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Squirrel those are very wise words. The strange thing about this whole process is that for some reason you imagine yourself to be the only person experiencing things the way you are, which is ridiculous if you think about it. But having said that there are a lot of people on this forum for whom it seems to be a very easy decision without all the agonising and worrying that we have been going through. I don't think that having to wait all this time helps.

Thanks for the picture of the cupcake Bebe- it is gorgeous! I will ask SIL if she could do a similar thing :)

Nice to see you back JS and jbells!

bebe How do you do the rose icing? I want to have a go but have no idea where to start!

Quod Very wise words from the other ladies. If it helps, I felt exactly the same when we finally decided to go for it - even though I'd been wanting to for ages, I was suddenly terrified. I've got over that and am now simply fed up that it hasn't happened yet! Not sure which is worse..?!

squirrel Buying stuff is exciting! Glad your scan was ok. Hopefully you'll find some maternity clothes you like better - have you looked online?

Am feeling better thanks, though not looking forward to school tomorrow. Have been doing work all day - I must get out of the house before bed even to just walk round the block!!!

DH isn't Gruffalo-worthy yet... He's an eternal optimist, and has the highest stress threshold of anyone I've ever met - he's the complete opposite of me in that he just doesn't worry about anything at all. The reason he doesn't say much is because he is just genuinely thinking, oh well, maybe next time, without getting stressed about it, rather than not being bothered. I often envy his ability to be so laid back but it does get frustrating when I want him to be upset like me! (That sounds wrong... I don't like him being upset, but you know what I mean!!) Also when I'm upset I'm probably less rational. Doesn't help that everyone I know got pregnant by second or third month of trying. Hmph.

Have a good week everyone - I'm off to bed!

MrsS (& Strawberry's SIL ) I used a piping nozzle that looks like the top one in this picture but apparently the best one for roses is a 'Wilton 2D' nozzle. Start in the middle & work outwards slightly overlapping as you go. TAKE YOUR TIME, rushing it makes it messy!! Consistency of buttercream is key, too runny & it doesn't hold its shape, too stiff & it is difficult to pipe & can be juddery & splodgy!

MrsS - Your DH sounds like the perfect yin to your yang! Hang in there, it'll happen.

My friend who has been TTC for over a year has told me this week (in secret) that she is PG. They were just starting to undergo fertility testing! SO happy for her, but it really upset me too. Just want it to be me. :(

In fairness if it was somebody else's body and somebody else's career that would be affected, I'd probably be more laid back as well!

Bebe you're turning into a proper cake expert. Those rose cupcakes were gorgeous.
Sorry to hear that your friend's news has left you with such mixed emotions. That must be very difficult to deal with. Have you managed to talk any more with your DH about it or are you leaving the subject for a while? If it helps at all, if there's anything I've learned on this little journey it's that men seem to be able to change their mind incredibly suddenly on this issue .

Thanks Quod! :)

Friend of DHs has had a baby girl overnight. Less than a week early & only 5lb 3oz!

Really need to talk to DH again, I'm just letting some family issues settle a bit. I have a couple of months (to avoid a Dec/Jan baby) so earliest TTC date for me now is May. I just want it more than anything & I can't go a day without thinking about it. DD is my everything & I want it for her most of all! :(

I can understand you making the decision that talking to him about it at a stressful time isn't ideal at all - is the BIL-in-India situation resolving itself?

BIL still in India. He isn't medically fit to fly & is having to have an operation to remove a rib as it is so badly broken! Costing a fortune as medical treatment isn't free, embassy are going to fly him home when they can but have told him he can't complain until he is home as he could end up in more trouble!

Plus FIL is having a really crap time & it is stressing DH out & worrying him half to death. All in all a bit crap family wise right now. Part of me thinks it would be sensible not to add to the stress with me being PG. But on the other hand we really all need some good news & something to look forward to!

Bebe that all sounds like a nightmare, no wonder your DH is stressed.
The situation with the BIL can't go on forever though, right? I imagine he'll be home reasonably soon?

They reckon maybe another 4 weeks or more! He can barely walk and his lungs/ribs wouldn't withstand the pressurised cabin on an aircraft! Just don't understand why they can't get him out of the country by another means. Somewhere safer for him. It's all such a mess! :(

Don't want to drag you all down with my messy situation(s)! Families eh?!

DD is being super cute at the moment...as if she is ever anything else! :o We went & got one of her old babygrows down to put on her 'baby' & she got all possesive over it & wanted to put it on! Scary thing is it is only slightly too big for the doll, mad me all sad remembering when she was that tiny!

WW - :( That all really sucks! (Except being 27!!) Big hugs! When do you expect to hear from Oxford?

Nannyl - Where are you? How was the scan? How are you feeling?

Nothing to report here, still broody...still waiting!

