Is this normal or am I overthinking it?

[PurpleBloom45]

My LG is 13 months old and we have enrolled her in a nursery for 3 days a week. We had 3 settling sessions and she has done 2 full days so far so 5 in total. She is not settling okay and today I got a call from the nursery to come pick her up.

Now, the issue is this. The nursery wrote this update on her observations report which has got me worried and a bit upset. Please have a read:

Unfortunately today Ada is having a really unsettled day and has been very emotional today and is wanting to be carried around constantly which unfortunately we cannot do here. When we tell her we can’t pick her up she’ll follow us round by crawling which is becoming quite dangerous for her as we are tripping over her.
I think as a whole we need to encourage her to self soothe, and to start encouraging her to walk which isn’t going to happen whilst she’s use to being carried so if we can all try and be on the same page in regards to the carrying around.
This is to benefit her so she can get herself around the room independently, and get use to the idea that if she wants to get somewhere she will have to walk rather then being carried.
I know you wrote on her forms to comfort her she likes to be carried, but unfortunately we are on a 1:3 ratio so carrying her round throughout the day is not an option- I hope you understand.
If she doesn’t settle soon she will need collecting as she is becoming quite distressed. Will keep you posted.

I feel she is being pressured to walk before she is ready and the thought of her crawling behind the adults whilst crying breaks my heart!!!

I don't disagree with you @Imustgoforarun about WFH with small DC - I had a two year old in March 2020 and a FT job, I know all too well that it can't be done. But OP did say they've been on waiting lists since the baby was a month old, and provision in some areas does get booked up very early.

I was told off by my HV for not booking DD into childcare just before I gave birth.

To be fair I discovered half of the parents in my NCT group I was in couldn't get their babies into the nursery they wanted to use until they were over a year and they had done that.

There as my DD actually ended up going to the CM a month early because we wanted to ensure she had the space.

My LO took 6 weeks to fully settle going full time, and was always cuddles or picked up when upset.
the staff reassured me it was quite normal to take a while and not to worry!
5 days is not long x

We can't give a child one to one care in a nursery, and it would be an issue, but after month or two not just two proper days. The comment about being a trip hazard is downright stupid.

Not normal. That is extremely harsh of them - she is just a baby! There are lots of things they can do to settle her without carrying her around - our baby room staff spend most of the day sitting on the floor playing with the babies and encouraging them to explore whilst being close by for a cuddle if needed. I get there are jobs to be done and other babies to tend to but this sounds so uncaring!
I'd look elsewhere.

I would remove your daughter from the setting & report to Ofsted & your local authority Early Years team. This is a awful practice & a red flag.