Tea Room the Nineteenth

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All in need of a restful break and a chat are more than welcome to the nineteenth Tea Room.

We find ourselves in the South of France, where the warm sunshine is just the thing for those who are missing the summer. The tea room has its aga and its distressed chintz sofa...and its potted plants. The usual fictional tea room inhabitants are here, as ever: Mellors, the gardener/handyperson with the handy ways with massage; the collection of tea room animals including the horses, camel, bison, guineapigs and sundry others; the Bishops and other faith leaders who joined us a while back and potter in for the occasional cuppa. It may not make sense, but that's not important. What matters is the lovely people here and the chance to just relax.

Hi Roslily.

Good to see you again. Well done on Ebay activity. Keep thinking about that Kindle.

I'm fine, JBM. Tired but had a lovely weekend.

And you? Sounds good to me about the pain meds, but when will you be strong/healed enough to go back to your usual 100mph lifestyle? And have the builders gone yet?

wine here too please! but no chocolates

JM glad op recovery well, but must be odd re sewn up bits - good luck on Tuesday. Wear your best checked shirt for the Doc
Scout glad trip good
Roslily good luck and welcome back, yes Kindle is a good aim

Happy here, long weekend with friends. Jolly. Now work. No word from OxBloke so hope all good with him

How is the scrumptious OxBoy? Apart from Scrumptious, obviously?

Roslily, good plan (although maybe wish I didn't know how much you made since I have just given all my baby stuff away. [stupid emoticon])

Glad that you had a lovely weekend, oxeye; we did too - it involved bottle feeding foals and several complete meltdowns no doubt due to over tiredness. (Mine, obviously)

Small, could you pass the bottle this way?

It's JBM's wine but here you go.

Am I too late for the wine?

Never too late, Scout. Cheers!

I have a rather large supply of wine at the moment, stocked up before the builders came, tucked the box away and was unable to unearth it for a few weeks. In addition to the Old Vine Zin, there's also a rather lovely Malbec, another Zin, and several bottles of Unwooded Chardonnay. Enough to go around, I should think :o

I'm going back to work tomorrow but only for four hours. Same with Tues and Weds, four hours only. And then we're going to Seattle for four days. So I still have a week of half-go before I'm back to full-go :o but I think it'll be ok. I think the knee taught me several lessons. If I get sore, I'll take a break. Promise. When my mum was here, I was full-time down on the couch, up to use the loo and shower, that was it. She was rather proud of me. For the newcomers, I have this unfortunate tendency to overdo things, especially when I shouldn't. God knows why. I mean, I've been thinking about this, and FGS, I don't even understand myself. I mean, this drive to perfection. A very dear friend really made me think the other day. I made a rather spiteful comment about a coworker recently. I said that she really bugs me occasionally because she's such a bloody princess and then said, "maybe motherhood will knock some of the perfect off her". (Sorry, what a horrible thing to say .) And my friend said, "have you ever thought that maybe you can be hard to be around because you make everything look easy?" Which I found rather stunning because I know how much I struggle, and I can't believe it's not obvious. But my friend said she thinks I go at 100 mph because I have a need not to show when I'm struggling, and just getting everything done and never slowing down is my way of making it look like I'm "just fine, no problems here".
Gah. What an uncomfortable piece of insight. I've been chewing on it since.
She's right, of course.
And I don't like it.
You all in the TR have probably seen more of my down times than a lot of my RL friends. Maybe even more than DH.

Not to worry, there is plenty left :o

Oxboy is indeed Scrumptious Small, thanks for asking. I am dimly sitting here failing to work due to tiredness, which is a hopeless combo. He is sleeping peacefully. He was a dreamboat away this weekend. And good company

Foals sound lovely, Racing

JM -I think the ability to admit things in the tearoom without "come back" in RL just support from jolly good friends is why it is so great. Your fried may well be talking about how you are perceived by some but many others will be around you because of the wonderful energy and "can do" attitude that sparks from you and your 100 mph life. That you may be 100mph to get things done isn't necessarily negative. The comment about being "hard to be around" says more about your friend than you.....

now go and lie down again woman!

We have mutual awakeness going on, so I have snuck out of the bedroom, grabbed a nice big glass of root beer and am playing on the computer. I think BabyScout is (finally) going back to sleep. He was babbling away to his stuffies -- his own (Bun and Ted, his favorites from home) and borrowed (Mom's a Pluto fan, and has lots of stuffed animals, so some have made his way into the travel cot). But he hasn't learned inside and outside voice, so he was chattering at top volume. I both admire and hate MrScout's ability to sleep through it, especially in the same room.

Feeling slightly more normal after a series of crises led me to meltdown point...

