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my fave is prob jackson, but think DP's fave is prob luca or isaac, i much prefer lucas than luca hmm decisions giving someone a name for the rest of there lives is so difficult

I like Issac best. Was one of my name choices for a boy but DH doesn't like it!

Strawberry - that's so exciting about your friend. Are you still planning on not telling anyone else until the wedding?

I still feel rubbish today. Was supposed to be going to the dentist but think I might have to rearrange it. MIL can't look after DD either coz she is ill. FIL would sit with her but I'm not sure I'm up to going. Stupid Winter & it's stupid germs!!

I like Isaac too and Lucas rather than Luca.

The dentist is the last place you want to go when you feel rubbish anyway bebe! I hope you feel better soon.

I am finding not telling people about the PG is like torture! One of my friends was convinced I was PG when I was not drinking this weekend and I found it quite upsetting to have to lie. Why can't people wait to be told rather than giving you the 3rd degree?

I think people with DC understand better that even if you are PG it is best not to ask as most people in the very early stages like to wait a while.TBH I don't think I will be able to wait until the wedding to tell people though- if the scan at 12 weeks id ok I think we will tell them then.

I really don't know what to do about a hen night- when people see I am not drinking then the cat will really be out of the bag. i might not have one. Or poss just a spa day with my BF.

I wasn't PG on my hen do & we still just went to the Spa. Was really nice actually. Had drinks and fun at home afterwards. We caved and told most family I was PG at about 9 weeks coz I was SO sick they were getting worried that doctors weren't doing anything so we had to 'come clean'! We then told friends after the scan at 12weeks as it was getting impossible to hide how ill I was with excuses!

Had a bit of a mental weekend. DHs oldest brother went AWOL in India last week after sending a worrying text message. Finally heard from him yesterday. He'd been arrested & beaten up by the police for 4 days apparently! Now he is stranded out there with no money or passport & it's all a bit of a nightmare. Really hoping we can get him home. Only getting dribs and drabs of info at the moment & not sure of the whole story!

Really feeling low again & worrying myself silly about the consultants this week :( Worried about this stupid tooth too. Have cancelled appointment & will re-book later in the week. Just hoping it doesn't get worse! :(

jbells I like Zachary and Isaac :) Zachary is on my list, mainly because I think Zach sounds good with DH's surname.

bebe it sounds like you are having a rough time at the moment :( glad you have found your DH's brother, and hope you can get him home ok.

strawberry sounds like a fantastic day :). It is so nice being able to spread good news! I remember being stupidly nervous telling friends and family both about the wedding and then later about the pg!!

bebe and jbells thanks for the recommendations, will take a closer look at those! I was looking at the iCandy cherry pram online which seems to have good reviews. Only it wasn't in store yesterday so didn't get to see it irl. We also have a yaris, so only a small boot, meaning we need something that folds small.

Hi Everyone,

OK so I will brave it in here, but I'm not looking anywhere else on MN, it's all too scary right now!!!

Flipping heck people, we've had a lot happen in here over the past week.

jbells I'm sorry to hear things have been tough with your partner. I hope you manage to sort things out to a good conclusion, and we are all thinking of you.

Nannyl, you poor thing, definitely contact PALS and make a complaint, it's good that your Dad said he will pay for you to go privately, but there are other people who may be treated the same way as yourself and I am sure you would want to help others if you had a chance, so by making a complaint you will be able to. As for your OH, grr. I really don't know how I would deal with that if my OH had been like that. He did say the one night that he thought I was hamming it up a bit, but I think he was a bit unsure of what to do with me, but he's been fantastic, I hope he keeps up with the new niceness, and believing that you are not doing this for 'effect'

bebe sorry you are feeling unwell. :(

AC thanks for moving the thread. :)

Well I've not managed a puke free day again yet, went to a Christening yesterday and made it through the service, just felt a bit warm and dizzy when we were up and singing, needed food when it came to the buffet, so picked at a few bits, OH asked how I was feeling, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being really bad, 10 being normal (not even fabulous) I was a 4, he said he would have guessed that from my demeanour, within 5 mins I had puked the food I had just eaten. Ah well. Thought it was going to happen again a few times after that, but I wasn't. Started the drive home, but within 30 miles of motorway driving I quit and asked him to drive, I just felt like I might fall asleep - not while driving, but I had that heavy eye feeling.

