Ugly baby???

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This may sound mean/not very maternal.... but does anyone else worry that they will have a 'not as cute as i had thought it would be' baby ... its not a thought I have very often,,, just sometimes.... and its not like I would love it any the less...probably would just laugh... maybe just being irrational!!

I think all babies are beautiful to their mums, almost all toddlers are beautiful to everyone, most of which go on to be pretty attractive kids. It's that aura of smooth-skinned perfection - I loved looking at the little downy hairs on DS's face and arms, snuggling into the curve of his neck, admiring his perfect ears, feet and hands, etc etc...But sad to say there are not that many beautiful adults, so something happens along the way!!!!

florenceuk you just reminded me my dd was born with amazingly hairy ears! She had lots of hair on her head, but I actually trimmed the ear hair after dp said that she reminded him of a wearwolf. Other than that she was adorable.

my dad's mother told my mum I was the ugliest baby she had ever seen when she saw me in the hospital. I turned out to be "stunning" in some peoples opinions and OK in mine.

I guess what must be worse is having a really cute newborn that turns into an ugly toddler... like my brothers kid who was the sweetest thing you ever saw when born... is now 2, has sticky out ears that are too low down, dribbles all the time, snot everywhere and then his mother shaved his head. hideous.

My dd1 looked just like Clive Anderson with jaundice when she was born. There was a hideous slapper of a girl opposite me with a divinely gorgeous little baby boy and she peered at mine and rasped "yours is a bit yeller in't it?" in strong mancunian accent - I rose to my full height and announced majestically "Olivia has a touch of jaundice, yes."

Children's smiles are all gorgeous, however many teeth they have and however crooked they are - why isn't that true of adults too???

I have a thing for backs of necks - babies' are so vulnerable, small children's so delicate and appealing - but again, adult ones just don't do it for me. (Not sure if that's sad or a good thing - it would be a bit dodgy if I went around the supermarket gazing at them!)

Dahlia, LOL at "yours is a bit yeller, in't it?"!

Its only when you look back at the photos you realise that a dribbling red cheeked Mohican haired 9 month old is not the vison of beauty you thought at the time.

i think thats the ugliest age.

Dahlia Mine had a 'touch of jaundice' too...you made me giggle.

I too think that they all look gorgeous because they have silky soft skin. I could just chew ds's cheeks off because they are so kissable. And his neck is lovely too. I constantly get people flirting with ds on the bus, or in cafes, because he bats his long lashes at them. People always tell me what a lovely looking boy I have, and I have to bite back the urge to say, 'I know'.

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One thing that didn't cross my mind when I was pregnant was whether or not I would have an ugly baby. Maybe I'm strange but I had plenty of other fears and worries.

But I remember waking up on the ward the morning after giving birth, having been taken up there in the middle of the night when everyone else was asleep, and looking around at all the other mums and their babies. I spotted a girl I'd been at school with and she was holding her baby girl who had been born a day before mine and she was all red and wrinkly like a skinned rat. I then looked at my daughter and thought how beautiful she looked, not wrinkled at all and a nice pink colour. And she's still a gorgeous little girl and looks ever so cute if she has her hair in bunches.

Every mother loves their baby no matter what since they are theirs.

The worst is when people say "Oh what a lovely pram!!!"

The worst thing is when people say "Oh what a lovely pram!!!

that pram comment made me laugh a lot!

can i just say that i think it is offensive to be prejudice about red/ginger hair. i have brown hair myself so i am not saying for myself, but i just don't get why people are so weird about red hair. did you know that in the uk, in about ten years time, there will be more natural red heads than blondes? time to dump the prejudices folks. look at Julianne Moore and Nicole Kidman - very lovely.

I agree about the redhead thing - well I would I am one... but have to say my husband is really hoping we dont have a redhead and that dont bother me!! Giner girls far cuter than boys I think.... and I havent got 'flame' red... dark auburn really.... everyone tells me it skips a generation (i got it from nan) but dont know if thats true... I honestly don't care much as having a red haired baby would just make it all the more 'mine'!!

I think red hair is lovely - DD2 has a beautiful friend with long wavy red hair. My brother has 2 redheads so I was a bit miffed that I never got any (DH's fault, obviously).

newgirl, where did that statistic come from? I am fascinated!

that statistic came off the bbc one news a month or two ago - it was shown with a video of lots of blonde people in stanstead airport! something to do with more scottish blood than scandinavian blood in the uk now.

My dd was gorgeous just like a little doll and she still is pretty. But ds was an ugly beachball and he had RED HAIR!!!!! But he became gorgeous quite quickly and he is now strawberry blond

Girls are red heads, boys are ginger.

sorry ds had ginger hair

When I look back at dd's first few months I could die of shame. I was quite convinced that no-one would have seen such a cute baby and insisted on showing photos at every opportunity when I returned to work - cringe! I was quite, quite mad. Now when I look at photos of dd from birth she looks like a crumpled-up baby bird (not a cute fluffy one, a wide-mouthed scrawny one with its eyes closed!) And then until she was about 8 months she had a head like a football. Dead loveable, but not the little angel-face I thought she was at the time! Of course, NOW, she's the toddler equivalent of a super-model...

Lol, at some of these comments. I did worry about having an ugly baby too (I thought it was just me...)

At my 20 week scan my ds (first child) was diagnosed as having a cleft lip and palate. Some of the photos I was shown of 'cleft children' were awful - even the post-surgery pics were pretty dreadful, and my sons' cleft was going to be a wide one.

By the time my ds was born I was grateful that I had been forewarned. When he was born he was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. The cleft was smaller that I had been expecting and he had the most amazing huge blue eyes, with fantastically long lashes. I spent days just looking at him.

Then he had to have his op (at 1 week old) and with those photos I had been shown I was worried that he would look worse after surgery than before.

The little girl who was operated on before ds came back looking incredible, and then ds came back - and his repair didn't look as good as the previous little girl. But I guess it was just because he looked different to what I was used to.

Five years (next week) on he is the most stunning little boy ever. He is gorgeous, we had a fantastic surgeon and his repair is one of the best I've ever seen.

When I had dd, I had no concerns about whether she would be and ugly baby. If she continued where her brother had left off, she would be beautiful - and she was, and still is.

I love the newborn stage - I still think my babies are beautiful as newborns and at every stage since

Sorry this has got so long, who needs therapy when you have mumsnet...?

fio2 lol about the ginger comment it brought back a memory! I sat my driving test at 8 months pregnant (and passed though he didn't make me do an emergency stop). My driving instruster told me when he'd had his first child he was late and the baby had been born and the first thing he said to the doc was "IS IT GINGER".eeeeeeeehhhhhhhhhyou ave to laugh!!!

my dd was gorgeous when newborn.honest she had a head full of blach hair and the first thing i noticed about her was that she had her daddy's nose.(squarish nostrils, sounds weird but i know what i mean!!!)

I think red hair is lovely. And wondered when I was pregnant if our baby would have red hair or not. Although dh and I are both dark blonde when Dh hasn't shaved for a few days his stubble has a lot of red in it, which apparently he gets from his dad. Dd is actually blonde but there are some strawberry blonde streaks as well which I think are pretty cool.

There is a little girl in my dd's year at school and she has lovely red hair as does her mum, brother and baby sister.

when I was little I always wanted red hair and when I was a teenager I tried red tints in my hair (done by a hairdresser) but it wasn't the same.

i die mine red, i've nothing against it