Is 49 too old to be a dad?

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What's peoples opinions on the dad being 49 when you give birth? Is it acceptable?

And? There are many people who are young at 70, others less so. My mother died at 54. My son has a friend who has just lost rheir dad, girl of 6, dad of 35.

What is the actual point you are making?

IMO yes... the thought of parenting a teenager in my sixties is horrifying!

Someone said something like this to me when I was a new mum aged 43. Met her again a few times over the years. She and hubbie less than ten yrs younger than us. Honestly, I don’t think you’d even notice and the one with the least grey hair is my husband - the oldest

How are your children now ?

Dh was 49 when our last child was born. I wouldn’t say he’s ‘old’ but he’s definitely getting more tired these days!

Just one, in sixth form now

My dad was early 50s when I was born, apart from a few comments of him looking old, he definitely didn't act it and was the best! Don't let others put you off.

But if you don’t start having kids until you are 38+ there’s so much you can say ‘been there, done that’ to and you don’t have to face being a grandparent until you’ve retired. Different things suit different people, there is no single approach

What's his health like, does he drink loads and eat rubbish, or does he eat well and exercise? If the latter id say go for it, if the first id say he might not be around to know his kids for very long and might be too tired to help with the baby.

You know him best though so go with your gut and what works for your family and ignore what others say

Most disabilities can be screened for so this would only be a risk if you wouldn't consider termination

Also, if I met the man of my dreams and wanted another baby with him I would have one whatever his age (I couldn't see myself dating anyone much above 50 though actually, I'm in my 30s)

I think you should go ahead then if you want another one

My husband is 55 with a 5 year old and he's fine.
Im 40. We wasn't ready til I was 35 so we axryaivekt chose for in to have a baby at 50 I suppose

What the hell is a "mid life grump period"?
Dear lord, the ageism on here!

My father had his youngest daughter at 52, second family situation much younger wife, I am 22 years older than my half sister, he was the best dad and we were both very lucky to have him - it’s not about age it’s about the person, being in your 20s or 30s does not make you a good parent.

Exactly and you are only 34. Based on you have a small baby already and your age I would do it OP... like now though. Hurry!

Usually MN don't feel 45 is old for a woman.

We’ve just had a baby, husband is 49. It was a surprise pregnancy but dh is wonderful with the baby.

Boris just had his 8th at 59 and I doubt hes done yet.

It wouldn’t be something we would want.

It’s not so much a baby at 49, it’s when you think the child will be starting secondary school when he’s 60 and he’ll be parenting teens in his 60s, heading towards 70.

You already have a young child with him though so in your position, does him being a couple of years older than last time make much difference?

Such an amazing father. Why wouldn’t you aspire to that?!

He might be a good dad? I have no idea.

Did you not see his interview with Mumsnet Justine?

No

I know a man who had his first child at 60 & now has a second on the way. He's having the time of his life.

Most disabilities can be screened for so this would only be a risk if you wouldn't consider termination

This is dangerous misinformation