Hello
I am here... sorry have been rubbish at posting.. i keep reading and thinking must post later / after tea / after i finish the phone call etc etc.

Anyway I had my scan on Monday and there is just one . One ver wrggly little baby. seeing the scan was just magical and made me cry.

Still really poorly. was very slightly better at the weekend, but extra extreme sickness began again yesturday and continued for more than 24 hours . was back to keeping nothing at all down and tbh this morning i thought i'll be back in hospital soon.
Made myself eat a piece of toast at 11am and wanted milk (have been against milk for my whole pregnancy lol) and kept it down . have just this minute had 1 more peice of toast and am going to drink some more milk. Am relieved to have managed to get some fluids in me though.

I have friends coming to stay this weekend and really really want to be well then. (often i feel really poorly for a few days then slightly better for another few days, so am hoping extra poorly in the week will give me a few better days)

My friend is 33 weeks pg, so we dont need to do anything tiring, we are planning on taking a trip to the mamas and papas factory outlet shop as they are based up here.

bebe, shocked at how BIL is being treated, hope he gets home soon. your cakes are amazing as usual.

WW sorry to hear about redundancy. hope you here from OB soon

waving to everyone else while i breath deeply

Nannyl - SO exciting! :) I have a theory that extra wriggly 'beans' make you very sick! DD was always super active, still is, I had to have extra scans coz she was always moving! My friend from school who had hyperemesis had a very active LO too who wouldn't 'sit still' for scans!
Really hope you feel better for the weekend! Did you manage to keep fluids down for the scan?

amazingly i did... had a better sunday and monday in the day... i had capri sun which was my drink over the weekend...
dont think i kept much down at all by the evening and nothing at all yesturday (not even ice lolly)

but my drinks change regularly and i couldnt have capri sun now!

Thats just how I was, one day all I could stomach was Grapefruit juice, the next lucozade, then cloudy apple juice, then just water! Miserable! :( You poor thing I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!

WhyWait nice to hear from you, and sorry everything seems to be just a bunch of shit for you at the moment. Apart from being 27, obvs, which is a great age

Nannyl, glad your scan went well.

Well, we're back to waiting over here again as MrQuod has reversed dramatically and after last week's 'maybe we should not bother with contraception' shocker is back firmly in the 'can't even think about how we would cope with a baby until this never-ending work project is done' camp. Who's currently got the gruffalo? Can I borrow it?

PS WhyWait, good luck with your course news. I know (from experience being the perpetual self-employed freelancer) that the no-work-lined-up thing can feel terrifying, but it generally works its way out - something always comes up. I'm sure it will for you.

Oh WhyWait, poor you :( Things do have a habit of mounting up, don't they? Do you enjoy your current job, or can you glean from it a glimmer of won't-have-to-do-it-anymore happiness?

Brookes is a big place for PGCEs and they can take a while so try not to worry. If it's secondary, try sending a (polite of course!) email to Pat (administrator) or Robert (course leader) - see here - to check they received your application. They are both very nice! What sort of work are you after? Can keep an ear open if that helps (am assuming you're fairly near Brookes to be applying there?). And I'm with you on the TTC one, although I'm a bit behind you. I don't know anyone in RL who hasn't got pg at the drop of a hat and it's rather irritating!! I was unconvinced when I read all the reviews, and was suspicious she had planted friends all over MN, but the Toni Wechsler book really is interesting and helpful (although it has told me that my short luteal phase may not sort itself for a good few months, which wasn't exactly what I wanted to hear...)

Quod, I think AC is the gruffalo-keeper - AC is the gruffalo hungry?! If it has taken your DH this long to change his mind back again, it could be that he's just had a wobble and it will sort itself out. Fingers crossed for you!

nannyl glad to hear the scan went well!

bebe thanks for the icing tips - will give it a go.

Off to do some work now...

Goodness me it's quiet on the train! Are we going through a tunnel?

I need the Gruffalo who has him?

DH said to BILs dad today, (when it was suggested that when DD is completely dry it's time to have another one) 'Not now, not ever, she's too much of a handful! Started out wanting 10 then she happened!' :(

Trying not to sulk but it's tricky!

AC where are you? We need the Gruffalo!!

Could you suggest if you had another one that after the intial handful-ness they would help to keep each other amused? Not having kids I admit I am in the dark on this one, but I do remember a lot of time spent playing with my older sibling with my mum in the house but doing other stuff...

That is a brilliant idea MrsS! That is an argument I hadn't thought of! (Probably a symptom of being an only child) DHs little sisters are 14 & 12 & they are really close (still) & always kept each other entertained. DD needs a playmate. And when she's older I feel it's important that she has someone to relate to if (and it is an if) I become really sick. Starting to feel desperate! :(

Hurries back in with a bounding salivating Gruffalo, ready for its two course meal!