Tea Room the Nineteenth

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All in need of a restful break and a chat are more than welcome to the nineteenth Tea Room.

We find ourselves in the South of France, where the warm sunshine is just the thing for those who are missing the summer. The tea room has its aga and its distressed chintz sofa...and its potted plants. The usual fictional tea room inhabitants are here, as ever: Mellors, the gardener/handyperson with the handy ways with massage; the collection of tea room animals including the horses, camel, bison, guineapigs and sundry others; the Bishops and other faith leaders who joined us a while back and potter in for the occasional cuppa. It may not make sense, but that's not important. What matters is the lovely people here and the chance to just relax.

It is 6PM Sunday night - I have spent the whole weekend working and I am still nowhere near finished....

... and (even though I was only giving the tasks on Friday) one of the tasks is due in tomorrow first thing while the other (that I have done) was to be e-mailed this lunchtime - SERIOUSLY I had a Sunday deadline!?!

I think I am going to be up until the wee wee hours which I really don't want to do as it will mean my classes will be crap tomorrow 'cause I will be tired!!!!

We are going to have Another One Of Those Nights ... Wriggle has just narrowed her eyes at me when told that there will be a bath in ten minutes, banged her cup (messily) on the table and shouted, 'I'm afraid, Mummy, I totally disagree with you. ......... But I love you.'

Alternative health type people - AP was prescribed arnica by her doctor for her arthritis and I have been giving her more to help her with the bruises after her fall, but have just read on tinternet that Arnica can raise blood pressure, which is another of her problems; fairly obvious at her advanced age. Does arnica seem like a good idea in that case?

Hmm. Could this be a good moment to produce a steaming hand-thrown-by-potters jug of hot chocolate and some home-baked ginger cake?

ROLF at both Wriggle and Milk. Is this what I have to look forward to with BabyScout?!

scout - ... I had to give birth to our dog five times this morning and this was even before getting out of bed to make breakfast! You are going to love having a 4 yr old!!!!

TASKS all done just normal planning to do.

WAAAAAAAAAAAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

I'm about to go make some dinner, but I have to say how BRILLIANT BabyScout has been this weekend. No normal naps (just catnaps in the car), an afternoon (yesterday) in a big, hot craft fair, fireworks last night so very late to bed, a full, uninterrupted 12 hours of sleep (which I got about 10 of) and a fantastically wet bath (he does enjoy splashing about!).

It's going to be a crazy week. MrScout is going to a training course all week and may or may not be home each night (and some nights won't know until that day). Plus I have to pack for our trip. And Friday is a big day at the clinic for me, then off to the inlaws for the night -- they're close to Heathrow so take us to/collect us from the airport. WAHOO!

I have read the other site and will post tonight.

Celebration Chocolates, anyone?

tea -- ROFLMAO! Did you just have to birth your dog or the entire litter?

Four year olds are scrumptious!

Ooohh, chocolates. Yum, yum. As Tea has eaten the entire cake!

Somehow my Guides and Seniors managed to leave half a tub and I seem to be making my way through it. I don't need the chocolates or particularly want them but find I keep eating....

Tea, have I missed you saying what are the extra tasks you are doing? Are you working full time now? I'm just about to sit down to plan some more activities for the whole-school St Nicholas day. Actually quite like doing that.

I had to clip a lead rein onto ds (we had just been in the country store and he insisted on buying gear for his pony) and lead him round Homebase on it while only using horse commands

Then, this afternoon he was a swordfish and I had to keep catching him, cooking, and eating him. 4 year olds are mad imo

How about arnica cream instead Serpent ? I find it very good as I bruise hugely

Do I phone my parents now and get it over with, or leave it till the appointed hour and have the gaaaah moment till later ? Dh has gorn off to see his new case, and ds passed out on the way back from the ils

Yes - I would enjoy doing that too un... I will tell you what I am doing elsewhere iyswim because I don't feel comfortable speaking about specifics re my work on mn, really.

Oxeye, it's called "how much trouble can an Amber get into by trying to join in with discussions amongst those whose brains work properly". I thought I was doing ok but apparently I was making a complete arse of myself all over the place, which Isn't Good. And so a few of them got very very shouty with me and called me some things I won't forget and then I panicked so much that I couldn't stop panicking and ended up on major support .

All the usual stuff for an Amber.

They want to run a site where it's ok to call autistic people retards and humiliate them in public if they make mistakes, as they can put up a disclaimer that says no UK rules apply on this UK site. I think they may be wrong on that, but I'm not a lawyer.

hello everyone.

Good to see you, Amber. Here's to you.

rs - see other place for rant!!!

amber - Nice to see you rising above it!!!

Wriggle, tiddler and milk sooo make me laugh!!

