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Right apart from charting, me taking folic acid and DH taking zinc and both of us eating healthily, me going to the dentists and light exercise all round, is there anything else we can do to improve our chances and make the next three long months more meaningful? 

'Practise'?! :o

Lol, happy mothers day, Bebe! Have you had a nice one so far? x

I never thought I'd be so thrilled at the sight of someone taking zinc supplements!

there is some evidence that having alchohol out of your system and BOTH abstaining for at least a week before you are trying helps. (we did it!, and got pg exactly when planned)
Also pretty sure there is stuff about caffeine too, but only for you, i think caffeine can help sperm swim.

I gave up all alcohol / caffine 6 weeks before we Tried, OH gave up acohol the week before and during all the trying so about 2 weeks in all.

Some of my more lentil weavery books (where pretty much every food is banned other than raw organic home grown food from your garden )
suggest the benefits of sleeping in dark (except for 2 - 3 days around ovulation) (ie get a black out blind!) we did this.
Also goes on about removing all electrical appliances from bedroom. I settled for phone charges and clock being allowed but didnt have anything else. (ie kept laptop downstairs always, rather than sometimes)

Oh and most TTC books all go on about aspartane, and how best to avoid it. (I gave it up completely 4 months before), but i dont trust it and "avoid" it all the time anyway.

Even many of the less extreme books go out about how eating proper healthy food, rather than processed food full of chemicals is much better as body isnt working so hard removing this wierd toxins from the system, and if just fed normal unprocessed food, can then concentrate on digesting normally, as nature intended, and so not upset delicate hormone balances, and result in better chance of conception.

Worth a try in my opinion too, can see the sense behind it!

We did all of the above and got pg at 1st try. (except only eating raw organic food home grown!)

Good luck, oh and yes lots of practise

(also beware that lubricants can effect sperm too so best to avoid)

Thanks nannyl I knew there was wisdom on this thread! I don't know though if I can manage most of that! Luckily I'm no longer obsessing so much about getting pg first try. It would be nice if we did, as LO is likely to be at the tail end of the school year as it is. But there's only so much I can ask of DH, he's only very tentatively on board so I need to pick my battles.

No chance of black out blinds in our place, the windows are absolutely huge. I sleep with an eye mask, it's way cheaper than curtains! Assuming it does the job just as well, on which days should I not wear it? Can do no electrical equipment.

First month trying, if all goes to plan, we'll be on holiday, so I think that should help with the relaxing, good food etc.

Thanks AC! Had a alright day! Got some lovely tulips (yesterday) from DD & a cook book. But I got up first & I got DD up & gave her breakfast. I made lunch. I hoovered & did some washing & all the washing up! I cooked dinner. I have taken DD to the toilet every time. Oh, and I also did some research for DH & did some spreadsheets for him! Not really anything other than a normal day with some cards & pressies first thing this morning! But I guess it was peaceful, in its own way!

Nannyl - that is some full on stuff there! You certainly were very committed, don't think I could have been that strict with myself...and my DH would tell me to sod off! Think you deserve a gold star! :o

As for giving up the aspartamine (or whatever it's called) my DH drinks Pepsi Max by the truck load, which has it in. I've tried to get him to stop as it has been linked to some male cancers, but he just won't! So it's not just TTC I'm fighting a losing battle on!

oh also the grape fruit and pineapple juice... you drink one until ovulation, to make CM more sperm friendly, then the other for the next 2 weeks ish to aid implantation.
i think its grapefruit followed by pineapple but may be other way round?

most people seem to get pg without doing most of that stuff. i think relaxing and enjoying it is the most important bit, holiday sounds like perfect oppertunity!

sleep mask = as good as blackout blind. dont wear it for 2 - 3 nights around ovulation

Not sure what happened with the BOLD

Hello all. Happy mothers day to all the mummys and mummys to be. Well my wkend has bin gud and bad

it was my bday sat and cos things hav bin.so bad was feeling very sorry for myself there was a couple of cross words but overall dp put his shittines on hold and took me for a meal and pics in the evening while my mum babysat.

Today was ok started the day with a couple of presents and got made a cup of tea. Dp took me for lunch but dd was having one of her todler strops which took its toll and cue and arguement. I trief to put it to one side but dp decided to sulk for a couple of hrs

Bebe so u dont feel left out on my birthday and today i did dishes. Hoovered. Took bins out. Put wash on etc lol i did however come home to my mum having scrubbed my bathroom when she babysat last nite. :) no wonder some people stay living eith there mums hehe

I've tried drinking grapefruit juice to increase EWCM, it worked like a dream!

Ladies I think this is pretty normal even for mothers day! JBells it sounds like on the whole things have been good. It's never going to be easy having LO. DH and I have been having stupid rows today, mainly cause we are both overtired - everyone does sometimes.

JBells - Poor you! Me & DH always snap at each other when DD is being difficult. Just makes everything seem worse somehow doesn't it?! :(

AC - I've been doing the grapefruit thing too, I'm not sure I've noticed any change!!

It def does bebe especially when we both want to deal with it in dif ways i want to do everythin i can to distract her and keep her from throwing a wobbler and dp jyst wants to ignore her and let her hav a tantrum in the middle of a busy resteraunt which just really stresses me out :( its easy to ignore and disciplin at home but not when your surrounded by people watchin and tryin to hav a peaceful dinner

It's awful when they do that when you are out. You just want the ground to open up & swallow you!!

