortunately neither I or DH know who the woman is. I don't even know what she looks like.

What does anyone think?

My DH is 50 and it's his first child. He has mentioned the fact that when he drops child off at school, people might think he is the grandad. I said 'so f*ing what'. None of their beeswax and quite frankly I would have covered my childs ears up and told her to go forth & multiply.

Also my nephew is 25 and frankly a 'crap' dad. He is still into going out, getting drunk mode. I think that my DH will be fab, more patience etc. BTW I not saying all younger Dads are crap. I get so annoyed when people bang their gums about age & having a child. There is no right/wrong age as long as the child is loved.

I'm 21 and my mum is 60 and it's never bothered me at all. When I was younger I didn't even think about it, she was just my mum. And now it works in my favour because firstly, when people disapprove of me having a baby so young, they can't say I learnt it off my mum, and secondly, it stopped me feeling like the baby with the people I used to work with because some of them were 10 years older than me but had parents the same age so my age wasn't as glaringly obvious when talking about parents!!

As long as you love and look after your kids for as long as you are alive, who cares what age you are? There are good and bad sides to your age when you have kids at any age but no-one should critize you.

Carla - what if the woman was jealous that your child has a young (more active??) mum and a responsible, reliable, wise dad and will have the benefits of both age groups rather than just one?

Carla
how does your dh feel about this now? My dh is now 56 with our youngest a 9 year old. They both behave like a couple of 9 yr olds at times. He isn't perfect but he loves them to bits and they know it. He's given them lots of time and attention and encouragement and they are absolutely his favourite people in the world. They all love being at home - just the way I did as a kid, and my dh never had. We have a very strong home life, lots and lots of imaginary play and in jokes. (It's not perfect - lots of arguments too.) He has all kinds of little individual habits with each of them, has invented huge numbers of games for them and has kept every drawing they ever made. They could have had a younger dad but they couldn't have had one who loves them more.
Maybe this woman's only asset is her youth? It's not one which lasts ...

copper your story sounds the same as mine. My dp is 46 and ADORES our dd who is 2.6. They have their own games and songs and everything. Infact if i sing the song i get told off by her....Age is irrelevant if they are good dads thats all that matters......