Tea Room 17 - The Tropical Beach Hut

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Welcome to the 17th version of the Tea Room. We find ourselves on a tropical beach, with the tea room now in a beach hut on stilts, the waves lapping on the golden sands beneath. Palm trees surround us. Our virtual gardener/beach surfing dude/handyman, Mellors, is here to tend to your every need. He looks like the person of your dreams (male, female or otherwise ). There are of course holidaying Bishops and other leaders of faith, the Camels, the Bison, various guinea pigs, the tea room horses, a life-size cut out of George Clooney, the NMBs (please don't ask me to explain how Mohawk Babies joined us, and a wide variety of other virtual followers. We chat, we relax, we share how life is. All in need of friendship are most welcome. The kettle is on...and the distressed chintz sofa has of course made the journey over. Enjoy.

He should be ashamed of himself then AND he should immediately book your services for next time so that he can find out what autistic people need!

At least he has been honest and spoken directly to you. That's in his favour.

I've told him he can jolly well use my services for this time as well. Yup, it's good that he got in contact, but only after pretending to already be on holiday so he didn't have to deal with me...until his staff outed him! Gotta admire the courage of the modern leader...

Ha! Good for his staff!

Hey, haven't had a chance to read through the last posts but I gather Amber that things are not going well with you and an upcoming conference? I'm sorry to hear that. Have some chocolate. Is there anything we can do to help? In RL I mean.

I'm a bit blergh (spelling? ) here. DH used to be on AD for depression and anxiety. He has been off the meds for 4 years now nearly. He has been totally freaking out with anxiety the past few weeks with moving house etc to the point that he has shut down and is not doing anything regarding the move. And so I'm doing everything, as usual. This morning he went to the doctors as he acknowledges that the level of anxiety he is feeling is well above normal. She gave him meds, he took them and is now fast asleep. He has been light headed and drowsy since he took them, and now asleep. Am I a total bitch from hell for being annoyed with him for not pulling his weight? I booked LittleO into summer camp specifically to get time for us to work on the house and instead dh is asleep! We are moving in a week and a half!

Scout is very quiet lately, I hope she's ok. Oh, perhaps she is off meeting Tea!

AandO, you need a slug of that gin as well, I think. What a nightmare.

In real life? Wanna go to a nice conference about disability in London on 7 October?

Fancy writing an email to the organisers to ask them if they have any info about autism access for their Enabling Church conference? Premier Radio are easy to google

Placard waving? Burning of Braziers? (Though that always strikes me as a bit draughty around the though I may have used the wrong word?

But seriously, I think the tea room gin is just fine...

Thanks Amber, much appreciated.

I am a bit short of bras, so would you mind terribly if I did not participate in that bit ...unless of course bras are supplied for the purpose!

I can do the email bit though if it helps?

Should I wake him and hand him a paint brush or just let him sleep?

slight at burning of braziers - brassieres would be the word you wanted there, amber.

A&O - sorry to hear your DH is under the weather with meds - I think that may be Scout's predicament as well.
Let him sleep - he'll moan and bitch if you wake him and then do a cock-eyed job that will only need re-doing. Get your own back (if you feel the need to) in the new place - make him do everything. :)

Phew! France is big. Possibly even very big. Alf way round now and maybe going back to little village in the mountains near Macon to see b-in-law and family again. Little house there that M.Serpent is somwhow not keen to check the price of. Staying with ex-pat friends who are making us reconsider being isolated in Franch countryside. May not b e back for some time. A bientot! (Ou pas)

ps. Going to show very lonely expat friend Mumsnet, but maybe not tea room, even though she is also a mum of one.

I was supposed to get together with Tea this morning but had to bail. Didn't trust myself to drive and had my friend take me to the hospital for my first of many blood tests to check how the meds are doing. I am very grateful for the nursery for the week the meds have me very up and down. Sometimes I feel pretty decent/normal and sometimes I feel like I could stay in bed for days. Paracetamol only touches the headache sometimes. Have also noticed very slight personality changes already and it scares me both the changes (which we were told about) and how quickly they seem to be happening. I don't like it.

I don't have many brassieres as it's so hard to find ones for walls, but am willing to donate one if wanted. They look more like mini muffin papers than bras. I hoped having a baby/breastfeeding would give me a decent A-cup but the minute I stopped nursing I went back to flat.

