Getting bored with MumsNetters who ...

[Mulanmum]

Leave their 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 kids to cuddle each other and play harmoniously whilst they come onto this topic to tell us that only children are:

spoiled/spoilt
likely to prefer their chaotic household to the sad and lonely bleakhouse inhabited by an only child
will be lost and lonely without the comradeship of sibs when parents die

and that they have never met an adult who enjoyed being an only child

and on and on and on!

It isn't helpful for those who, unlike me, would have liked to have more children.

I don't go sticking my nose into the Larger Families topics posting tactless and unhelpful comments about children I know who LOATHE being one of TOO many or adults who DETEST their brothers/sisters.

Supportive and constructive posts are welcome from multi-kid mums but if you can't manage that then please get back to your kids and stop little Jasper hammering on little Jocasta's head.

Thank you

[MrsMattie]

'People like ME'?@Mulan. This is the first comment I have ever made in this topic. What do you know of 'people like me'? Do you even know how many kids I have?

To be fair, I actually have NO opinion on the topic. I have never given it a moment's thought. I would NEVER even think about, let alone judge, people on the number of kids they have. And what is it to me if other peope want to share experiences and support each other on an issue they may personally find important in their lives? Great. Go for it.

But don't chuck it, love. I simply responded - once - to what I saw as yet another tiresome, nasty thread in this topic (of the many which regularly clutter up my Active Convos).

I shall remember to put it on ignore in future.

So calm the fuck down.

[PuzzleRocks]

likely to prefer their chaotic household to the sad and lonely bleakhouse inhabited by an only child

Yes MM our friends did prefer our house. Just because you don't like it doesn't detract from it being the truth. What a nasty twist YOU put on my words. My god you are precious. You have barely been here a month and are causing nothing but trouble.

[SheikYerbouti]

I have 918374198237192837198237192873198237192873192837198237198237192837 kids.

So put that in yer pipe and schmoke it

[PuzzleRocks]

And that was a post to someone asking if they should have another chld, nothing to do with you. BTW it's bad form on here not to address a poster on the thread in question. For someone who doesn't like swearing you have pretty bad manners.

[Miyazaki]

I agree with Bucharests first post - and no bucharest and Mulanmum are not the same - Bucharest has been here for aaaages.

[Tiggiwinkle]

My goodness, you do enjoy annoying people don't you Mulanmum?

[Saturn74]

I wonder whether a topic that has only got 21 threads in it to date, yet has already caused so much conflict, will have much longevity?

Will MNHQ lose patience if they have to monitor every thread in a certain section because they always kick off?

[Mulanmum]

LOL at people telling me to calm down - I'm perfectly relaxed, it's those of you who "do not see the point of this topic" and have "no interest" in it but are READING it and POSTING on it that are getting worked up. Just ignore the topic and let those of us who want it get on with it without each thread being spoilt. It's like a form of petty bullying and we all agree that bullying stinks. Or maybe some of you think that bullying is fine.

[MrsMattie]

Oh you really are a bore. Consider yourself IGNORED.

[Mulanmum]

Humph - MNHQ don't monitor threads. Do you want the topic to be removed? Is that why certain people "kick off" over here?

[MaureenMLove]

MM, can't you just ignore the posters are are spoiling these threads? If you are having a nice chat with others on the thread, just ignore the ones you feel are not being helpful.

[Saturn74]

MulanMum, I don't mind which topics are on MN.

As far as I'm aware, I've never posted on a thread in this topic before - although I could be wrong, as I haven't searched - I just post on threads in active convos, as opposed to searching by topic.

I mean that regular posters on any topic need to exercise tolerance of the opinions of other posters. It is counter-productive to be defensive and aggressive.

MNHQ may not monitor threads, but if a certain topic causes constant conflict, it must be very tedious.

It may be nice to think that a certain topic of MN is a cosy corner where only like-minded people will post, but that isn't the reality. An open forum will always include people that disagree, that's part of the attraction.

It's not fair to attack people who don't agree with you, and act as if they are trespassing.

[Tortington]

if i want to post on a subject i think is stupid then i will

whats your point?

[kittywise]

MM you belong o netmums or some other such weedy wet website, not here where real women reside.

Go away.

You have nothing of value to contribute, that much is clear.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

oooh get me I'm trespassing

[UpJacobscreek]

MulanMum ,You do come across as quite up your own arse bitter .

[blueskyandsunshine]

why all the crap thrown at Bucharest and Mulanmum?

never seen Mulan before but her op is obviously borne of profound frustration

even if you think Mulan's spoiling for a fight (rather than venting, which it looks like to me) surely the fact that Bucharest also said there is a lot of bile around on this issue should give you pause?

I think you're all being really horrible. There must be something behind their upset.

[blueskyandsunshine]

plus I think there IS such a thing as barging

eg someone popping on to a "what do I do about my nanny thread" to say "you shouldn't have a nanny in the first place"

eg someone (me ) popping onto a weaning thread to say why are you so worried about carrots it's all vaccinations anyway

eg someone popping onto pedants' corner to say "what's the matter with you boring wankers go and get a life"

etc etc

of course it's allowed, of course it's an open forum, of course anyone CAN but fgs it's not nice and it's a bit pointless and it's a bit (a LOT) like looking for a fight

[filz]

what's the matter with you boring wankers go and get a life

[combustiblelemon]

Mulanmum starting another thread about road safety lessons:

"OK I know this isn't really a one-child issue but I feel more comfortable posting here - don't run the risk of someone replying "stop being so precious, I've got 9 kids and I just left them by the roadside for an hour and they learned about road safety the hard way" .

I think that it's Mulanmum who has the chip on her shoulder.

[MerlinsBeard]

mulan-you seem to forget that those of us with more than one child did, at some point, used to have an only child (unless they had twins first) so the whole purpose of this section is very strange!
i don't expect there to be a 3 child family section.

and fwiw i don't look at the subject when i click a post, i come to posts via active convo's.

[Tortington]

i was an only child - my mam left me to play in the road

nowt wrong wi me i have developed a nack for going from vertical to horizontal in under .2 or a second. Dh doesn't think its a bad thing

[squeaver]

I was also someone who wanted this topic, in fact I actively campaigned for it. Don't want to go over all the reasons why I still think it's a good idea but there were some good debates at the time with good arguments from both sides. That's what MN is all about, after all.

What I don't think is a good idea is using the topic as an opportunity to be divisive and throw insults at other people with different life choices. That goes for both sides but - I have to say - it's not helped by deliberately starting a thread to do just that.

I don't really want to get involved with all this nonsense but I'm a bit dismayed by what's happened on what was supposed to be just another place to chat to people in the same situation and help each other out.