I'm not too bad sick wise if I only eat little bits, so I have a piece of toast in the morning, some soup lunchtime, maybe a biscuit or two or some popcorn, then a childs portion of tea, if I'm lucky most of it stays in me. But i'm living on as little as possible to stop it. Tired beyond belief, but not sleeping well. Thankfully I'm not at work still, so I have some respite and can get away with doing nothing. Been having very very mild tummy weirdness, I'm presuming hoping thinking it's just little one growing and my insides getting used to it.

10 weeks tomorrow, scan in 2 weeks and 1 day. I want it now, and have had to resist the private scan option several times. I'd like to know, it's bloody hard waiting to know it's all OK.

Saw some friends on Sat night, she is 19 weeks, and OH was asking loads of questions, like how bad has the sickness been, when did you feel better, etc etc, then said I bet that's awful, I'm sat there just thinking I do not want to hear this, anyway, we told them, they were lovely, and understood the whole don't say owt at this stage thing, obviously having been through it once before and now again. But it was nice to talk about it with OH there and alsorts of things. :)

ok im going to attempt to catch up...

sorry if i miss anything but have quite a lot to catch up on...

wYorks V exciting bout booking in appt. Mines on Thursday (though i already have an entire folder of notes to go into my pg notes!)

mrswantstobe how exciting to feel baby move. I cant wait to feel it too but probably have a while to wait yet...
how exciting about baby boy

strawberry HUGE CONGRATS ON BEING PG. How exciting
Also congrats on getting engaged
And congrats on friend being pg too

whywait sorry you didnt get your PGCE course Good luck with birmingham city

100 sympathies for being sick. Its horrid!

jbells sorry to hear things arnt great with DH. Hope it sorts out soom.
I vote Isaac

bebe congrats to DD for the loo! Hope you are feeling better and GRRR that DH isnt going to see consultant with you Hope bro in law gets home soon

really sorry if ive missed anyone of anything...

well i feel like i am getting a bit better i managed to eat a fair bit yesturday (toast, a sandwich, choc bar, orange and a yogurt) and kept most of it down

It was my mission to get up today, but so far, ive failed and am still in bed, feeling dizzy with no energy at all (despite sleeping solidly between 10.30pm and 10.15 am) Will try this afternoon.

Had a few mouthfuls of breakfast but would have vomited if id have eaten any more.

Im going to try and book some acupuncture to see if it helps, and i must complain to the hospital about my treatment.... having a wrist band with name on shouldnt be optional!

Hope everyone is having a good day, and the sick ones arnt too sick!

Hi all, I hope everyone had nice weekends! We got a lot of baby shopping done, mostly picking out big ticket items to buy later, but also bought some clothes now that we're not stuck with gender-neutral colours! I love shopping for tiny boy clothes I'm also looking forward to my first pregnancy yoga class tomorrow.

Nannyl, I'm glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better and that OH is being more supportive. I can't believe he accused you of making this up! I hope he's on his best behaviour now. Great news about your father being able to help out so you don't have to go through another NHS nightmare.

Strawberry, congrats to your friend! I think it would be fab to be pregnant at the same time as a close friend. I know what you mean about people being nosy about early pregnancy. I think it is really insensitive for people to put you on the spot, as you would tell them if you wanted them to know. Those with DC should be especially sensitive regarding why you would be keeping it to yourself, but I found people with kids to be the most insensitive. I was actually outed by one neighbour (a mum with two small DS) who called me out at just six weeks. I admitted to being pregnant as I didn't want to lie, but made it clear that we weren't really telling people yet. Next thing I knew, various neigbours whom we hadn't told were congratulating us. I would have been really upset if we had had an early MC and then the whole neigbourhood knew about it.

Jbells, what's happened with DP since your argument last week? I like all of your names, but Isaac is my favourite. I also like Lucas better than Luca.

Bebe, at your BIL's situation...I hope everything is okay. Good luck with your consultant and with the dentist.

100years, sorry you're still not feeling well, but good that you're at the 10-week mark. It should get better for you within the next couple of weeks.

How did you get on nannyl?

bebe hope you're feeling better - let us know how the appointment goes.
Glad the sick people seem to be getting less sick, if slowly!