BabyScout has been really good at nursery. Today he had a three hour nap there. Then woke up ravenous (sp) and ate ALL of his lunch (when before he was eating barely any) and dessert. (I think they eat lunch too early for him, to be honest.) We came home and played for almost two hours and now he's having a rest. I dare not let him sleep too long or bedtime will be a nightmare and/or too late for him. But he needed a rest or dinner/bedtime would be miserable. Swings and roundabouts I guess.

Just back from eye surgeon for ds. He's got to have an operation to stabilise his eyesight in early September

Can I please have a refund on life?

Just v v v v quickly -
(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) to all who need them.

Amber, if you send me the pertinent email address, I will write a scorching email for you.

Scout - aaaaaack!!!! Double hug for you. Sweet treat on the way as you know.

AandO - needing ADs is total crap as I can vouch for, however... leaving you on your own to cope with the house is not on. I agree with thumbwitch that waking him up at this point is probably useless, however, Stern Words Must Be Had.

Back to work. Will try to pop in again.

(I am a crap mother)

You are not a crap mother Scout, I know from the way you talk of Babyscout and all the lovely things you do together xxxx

I decided not to wake dh. He slept for three hours until LittleO got back from camp and woke him then. He then returned to bed at 6.45pm .

I have invited my best friend over for the evening for some company...although I should be working.

Is it a simple operation Amber? Or not?

Scout, have the duvet...and Mellors if it helps? And gin. Or bolly. Or anything else you fancy. You're not a cr*p mum.

Not very simple, might not work, might make it worse. Fairly new, little research, and nearly two grand in cash.

Urk

Thanks AandO. But I am. Cue BabyScout falling on his face and producing a shriek like I have never heard before. My blood actually went cold. Lots of screaming and sobbing and sniffling and wanting to cuddle and trying to escape at the same time. No bruises. No swelling. No bones sticking out. Pupils as they should be. Responds to name/voice, tracks with head and eyes, lets me touch everywhere on head. Did give Calpol.

Then proceeded to give him a bath where he kept trying to stand up and I had visions of him falling onto his face in the tub. All his pjs are damp (despite being hung up last night) so he's sleeping in a tee-shirt that I would have never put him in, let alone bought him, but it was clean and dry (friend gaves us some hand-me-downs, which I'm grateful for, but some of the things are not to mine and/or HubbyScout's tastes).

Gave him milk, he was snuggling in to sleep and I put him down and he started to cry. Waited a minute, went in for a cuddle then put him down again. Cue crying again -- was letting him go for a minute but think he's asleep.

I am crap.

And my headache that had finally gone is back and worse.

two grand!! Not on nhs then?

Eek re 'might make it worse'

I think you should have a bit more gin too Amber

Cross posts -- I agree, EEK! on the two grand front with no guarantees!!!

Would you like to share the duvet and chocolates, amber?

X post with Scout. Scout accidents happen, try to be gentle on yourself. And as long as he's warm and dry pjs don't matter. Have you got painkillers for the headache? Can you go straight to bed?

Oh, I know PJs don't matter. But it just felt like one of the straws -- he usually sleeps in onsies (vests) because his room is warm and because they help keep his nappy from shifting too much in the night (he's a mover in his sleep). I'm now a bit worried about the nappy situation in addition to wondering if I should have taken him to be looked at or if I should keep waking him up.

Will take some paracetamol in a bit, as I think that's the only thing I'm allowed to take. However, I haven't eaten anything since about noon and don't want to take them on an empty stomach. I also need to take my nighttime pills, which I must take with food. Have to wait for HubbyScout to get home with dinner.

I know what you mean about final straws! I am not very patient with LittleO at the mo with everything thats going on with dh. It's not his fault, he's just being a 3 year old boy.

Got to go. Take care xxx

Scout, it sounds to me like BabyScout is just fine. (Don't I have brilliant long-distance diagnostic skills?) But seriously - you checked everything a nurse or doctor would check.
You are not a crap mum. Or if you are, I am too (feel like i atm) because I've found myself shouting at Jackbaby several times since going off these bloody ADs. So we can be crap mums together, k?

and drops some down in tin on rope to priest hole denizens.

And wonders why a techie mag on teh desk seems to feature a picture ( on front cover) of 6 peoples backs, then realises its really a picture of people listening to the speakers just visible in top corners of the pic. The other cover pics are - main pic, a chap with microphone and band on a gig stage.Insets- a sweep of theatre seating( apparently on a cruise ship), the outside of Oslo town hall, a close up of part of a moving light and teh before mentioned pic of bums and backs.yep, there are some riveting articles in this issue.

sorry I'm wittering. ignore me.