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when did you lose your virginity?

155 replies

juice · 25/09/2005 19:20

hi, i seen this topic on another forum and what an array of answers, so was wondering what it would be like on this forum.

i was 14 and he was 35 years older

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MaloryTowers · 25/09/2005 20:35

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Rhubarb · 25/09/2005 20:35

I'm a re-born virgin.

Jackstini · 25/09/2005 20:40

17 - so was he. He is now married to one of my best mates and they have 2 kids!
Saying that - I was very late to lose it compared to most of my friends - some started at 12, average was 15. Scary & sad.

rummum · 25/09/2005 20:42

I was a late developer...
when I was 14 I looked about 10!!
I think I was about 17...

starshaker · 25/09/2005 21:07

its sad to know how many people were forced i was 18 when it happend wont say who to any1 incase some1 reads it or finds out. told my mum a couple of years ago but dont think she believed me. i did tell my sis when it happened and she said not to say anying as no1 would believe me and would think i was after attention

RayMacCooney · 25/09/2005 21:10

ooh was he famous ss

starshaker · 25/09/2005 21:11

no a family "friend"

steffee · 25/09/2005 21:12

How awful?! Why wouldn't anyone believe people about this.

My sister was forced at 13 and she told me. I wanted to kill him, I think I actually tried and ended up getting arrested for drunk and disorderly, but I told the police when they were letting me go. They phoned our house every day wanting my sister to make a statement but she wouldn't.

starshaker · 25/09/2005 21:14

it was 6 years ago why the hell m i still botherd about it. it happened thats it nothing i can do to change it. but it still really get to me

QueenEagle · 25/09/2005 21:24

I was 14 when I "properly" lost mine but had been engaging in sexual activity (heavy petting kind of thing) since I was 12.

Aside from those who have been forced/coerced/raped on this thread, low self-esteem is most definitely IMO a trigger for losing your virginity too early. I know it was in my case. I am really shocked and saddened by those thirty/forty yo perverts who thinks it's ok to have sex with teenager. Disgusting.

bonkerz · 25/09/2005 21:30

I was 16+12 days exactly! Can remember exact date as well 23/10/1994!! HAd been seeing him for about 4 months and he was gorgeous! He was also a virgin and we were together for about 4 months after the deed! Not very glamerous though cos it was on a field behind a tree!!!

Amai · 25/09/2005 21:34

I was 18 he was 24 with dredlocks! I lost it with my socks on in the middle of the after noon.

galaxy · 25/09/2005 21:37

15 and 5 months. He was just turned 17. We were then together for another 5 years and married (now my ex).

Someone very close to me lost hers at 16 to her best friend's father and is now married to him. They've been together for 26 years now. He was 38 at the time.

morningpaper · 25/09/2005 21:39

On my wedding night aged 18!

QueenOfQuotes · 25/09/2005 21:46

I was 18 - slept with 5 guys in total in one year, all Zimbabweans (got a thing for them ) the 5th being my DH

vickitiredmum · 25/09/2005 21:52

Starshaker, it takes a long time to get to the point where you realise its not your fault, and a lot longer to stop remembering it every day/anniversary etc. It eventually gets to the point where you can say - it happened to me (thats hard enough to get to in itself) and to say that it no longer forms part of my character or who i am anymore. You will get there. Its a good thing to be angry about it too as long as you're not angry at yourself.

Passionflower · 25/09/2005 21:55

19, OMG at the number of mners that have been forced as kids!

I worry that I tell DD's they are beautiful and special too much and they will be vain and conceited. No amount can be too much if it helps prevent this.

Branster · 25/09/2005 22:20

18 1/2 to exactly the guy i wanted. not in love but he was great and really kind. you couldn't stop me afterwards! till I got married and settled down.
i agree about the self esteem. my family, my mum in paticular, always made me feel good about myslef and valued as an individual. i have always been realistic about myslef and my looks and know perfectly well am not the best looking woman in the world but i'm not that bad looking and certainly make the most of what i've got (left! getting on a bit now!) and have the confidece to believe i could have anyone i wanted if i wished to. and my mum always complimented me on my best features, she never said something about me was perfect or beautiful if that was not the case but she never ever cristicised anything about my physical appearance. i always tell dd how beautiful she is and encourage her to admire herslf. howvere she's not at all interested in girly things!

motherinferior · 25/09/2005 22:24

I was 18 when I first had penetrative sex but I'd been having loads of other sorts of sex for a couple of years.

HappyMumof2 · 25/09/2005 22:29

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Hulababy · 25/09/2005 22:33

Really saddened that there are so many forced

I was 17, and it was with my (now) DH, who was also 17 (and first time too).

Bugsy2 · 25/09/2005 22:36

So sad to hear of all the unhappy first time experiences on here.
I was 18.5 and it was so much fun. I didn't tell my boyfriend that he was my first because I didn't want to make a big thing about it and I wasn't nervous, more curious. Quite alot to drink certainly helped me feel relaxed about the whole thing. It was after a Christmas ball at college and I can remember it so clearly.
Almost 18 years ago. Still brings a smile to my face.
I would be so happy if my dd or even my ds for that matter, had as good a first experience.

lilsmum · 25/09/2005 23:34

vickytiredmum...good post

it did take me a LONGGG time to realise it was nothing i did and to put the blame at HIS door, not mine, the hardest thing to deal with for me was and is...i still have to look this family member in the face, as no one knows, but i know i can hold my head up high and not be ashamed..which he cant do.

vickitiredmum · 25/09/2005 23:48

Good for you lil. Its taken 14 years for me to get to that point. Im still shocked at how many others like us there are, and more so that its happened more than once like me too. Such an untalked about thing for something that goes on so frequently.

lilsmum · 25/09/2005 23:51

me too, i thought for years that it was something i did, because it happened with 2 different men...but i finally realised its not me..its them.

it has taken me prob the same amount of time to finally accept and move on and most importantly be happy