Bebe you must at least have noticed a feeling of wanting to barf every time someone mentions grapefruit? Lol

Good morning
WW so glad your scan was ok, and amazed you saw anything
W Yorks congrats on a healthy blue one

Bebe / J bells so sorry to you spend mothers day / birthdays doing mundane household chores. Im sure when your DC are a little bit older they will spoil you as you deserve.
Quod, sorry your week was crap but sounds like your DH is fab

Bebe so sorry you are having such a tough time talking to DH. Cant even imagine how hard it must be to be in your shoes
I need to feel lucky and count my blessings i think.... OH runs his own company with his brother, and they employ a few people full time, and odd temps here and there etc. He is employed by his company so in my mind has all the rights of an employed person... hmmm... getting him to take his 28 days holiday a year is pretty much impossible. Failed last year and will fail this year, although he does accept he will be having 2 weeks paternity pay when baby comes along. My arguement is you are employed you HAVE to have it, when baby comes he will be having every day as baby will want to see him. His arguement 'ok he is 'employed' but he pays himself (set amount on pay day, at same time as his employees) and he needs to be there, and his company is our future so he has to be there all the time as much as possible'. GRRRRR. He does work very hard, and never has a lunch break, and is always there mon - fri, 8.55 - 5 / 5.30ish, but he says thats alot less than other people who are self-employed / run their own buisness. It probably is and i should be greatful, but it does niggle me when he wont take much time off. We are lucky, though as his warehouse is just a mile down the road, which is a nice walk down a foot-path (old disued railway line, no traffic etc) OR a walk through the village park, so will be nice to walk down with baby, and when older he / she can safely walk / ride bike / skooter etc without being able to even get to busy road!

I found grapefruit juice made a difference for me too

Quod mayb u cud send your dp round to.give mine tips lol

squirral. Im also very jelous of yoyr week.away hope u have a lovely time :)

Thanks nannyl. I cant wait till there both old enuf to understand and cum in the bedroom singing happy birthday :)

AC - I actually felt sick this morning drinking it as it reminded me of my ms when I was PG last time (it was the only thing I could drink at one point) But actually I don't mind grapefruit! :o Just wish I was actually doing it with purpose rather than in desperate hope!

Nannyl - That's pretty good hours for being self-employed! I'd love my DH to do that! He's always working! I guess it's just the nature of his line of work! :( I do feel like it always comes first though which makes me really sad. DH hasn't had a proper holiday/time off since DD was born! He took 4 days off!!
Sounds lovely that he works so close, you'll be trotting down there in the summer with lunches then?!

Nanny, i had to smile at you taking baby down to your DH's work as that is what i was planning to do sometimes. My DH's office is a mile walk from home and you can get most of the way along the canal so i was planning on taking lunches and sitting in the park nearby when the weather is nice. I'm thinking of getting a baby jogger buggy so i can go for runs along the canal, i miss running!

I've discovered you can take maternity leave as early as 11 weeks before the due date, i'm very, very tempted!

AC, the holiday when trying to conceive is my recommendation, it worked for us!

We are nearly sorted for names now. The middle name was easy and we are down to 2 first names.

Ha yes but jbells I think it's got to be much easier to be a good thoughtful partner when you haven't got a small person driving you crackers throwing screaming habdabs on the floor all the time...only time will tell...

Blimey LOADS to catch up on since I was in here last!

WW it IS hard not telling people, but it's lovely to be able to talk in here about it openly.

Well done strawberry on your scan :) We didn't get freebies at the scan, I'm hoping at the next one I will get all the bumpf.

Yay a little boy person WYorks, was it obvious?

j bells, I'm sorry things are not any better for you. We are wanting a pram as opposed to a pushchair for the first part, I want the baby to be able to lie down properly.

bebe and Quod - hugs, I think that's all I can say. x

AC I can't really say what 'helped' us, second month for us properly trying as the first month was too late to count. Neither of us drink much alcohol, and in fact I actually drank the 2 days surrounding conception given that it was my birthday and I didn't think I would ovulate that early!! Ah well. I don't touch aspartame anyway as it sets off my migraines, so didn't have to think about leaving out the artificial sweetner stuff. And as for the actual DTD we did it every day that weekend! I know the first month I was really stress about it, and the second month (the one we conceived) I was a lot more if it works then fabulous, if it doesn't we will keep trying. and I can't drink grapefruit juice, so I never had that 'help' but I did drink pineapple juice for a few weeks.

Sorry if I have missed anything.

I'm now sporting what I would class as a bump, although people who don't know I am preg probably think I am just fat, people who know me are commenting on it now :) I keep talking to the bump and the baby which we have given a name while inside me, and stroking the bump.

Went to Aquanatal class today :) thought I was the baby of the group in terms of gestation but there was a woman there about 7 weeks pg!

I keep looking at my bump in the mirror when I see it, it's fabulous, can't wait for it to look like a proper baby bump now. :) Last week was funny, my OH lifted up my top looked at me for a while then stated I had had a growth spurt :) Then I put on a pair of leggings that didn't cover the bump and a t-shirt that didn't reach the leggings, so I had to put on a bump band at home! Belly is growing. Appetite is back and weight has not changed yet :) Still 2 stone down on start weight.

100 enjoy the lil bump while it lasts i amw huge and gettin very fed up i am also almist 2 stone up on my pre pg weight i really hope i dont put on much more but with 6 weeks to go i reckon i can atleast ecpect to fain another half stone

jbells, can you see everything moving inside now? Well if I put on 2 stone I will still only be the pre preg weight, but it's not how I would have planned it, puking etc for weeks.