Welcome to the Seventh Heaven Tea Room (BYOB. Biscuits, crisps and cake provided)

[Catitainahatita]

Hello and welcome to the seventh incarnation of the tearoom.

If you have found us by chance and/or curiousity you must know that the tearoom is a virtual safe haven for all those seeking a friendly word, a good cuppa and plenty to snack on. By virtue of its magic nature, no food can cause any physical damage, so chocolate, alcohol, transfat and all such can be consumed guilt- (and magically calorie-) free.

We have a wide range of soft-furnishing to relax on; a lovely garden with a swing and a ha ha; a variety of animals; a spa and (for some unknown reason) an apidistra.

Everyone is welcome, if you have one child, ten or none at all. We are a tolerant and fisticuffs-free zone. Instead we employ our energies swooning at Mellors the Gardner cum handiman thinking a silly things to get up to.

Please come in and say hello. You never know, you may end up joining us ...

But basically, with all the ID filed off, poor behaviour is one thing when the school backs you up, and entirely a different thing when they don't, indeed they actively undermine you.

I had followed school policy throughout.

Mutter mutter

And they wonder why they have behaviour problems...

I have just tottered back in from Catita's thread about safe and non-confrontational spaces and so on.

It's all a bit fraught and I don't want to post on the thread or say anything about it except to ask whether anyone can tell me how the safe space would work. It wasn't clear to me, even after I'd read 12 pages, whether the safe space would be set aside for discussion of special needs issues or would be a wider space for all kinds of non-confrontational discussions. At one point it sounded as if all tea room-type threads which exist around MN (which obviously would include this one) would be located together. Is that part of the proposal? Or have I misunderstood? Can Catita or Justa enlighten me?

Secondary, MT

I'm very happy for this tearoom to stay where it is.

Yes, but I'm just trying to work out whether the proposal which (I think) has by now already been put to MNHQ is going to have a direct effect on this tea room.

I'll go and rummage in site stuff and see if anything becomes clearer.

Is that because this is not the safe type of tearoom thread, but actually a pretty bitchy one?

Or because it's nice to friends and just bitchy to anyone else who disagrees with your friends?

Sorry - just thought, given that you're offering the SN board advice for free on how to be nice to Amber, I could perhaps offer you some of the same about the rest of us.

You don't know the people over there, so to take their personal details about their children, twist them, then mock them when they get upset/annoyed about it takes the piss.

Don't you see how hypocritical it is to slate people on SN for being mean to your friend (who must be right, because she's your friend - and nobody was actually mean; it was a debate) and demand safe spaces for her, and then invade others' space and use details about their world to create bitchiness?

Cos if you don't, you should.

And at least I have the guts to actually say it rather than hiding (not very well) over here and making snide comments.

If you have lived MrsT's life and met her son, you can comment. To have no knowledge whatsoever of her life and still post that shit is just

Directed mostly at Mistlethrush's last comment about being happy where she is.

MELLORS!

Looking at OP on this thread:
"Everyone is welcome, if you have one child, ten or none at all. We are a tolerant and fisticuffs-free zone."

hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

What on earth????

Who is this person and why has she just showed up here and started to spout meanness like that?

Dear givemesleeporgivemechocolate, here is the door -> don't let the doorknob hit you in the behind on your way out.

Okay, can we please stop this now? I'm sure that everyone is or should be sorry that they interfered where they weren't wanted, and no one should have made snidey comments about people with SN children, but this is turning into a pretty nasty situation for several people on both threads and it's not helping anyone.

I agree, things have been said that shouldn't have, I agree that people have been upset who needn't have and perhaps we could just let it lie now and go our separate ways?

I've just lost the long post I had composed but won't try to recreate it, as thumbwitch has said it all very succinctly.

This thread was started as a safe haven from all the sniping about the creation of the one child topic. I really hope it can be a peaceful and amicable place.

Hello Givemesleep I am afraid I have no idea what you are talking about

you are welcome to the tea room if you want to chat -as the OP says - but that doesn't seem to be your intention

Thanks Donk but after that I need a drink.

What was that all about???

Without wishing to raise the spectre again, it was about the thread catita started with good intentions to try and create a situation where amber could feel safe from having her brain fried. Things were said in here that probably shouldn't have been, in reaction to amber's distress, and SN parents have been very upset by them. It degenerated. It is best left now, please.

Now, who wants a Pimms? Or perhaps a large Whisky Mac? And a large bar of chocolate wouldn't go amiss...

oh dear. large whisky and chocolate please, and soothing all round

Wine.More.

MOST HUMBLE APOLOGIES.

This without a doubt is my fault. If I had not been so stupid as to post in anger on one of the SN threads last week I think none of this would have happenned.

As I said on Saturday, I felt I had let the tearoom down. This evening's events only confirms it for me.

If my continuing here will cause more problems I will retire with a sad wave.

Catita
This Donk, for one, would very much like you to stay!

I clearly said things on this thread to try to help Amber which have now been quoted out of context on the other thread. Clearly whatever is said is not going to be acceptable and I'm not going to get involved further.

Anyone for a cup of tea?

Justabout (love the current name btw) - I'm not going. I got very up tight about things I said being quoted out of context - which made things worse I think - but decided that whatever I posted would have been taken the wrong way so didn't bother. Thank you for saying that though

How are things - what happened in A&E and are things fine now - have you any early scans or anything coming up?

BTW - have you seen that MaryBS has been joining us and is nearly at the end of her course to be a Lay Minister? And I do wish you'd have a word with the Bishops - the aerobics are getting a bit much - and the synchronised swimming in the lake is frightening all of the fish, not to mention the Bison and most of the regulars in the tearoom.

Touching wooden desk as we speak... xxx