Aha! A dongle signal! My mobile won't download mumsnet as it's a huge huge file, but now I can connect on my trusty laptop. Morning all...won't say I'm relaxed yet because I seem to have developed the art of long-term panicking. But there's another whole week to go so I'm hopeful. Sleeping loads, which is good.

CMOT, yup re hand and wanting an answer.
Off to Bath today, after attempting it yesterday and finding solid traffic for two miles. My sister advised me to bring the soap .

PS I'm Amber and live in the central South with dh, 18 yr old ds and my dsis, plus my autism support dog Mr B. I co-run a business with dh thanks to lots of lovely people. Bit batty and a bit older than the standard mumsnetter, but they put up with me

I agree Oxeye (and what were you doing working at that sort of time young lady ) - real friends know how things are, not just superficial image.
Dh tells me that maybe the reason I'm not very good at rl freinds is that I don't ask for enough advice or dither publically enough

We had a lovely weekend, and I think I feel a bit brighter, even though the weather is freezing. DS set up camp in the sitting room yesterday - pop up tent, blow up mat, sleeping bags etc. Its a nice way to eat dinner

The joys of motherhood -- I've just been thrown up on. and and He coughed so hard he brought up his milk. Definitely going to get BabyScout to a doctor.

Eek, Scout. Hope it's just a passing thing.

Cmot - We have a teepee in our sitting room.

Cinnamon pastries on the counter for those who like a sugar high for breakfast.

JBsMama, I think I am just like that. I've not had any friend tell me to my face, but I think that may well be what they think. I find it almost impossible to let go of the wish to control my environment and it must be jolly wearing.
For those who don't know me: I think I am more ancient than any of you, and live in Northampton.

I love the competetive old gimmer nature of this thread

I'm the oldest on this thread... no I am ...

I am older than you, Oxeye, so nuh.

I'll let you battle it out between you and try to forget - surprisingly easy now

mistlechick has been delightful this weekend (or at least, most of the time) - lets see how much he can wind up the teachers today. Warned him that he was starting in a rather ebulliant mood and that it would make it difficult for him - as he would have lost the chance of the sticker before he found out that there was a problem... we shall wait and see.

His school trousers were damp - so he found another pair - that had been hemmed up. Let down the 2" that was hemmed up - fine! So his latest spurt has definitley all been in his legs. Oh - and got him a karate uniform last week too and have sewn the badge on for him ready for Thursday. Just need to practise doing up the knots on the jacket now!

Meant to say:

Catita - sounds very frightening - hope the interview goes well and that you find something for dh to do there too.

Scout - hope babyscout is feeling a lot better soon

Amber - have a great week

JBM - keep the good behaviour up

and [wave] to everyone else.

BabyScout is still happy-chappy (he's in playing with MrScout and GranddadScout laughing hysterically). But I don't like being coughed-up-milk-and-gunk on at 3 a.m. Actually, the cough is disrupting his sleep. He did, however, sleep from about 5 p.m. Saturday until 7:15 a.m. this morning, except for his 1 hour awakeness at 3 a.m. YAY for being on US time.

I will not try to compete on ageness as I gather I'm one of the babies....

Waffles anyone?

woohooo waffles, that what I like about having a an American about the place. Slightly confused about your "nice" glass of root beer , where did you find a "nice" one? last time I tried it the stuff tasted of germolene. But I digress and we may have been there before. HI scout.

Just sneacking some MN time while boy is making christmas cards with lots of sparkly stickers and we are waiting for his reception teacher to come by for a

Morning all (morning here anyway)!
Yuck re baby puke at 3 am Scout. Actually, yuck at baby puke anytime.
Jackbaby is sat nestled in beside me watching Mickey and I'm trying to wake up with my first cup of coffee.

Just wanted to clarify about my friend: she wasn't being nasty when she said what she did. She is one of the few I tend to really confide in, no mask, no faking. What she was trying to tell me was this: I was botching about our coworker, because she's so annoyingly perfect - unbelievably pretty, always together, etc... and I was saying how that grates on some if us lesser mortals (very bitchy, I know) and she was just to make me realize that occasionally the shoe could be on the other foot because she said I come across as terrifyingly competent, perfectly put-together and like everything is easy. I don't see myself that way at all, and she knows it, so she wanted to point out that that's what some people think. She wasn't having a go at me at all :)
It's definitely made me think!
Rainy and chilly here today. Cinnamon rolls and cafe au lait?
And may I petition for the next TR to be in a snowy ski lodge in the BC Interior or up near Whistler?

Yes to more cinammon rolls and defo yes to Whistler ski lodge as long as we can have "Alberta Alberta" coming on the stereo at regular intervals and outdoor chairs with faux fur throws and mulled wine and reil dinky reindeer and snow shoes and chestnuts to roast and. Xand. And x

chat.

As you may have guesses, teh door bell rang, so I logged out pronto.

gonna go again, Cbebbies calling boy .