My four year old has been a kitten all weekend and I veer between being a cat, a dog and a policeman. Also I was a boat that was docked and loaded with cargo quite a bit. The kitten appears to have no difficulty moonlighting as a stevedore

I'd use arnica cream racing

Amber dear me. This sounds parlous. I wouldn't have thought a disclaimer would be enough to breach discrimination laws with impunity. That's why there are laws, non? To curb and control the unacceptable utterances and actions of those who see nothing wrong in what they do/ say

or can you move against the website hosts for providing a public platform for illegal statements. Not really my field I'm afraid But i hope you are getting some rl support?

WHAT a weekend!!!!

I spent nearly all of it working, what is left organising Nanna's funeral (my Dad who is a right bloke said "I told the funeral directors not to bother with flowers" - which left me and Mum panickingly phoning round florists organising it all. - Of course we need flowers for something to look at and talk about!) and I am still in the process of tidying up the flat after loosing an argument with DH about the "state of it!"...

The subtext of the argument was "You haven't been caring for our home AND you also haven't been caring for me." He said that some nights he thinks wouldn't it be nice to not go home and sleep in the office so he doesn't have to come back to our place (i.e me).

Of course this was an exaggeration said in the heat of the moment but if I am truthful with myself - I have been neglecting him terribly and taking him for granted for a long time - If you have any ideas about what I can do to make DH feel all ssszzzzcheeeem and happy about "us" please let me know!

Must, must, must go to bed. But Oxeye's suggestion about pursuing the ISP for 'publishing' defamatory/hate-inducing material fits with my (admittedly limited) knowledge of this area of law. Although I can understand that Amber might not have the energy for that and might well prefer to just walk away from that contemptible bunch.

Tea - Oh dear. I don't know what to do to make husbands feel warm and fluffy - you've seen the haggard state of mine - so will be listening out for handy hints.

Anyone seen Mistle lately?

One of my yooofy fb friends keeps putting on her status "you is bang tidy" and then loads of people about her age with pictures of themselves doing a sideways smile say things like "thanks babes" or "aaaawwww" or 'niiice".

I can't work out what it means.... do any of you know??? My guess is "You look nice" but I am not certain...

It is bugging me as I tidy and get my bags ready for tomorrow it keeps going round in my head lke an annoying pop song...

I am one job off of being able to go to bed. HURRAY!!!!

Hi all, sorry, I have only about half a minute but wanted to pop in and say hello.
UnSerpent, about the arnica... I've looked it up again and honestly, you'd need a busload of pure tincture to significantly raise blood pressure. Keep giving it to your mum, it's the best thing for bruises and sore muscles and aches and pains.

I think I should bathe in the stuff tonight, actually, but seeing as I haven't got a tub at the moment, that's not actually possible :D
Did garden clean-up today, planted spring bulbs and put the flower bed to bed for the winter. Then proceeded to clean up the downstairs so it's liveable. The builders are almost done with it, only the downstairs loo ceiling needs to be finished!!

Tea, I wish I had some suggestions for you. I'm afraid my DH is probably a bit neglected, as well. We need more romance and alone-time, I think.

Amber, I haven't booted up my computer today, hope to get to it before I go to bed (am on iPhone at the mo and can't see the TR group postings on it) but if I don't, hang on, my love - we're all behind you. Hugs.

Op is tomorrow afternoon so hopefully I'll get to pop in in the morning. xx JM

JM good luck tomorrow

Tea - DH tips
(1) try to greet him when he gets home. Properly greet him - pause what you and Milk are doing and talk to him, see how his day way
(2) maybe get him a drink when he comes in, a cup of tea or beer or something - it is really hard to switch from work to home and "easing" that transition is good - a moment before Milk hurls herself on Dad and asks him to be a conversational zebra etc
(3) try to have some clean space/ cleared space so it doesn't look entirely like a tip - so he can make a cup of tea without washing up first sort of thing
(4) try to have supper sitting down with each other and talking
(5) get a babysitter/ neighbour to watch milk for a couple of hours and go to the pub or the French equivalent, just the two of you
(6) give him a "special" christmas present like a dinner out for the two of you - something that is time not money

Does this help? I think it's not just sex and fancy underwear, who cares or has time? It's the companionship that matters and your best friend needs you to talk to them and ask them about themselves to remain a best friend iyswim

Not sure if this helps but an idea!

Good luck JM. Hope it all goes well for you.

Tea: of all the things Oxeye suggests I would totally recommend the one about going out once a week with your DH. It's what me and Mr. H do; and quite honestly it is probably the only hour a week we actually talk to one another.... We are not a romantic couple and there are no candles. Just a cup of tea/coffee and a biscuit and a bit of a chat.

Waves to everyone!

Best wishes and healing vibes to JBM for this afternoon.

Oxeye - Excellent list.

Catita - You are so right. We probably manage alone-time once or twice a year. It isn't enough.

Oxeye, the law is too scary for an Amber but yes I think you're right.

Morning everyone. Slept but am so tired...