Have decided probably the only thing that'll make a big difference to my anxiety levels is changing schools and/or going part time. Neither of which is an option until we have DC, which is fairly rubbish on the one hand as that isn't going to happen any time soon, but on the other hand at least I know it's a fairly concrete plan. DH is happy with it as he likes doing the whole 'me man me protect and keep woman' thing anyway! (in a good way... he's not at all old fashioned about house work etc and we share it all, he just likes the idea of looking after me and kids).

On the slightly odd side, rather a lot of people at my choir now think I'm pregnant because I had to run out of a rehearsal last week because of a panic attack. They thought I was being sick and have jumped to conclusions somewhat!!

right to try and catch up a bit

firstly thanks for all your views on names :)

2nd to quickly update you on DP situation and not bore u..things are still touch and go but we are just trying to kinda avoid talking about it anymore hoping to get out together one nite next week even if its just to the pics or something, hopefully things will slowly improve, i really dont want to start a childs life with there parents not liking each other.

mrssat- r u panic attacks getting worse or better my younger brother suffered from severe anxiety and panic attacks for around 2 and a half years, i think for around 12-18 mmonths of that he barely ever left the house except when i dragged him out to walk the dog with me, he is much much better now but still has days where he tells me he is starting to feel panicky and nervous

mrsW- i have been doing pregnancy yoga for about 7 weeks now and really like it took me a while to get into it at first but now i really look forward to it and will be doing it till the baby is born and then im planning to do post natal yoga hopefully, also if u have any aqua natal classed by u they r fab :)

nannyl- i am so glad u have managed to keep a lil bit more food down, i really hope u r over the worst now

100- sorry u have been feeling so ill too, the first trimester is the worst so atleast youve only got a couple of weeks left and your scan to look forward to :)

squirral- have u managed to c any prams u like?

bebe- sorry your feeling ill agen, i really hope u get on the mend soon, u most feel like your just oicking up one thing afta the other :(

sorry if ive missed anything important and big waves to everyone else, i hope everyone had a lovely weekend

100years I also found it hard to resist the private scan option, it is so tempting! Glad you're feeling ok to eat some stuff now, and at 10 weeks you should find that you start to feel better soon.

nannyl I agree that you probably need some time to get your energy back. You must be getting towards 10 weeks too?

mrsw exciting about the baby shopping! Do you feel like there's a lot to get?

mrss how funny about your choir jumping to conclusions!

jbells I hope you are able to work things out with your DP, it sounds like you have a good attitude :) As for prams, I'm not sure yet. Will look at the ones you and bebe suggested, and need to find a place with the icandy cherry to try that one out. Then will probably go back and try them all again!

im 9 weeks tomorrow

made it out of bed today and walked to the post office (about a 1 - 2 min walk so not really far!)

have acupuncture tomorrow and im hoping it helps!

i know i want a mountain buggy and a maclaren!

Glad you are feeling a bit better Nannyl :) FX for the accupuncture!

With the mothercare travel system that I like it's had some negative reviews about it being bulky when collapsed when using the seat bit in pushchair mode. But by the time we were using the upright seat mode in DDs big pushchair she was big enough to use the Maclaren so we put that in the car & kept the bigger one in the house. Such a personal thing though, silly as that sounds. Really does just depend on what you will use it for, when you will use it & how often! I know it's not as fancy as some systems but I would love a Maxi Cosi car seat for 'next' baby & I can use that on the frame. As I drive around alot I need to be able to just take a sleeping baby out of the car without too much hassle IYSWIM. So that works for me!

DH was in a right state when he came home last night. Found him sat in the living room hugging DD & crying. He won't even talk to me about work, just says it's all getting on top of him. Really really worried that he is going to have a breakdown like he did before. Not really sure what to do. :(

Feeling very full of cold today. YUK!

Hope everyone else is ok, at least the sun is shining! :)

oh bebe

thats not good news at all. Though he has been really stressed for months and months now hasnt he?
doesnt sound good, esp if he wont talk about it
[HUG]

Well i had quite a good day yesturday and was almost feeling 'ok'...... then in the middle of night when i was asleep, it was just like someone flicked a switch........ "BING" and the horrendous nausea just switched back on, straight into 'unbearable' mode, and ive been vomiting since

at least i have lots if fluids in me at the moment, so im hoping i can just ride through if for a couple of days and that it might just switch off as magically as it switched on.
Hope acupunctue helps too

Blimey nannyl you're really having a rough ride. Sorry to hear it. At least if you have felt better for a bit and have recharged your batteries a little, maybe you don't feel so hopeless and like it's never going to end? [glimmer of hope emoticon]

Bebe really sorry your poor DH is so wound up. Will he not speak to his counsellor either? The situation with his brother must just be loading on the stress too. It must be so frustrating for you wanting to help him and not being able to.

