Getting bored with MumsNetters who ...

[Mulanmum]

Leave their 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 kids to cuddle each other and play harmoniously whilst they come onto this topic to tell us that only children are:

spoiled/spoilt
likely to prefer their chaotic household to the sad and lonely bleakhouse inhabited by an only child
will be lost and lonely without the comradeship of sibs when parents die

and that they have never met an adult who enjoyed being an only child

and on and on and on!

It isn't helpful for those who, unlike me, would have liked to have more children.

I don't go sticking my nose into the Larger Families topics posting tactless and unhelpful comments about children I know who LOATHE being one of TOO many or adults who DETEST their brothers/sisters.

Supportive and constructive posts are welcome from multi-kid mums but if you can't manage that then please get back to your kids and stop little Jasper hammering on little Jocasta's head.

Thank you

Jesus. This has got to be one of the most pointless, mean spirited sections of MN. Thread after thread of 'one child families versus the world' threads. Definitely one to put on IGNORE.

Neither do I, just feel compelled to protest at fvckwittage.
Must go, my poor only child is sobbing in the corner because she has no social skills........Just like her only child mother......and her only child grandfather......

I have one child and while I can see that it's upsetting to be attacked for that (whether it's a decision or not is kind of neither here nor there), attacking people for having more than one is pointless and bitchy as hell. Plus I'm sad that Twiglett's gone.

I hate all this divisive shit. I was quite keen on the topic at first but I wish it'd go away now

i dont understand the point of this topic either

Bucharest, where on this thread has anyone else mentioned anything about social skills?

It appears the OP lit the touchpaper and then retired to a safe distance.

How seasonal.

I was keen to have this topic because I think there genuinely are issues about having an only, which it would be useful to be able to discuss in a positive and supportive atmosphere.

But it hasn't turned out that way - and I think there are individuals on both sides of the divide who are contributing to the bad atmosphere.

Therefore, I'm hitting the "Hide" button for this topic.

can I just mention that I clicked on this thread because of the op. I have never posted on here before.
I clicked because sometimes postings that start with " i wish people wouldn't do..." are informative. they may be about something that I have unwittingly done that has upset others.
Reading the whole thing I was just struck that it seemed deliberately offensive and i didn't understand why. It seems that this section is contentious but I haven't looked as I don't want to make matters worse.

But I will know in future to give this section a huge swerve.

My Dh had no siblings but his parents were total twats so probably for the best. I am one of eight. So I guess I have a broad base of info anyway.

The op is bitter. i is pointless. i am an only . I HATE HATE HATE it.
I have 6. maybe they will hate that too, who knows. All we cn do is try ur best.

Well I could say to the op at "least my kids have each other to cuddle whilst I pass the hours on here. But that would be a particularly nasty thing to say wouldn't it?

Are you well known for starting pointless and deliberately antagonistic threads then?

bucharest - don't you imagine that parents of more than one children aren't having the same argument played out in their heads too?

I fail to see how being so unpleasant about multi-children families makes any earlier nastiness any better. I missed it all and I think I'm glad.

I am offedned that the OP has presumed that my kids are Jocasta and Jasper.

Little F'breeze and baby Kody-Jay-Sunset-Boulevard Froot-Shoot will come and get ya laters, innit

Is Bucharest and Mulanmum one and the same?

I's not like we can do much about it either. If you are an only child, it's not up to you if your parents can't/won't have another. If you have 3 dc (like me) tough. You have siblings.

What is the point of this thread? You might as well say - all those who have green eyes don't you wish you had brown eyes?

If you don't like a topic, don't click on it!!! Its quite simple. This is an internet forum, it's not god and as such, it shouldn't take over your life so much that you need to start a thread like this.

There have been a few threads started here, that are relevant and interesting to discuss, but really, is there any need to get wound up by posters that upset you? You don't know them and they shouldb't impact on your life. If it does, then you are in too deep and need to get a life.

I'm a parent of an only btw, and frankly I couldn't give a flying fig what people say on here about them, I just don't get involved! I love everyone, me!

Chill out babe.

MrsMattie If it's a "pointless and mean spirited section of MN" then it's because people like you are spewing their bile on it! It was set up to be supportive and fun but some bitter MumsNetters are spoiling it. Why? I'm not gay but I don't have a problem with there being a topic for gay parents (for example)or student parents or single parents or chicken keepers!

Spice No-one has attacked anyone for having more than one child, for heaven's sake! You are making it divisive.

well, i read the thread because we are a one child family and i have a look every now and again

but really, i don't find anything entirely relevant about the fact i have one child on these threads

they seem to be mainly ' oh how fab to be a one child family' which yes, it is fab, not because she is an only, but because she is my child

am i making sense? i fear not

"You are making it divisive"

ROFL

Look chaps, MM is the same one that doth not like swearing on Mumsnet. She thinks we are all puerile and thick because we pepper our speech with cunting expletives.

Now she is insinuating that all of us with more then one child are neglectful to our children and that we let our kids run feral while we come on Mumsnet and swear gaily and freely.

dosen't matter how many kids you have, we are all staring at a computer screen at this moment ignoring our offspring

we are united

Ah but, I have just the one and she's 13, so I don't need to actively ignore her, she's ignoring me!

yeah
unite !
Go lurker...

my mum was an only child and alsways wanted a brother or sister - she provided me with one of each and couldn't understand why I wasn't grateful, or how it is that I could be so care-less of my brother, who I can't stand.

I know only children who are happy that way and others who aren't. But I can see it would be upsetting to be told that you are being selfish or creating a spoilt brat by having a single child, if you can't have any more (like my bf)

No we are not the same person. I like swearing. You'll have noticed.

Mulanmum are you DrPumpkinheads mate?

I'm making it divisive?

LOL

korma talks sense - there are logistic issues about having hundreds of children that are of no relevance to those of us with few kids. That's why there is a point to having a larger families topic as far as I can see. Apart from either a) worrying about having an only or b) smugly telling yourself how much better a parent you're being as your child doesn't have to share you, I can't see the point of the onlies topic. What else is there to discuss?

Damn. I forgot to swear