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Ugly baby???

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Spod · 27/08/2003 22:49

This may sound mean/not very maternal.... but does anyone else worry that they will have a 'not as cute as i had thought it would be' baby ... its not a thought I have very often,,, just sometimes.... and its not like I would love it any the less...probably would just laugh... maybe just being irrational!!

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eyelash · 29/08/2003 00:01

When I was pregnant with ds1, I worked close to Covent Garden and got out every lunchtime to have a walk about. Obviously lots of beautiful people and also some ugly ones as well. I used to drive dh mad with my descriptions of the people I had seen and how much I didn't want our child to look like them. Sat to bf ds2 in M&S changing rooms in Covent Garden as well when he was 1 week old - woman sat next to me and said he was absolutely gorgeous. I asked if she had any children, and she said no but she worked on Practical Parenting magazine so say lots of children and reiterated that ds2 was absolutely the most beautiful baby she had ever seen. She didn't ask if I wanted to put him in for baby modelling though!

Finally, my dh has lovely red hair, I am dark and our ds are both blond. I really wanted them to be at least strawberry as I think it is a real feature nowadays.

Ghosty · 29/08/2003 01:08

I was convinced my baby would be ginger ... was looking forward to it ... (my dad is ginger and so is my DH) and so I watched DS as he got past the newborn stage to see if his hair would be ginger and his eyes would be brown like DH ....
By the time he grew any hair (at 12 months) it was blonde and his eyes a pure blue ...
Maybe this next one will be ginger ... I think red heads are gorgeous ...
Did you used to discuss with you partner about which bits of him and yourself you would like your baby to inherit/not inherit? I wanted my baby to have my eyes, DH's bone structure etc ....

Northerner · 29/08/2003 12:13

It seems I opened a whole can of worms with the ginger comment. Of course it's only light hearted, and I will love any child of mine regardless or appearance. But can I say that I appreciate that women with red hair can be attractive (nicole kidman etc), but how many sex god men can you name with red hair?

I've thought about this and I can not think of one.

Red haired women generally have beautiful porcelain skin and flowing locks.

Red haired men are (IME) tall, geeky, pasty pale and go horribly blotchy when they've had too much sun. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!

SamboM · 29/08/2003 12:17

Yes, my dh, dd, dog are all red and I love it.
Am a bit gutted as dd's hair is going lighter and I really want a redhead. Who wants boring brown or blond/e hair?

SamboM · 29/08/2003 12:19

Oh and Northerner my dh is gorgeous and has beautiful glinting gold hair and certainly not horrible pale skin or carroty hair.

You are a racist! Anti red is as racist as anti black in my book

bossykate · 29/08/2003 12:20

northerner, damian lewis from band of brothers and the forsyte saga.

prufrock · 29/08/2003 12:26

Northerner I'm completely with you. DH's cousins have exactly the same colour red hair. The girl is gorgeous, the boy is really really ugly. (I really like him, but he's terrible ugly)

I used to talk to dd wilst pregnant and gave her strict instructions not to come out with my chin (horrid and sticky out pointy) or her fathers toes(really curled up) Guess what, she had both!

SueW · 29/08/2003 12:46

I have met two very gorgeous ginger men. No point in sharing their details as they aren't famous but would never write them off!

SoupDragon · 29/08/2003 13:58

Fio, my red head/ginger post was made before I saw yours! I wouldn't have posted it if yours had been there first. It wasn't in response to your red headed DS, honest!!

Rather unfortunate crossed posts really

Bekki · 29/08/2003 14:33

Although my ds was gorgeous at birth, I wasn't convinced that he was mine. I was very suspicious of him for at least 2 days. I'm very pale with auburn hair and freckles and my ds was born with a mass of jet black hair, grey eyes and an incredibly dark complexion. I hadn't imagined that he would look exactly like my dh, I was quite shocked.

He was very cute at birth but at 6 weeks he started changing and his face looked too small for his head, it was all very worrying but they change all the time so enjoy every last minute and take lots of photos. His head is now perfect, btw.

easy · 29/08/2003 14:37

Prufrock,
It was an early lesson in child-rearing. Whatever you tell your child not to do, that's what she'll do.

expatkat · 29/08/2003 14:53

Motherhood doesn't seem to have provided me with rose-coloured spectacles. My dd, now 11 months, isn't & has never been that good looking, and I admit it. Even when she wears dresses people assume she's a boy. And occasionally, when I compliment the mother of an attractive baby, the other mother will look at my dd, clearly wanting to say the same, but, being unable to do so honestly, usually doesn't say anything at all.