Sending positive thoughts to both of you (and you 100)

Jbells I like all your names too - Lucas more than Luca, but prefer Jackson or Isaac.

Nannyl - I had days where I felt a bit better & could eat etc towards the 'end' of the worst of it. Slowly the days I felt ok became more and more and the days of utter crappiness became less & less. Haribo, Hot Cross Buns, Pizza & Micro chips became my staple diet I know not healthy at all but for a while they were the only things I could stand near me! I could only stand to drink water, original lucozade & pink grapefruit juice! Really hope the accupuncture helps & you get some relief.

DH won't talk to his counsellor & I don't have her number. He says he doesn't have time during the day to call her :( His dad just doesn't seem to understand either. I know he is stressed out too, but he piles so much crap onto DH & like I've said before he's doing the work of 5 people. Juggling jobs & he is starting to get confused. This is just worryingly familiar :(

No idea what is happening with his brother. His mum rang in a state on Sunday & we haven't heard from her since either. We gave her details of the Foreign Office & British High Commission in India so hoping she managed to get him some help.

Oh my goodness Bebe! I hope you are ok during all of this. Could you talk to your FIL or MIL directly about your worries about DH or would he be upset if he found out?

Something has to give though and I'm sure it would be better for DH (and youf FIL) to have a few days off now to try and get himself sorted than be off for months if things get worse?

You must feel so frustrated and worried having to watch and not being able to help. I really feel for you :(

I hope things improve and your BIL is ok too.

Nannyl how many weeks were you when you started with the (not just morning)sickness? I hope you feel better again soon xx

DH has had to wire money to BIL so he can get a plane ticket home. The police made him empty his bank account apparently before they would give him his passsport back. Really not sure what's been going on. Foreign office didn't help, said it was a matter for the local authorities!! MIL only has a mobile phone so "wasn't about to spend hours on the phone to Delhi"! Trouble is we are getting dribs and drabs of info from DHs mum & she is probably described (at best) as flakey!! (Must point out that DHs mum & dad divorced when he was little, and FIL is married to lovely step-MIL & DHs mum is a bit...erm...unstable ) Hopefully will find out more when BIL gets home.

Despite this, DH actually seems a bit more upbeat today. Hoping it's not a front.

Morning all

Bebe, shocking how BIL has been treated just awful. Hope he is home safe and sound too.
Hope DH is actually ok and not just pretending.

Things not great here....
i had acupuncture and got 3 hours relief from sickness.
then i vomited my lunch afternoon anti sick tablet, and tea, and by late evening i couldnt keep down anything at all again

could not even swallow saliva without vomitting.
Goes without saying that i vomited my evening anti-sick tablet too.

Pretty sure i will have lost a lot of fluid yesturday.

Managed to keep an anti sick tablet down this morning and am trying to drink while i can. I know i need to eat but if i try at the moment im sure i'll just vomit the small amount of fluid i have managed to drink so stuck between a rock and hardplace at the moment.....

spoke too soon...

just vomited the lot in bed and over lap top

Nannyl - can you maybe ring the GP and see if they can give you an anti sickness jab? Not sure if they are allowed in PG, although I'm fairly certain I had one in labour At least it might give you some relief rather than you puking up the tablets that are supposed to stop you puking?!?!

No word on BIL yet. He apparently has 9 broken ribs from the beatings he was given! Will know more when he gets home. Can't believe he wasn't given any help. He was wrongfully arrested & pretty much targeted by the police because he was a foreigner! (This is MILs version, we will see how close to the truth it is when BIL is home)

You girls are doing a good job of putting me off pregnancy, it sounds awful. I hope it goes away soon, feeling sick all the time would make me completely miserable.

Bebe I was sorry to hear that your DH is in a bad way. This thing with his brother couldn't have come at a worse time. How's he doing today?

• the sickness I mean, not the pregnancy, obviously!

Consultants today, feeling really nervous, just don't want to go :(

goodluck bebe let us know how it goes, hope you r feeling a bit better

nannyl i really hope u feel better 2 2day and manage to keep something down