Maybe people do call her ugly behind my back, but those are exactly the kind of people I find hard to take seriouslyso I can't say I care. I just feel lucky and privileged that she is (apparently) healthy and 'normal' and hope there is something inside herintelligence, a soul--that will last her serve her better and longer than beauty. Sorry if that sounds heavy, but I think it's true.

SuzySue · 29/08/2003 15:04

I have to confess that my dd isn't the prettiest little girl. She's 14 months and is very boyish, quite big for her age and always with tatty hair and snotty nose. But she's still the most beautiful thing in my eyes!

She was born with a Strawberry Neavis (Spelling?) in the middle of her forehead so we get quite a lot of stares and under-the-breath comments (unfortunately often from people who should know better).

Still I wasn't the prettiest baby also very boyish looking (she inherited my fat/chubby cheeks) and I turned out pretty well actually - even though I do have ginger hair

judetheobscure · 29/08/2003 15:17

red-headed gorgeous man - Robert Redford.

Northerner · 29/08/2003 15:22

I've never noticed taht Robert Redford is a ginner - this can not be true!

badjelly · 29/08/2003 16:28

My first comment when I saw dd was "oh she doesn't look like ET!" Mind you she came out as big as a 3 month old, and yes she has 'strawberry blonde' hair.

fio2 · 29/08/2003 17:37

Soupie my ds isnt red/ginger hes strawberry blonde!!! honest didnt take offence anyway thought you were joking

Dahlia · 29/08/2003 17:59

Robert Redford is always blonde on my telly!

tallulah · 30/08/2003 14:38

Northerner, there are different types of red hair. 2 of my DS have inherited my mums auburn hair (yes it does skip a generation- she got it from her grandmother), with a peaches-and-cream complexion (not white/ red & blotchy) and very dark- almost black- brown eyes. I think you are thinking of that pale orangey ginger that goes with very pale skin & light blue eyes.

I was very disappointed to have a blonde blue eyed DD as the first one- my fantasy DD has auburn curls & brown eyes!

motherinferior · 30/08/2003 17:15

I've managed red hair despite an Indian mother (!) - get it from half-Scandinavian dad. IME people react quite strongly either way to it: they either think red hair=hideous or red hair=very sexy indeed (guess which group dp belongs to?). I like it. Despite the assumption that it means you're hot-tempered which is NOT TRUE AT ALL, YEAH RIGHT????

I have to admit my first glimpse of dd2 was 'oh dear she's not as gorgeous as dd1'. Now, nine weeks later, she is rapidly transforming into a clone of her sister - who is IME (and admittedly in others' as well) quite magnetically beautiful. I genuinely slink past modelling agencies worried that agents will come out and abduct her.

aloha · 30/08/2003 21:48

My red-headed stepdaughter has very pale, translucent skin and pale blue eyes and I think her colouring is very, very beautiful. Her hair is an amazing auburn with gold lights. She's immensely proud of it. I tell her to look after her skin as it is so special all the time - though did a fake tan for her recently as she wanted to see what she'd look like brown. Ds has buttery blond hair but I know he will go darker. I find him intensely lovely and always have. But I also agree that qualities such as perseverance, kindness and charm count for more than looks in the long run.

aloha · 30/08/2003 21:49

BTW, motherinferior's dd does look like exactly like a Junior covergirl so she's not deluded a bit.

anais · 30/08/2003 22:00

I actually remember a red-head man I fancied once - don't really go for red-heads myself, but he was rather sexy.

Female red-heads are nearly always beautiful.

judetheobscure · 31/08/2003 22:17

Just to show you unbelievers that Robert Redford is a redhead (although admittedly in some films it comes across as more strawberry blond) this has some good pics.

misdee · 31/08/2003 22:33

i thought my kids both looked squashed and very red when they were born, not very attractive tho most babies look like this. my dd1 is a cutie but a madam with it. she has pale skin, brownish blond hair and huge brown eyes. my dd2 is tall, stocky, with a mop of dark curls and lovely brown eyes too. she has inherited my high colouring as well, so always has a red tint to her cheeks. i've been told she is cute in a cabbage patch doll kinda way. i did have several offers from people wanting to buy her when i was doing a car boot sale eatlier today lol.

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