Nursery shock report

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anyone see this

I think you touched a nerve with blueshoes DD

and BTW, I wouldn't recommend childminding, to me its a lot of responsibility and hard work for not much reward

Lol at children reared by strangers. They obviously are not strangers if your children see them every day.

Sometimes it seems weird when people say staying home is a luxury though. For us, we had children very young and so got better off as time went by so we never lived on two good incomes but we certainly don't live a luxury lifestyle. We always lived on two low or one good (ish) wage but are not what you would describe as well off.

I supose it depends on the staff turnover Fairymum.Yes I see what you mean jellybeans.

Jellybeans Think dp and I were late startersHope it does get better financiallyStill we ok.Have same and different problems to everyone else.I always charge in on threads like a bull in a china shop.I have found some peoples thoughts/views on this thread blimmin interesting and know that people are doing the best they can,including us.

jelly, TBH I can't really understand peeple saying that either

I guess its what you settle for financially, or what you're prepared to settle for

I'd work and leave the kids with a childminder to keep a roof over our heads or for food, but not for much else

we are so much removed from a luxurious lifestyle and its so hard £ wise, don't know what else to say

...and I would go to work in order just to pay for nursery fees because I want my children to have the opportunity to go to a great nursery. I went to nursery fulltime myself and I want the same experience for my children. I think if you find a good nursery, it can be a great thing.

doo: "I always charge in on threads like a bull in a china shop." I agree. Your later posts sound more human.

You still do not answer my question about how you are going to resolve the conflict of interest in taking money from parents to be the "stranger" looking after their children. Or is it all just hot air which I am not supposed to care about? I am fine with that too.

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Blueshoes, I would not worry about cm's attitude to parents too much. Surely if they feel sorry for the neglected children they are rearing for us, they would do an even better job? However, I must say this is why I personally prefer nursery. I like the diversity of adults my children get to know. Shock and horror I even like it when its a bit of staff turnover or supply staff. I just think a bit of "fresh blood" and new enthusiasm is a good thing.

I see Fairymum, in a save-the-world-going-to-hell-in-a-handbasket way. Got it. Well, I don't use cm anyway.

I too use and see a good nursery as being the best childcare option, even over a good nanny.

I think we have the same robust attitude to the nurseries, as we can afford to if our children are thriving from the social hulabaloo and being in the thick of things.

I would not put my child in a nursery in my area based on the fact that my two sister in laws have worked at several, and they all have had really shocking incidents.

When I first went back to work, DD was only six months. It was nice knowing that there were days that the childminder only had my child to care for, or that on the majority of the days it was just before and after school that there would be other children.

Where my sister in laws have worked, they're moved from room to room, they have been left in charge before they were qualified, they get shite pay, and various other things. I'm comfortable with the fact that my daughter has a loving relationship with her childminder. I canot say that this would have happened in nursery around here due to high staff turnover alone.

Blueshoes you didn't actually ask me a question.Still think I have a valid point.Certainly not 'hot air'.
I am doing the best I can.Others are doing what they think is best.
Not sure about childminding or if I should return to paediatric nursing [nights].
Up to me.Just as you do what you think is best.

Have dealt with many conflicts of interest whilst nursing.I f I did childmind I would be as professional in that as I was when a nurse.and do the best I could..whilst keeping my thoughts in real life to myself.Would in no way affect the care I give.
Now, am off to do things

I am a childminder and just before Christmas I was minding an 18 mth old 3 days a week or whenever the Mum needed. She told me she was expecting and wasn't sure in October if she was going back to work 3 months after the baby was born. She didn't go back and now I am having great difficulty filling my vacancies because parents think I'm no good if I've no little ones. I mind a 4 yr old after school Mon to Fri.

I have 3 children of my own (the eldest is 17) so have quite a bit of experience having childminded for 9 yrs ( I have had 2 other children but circumstances like my lad starting a different school meant I had to finish another). I also have NVQ Level 3 which is a Nursery Nurse qualfication now that NNEB is finished. I do lots of things with the children, do observations and follow Birth 2 3 Framework and soon Early Years Foundation Stage.

Would you take me on just by this information? I need some advice as I desperately need some mindees before my OFSTED in June!

There is a nursery like the one described near where I live. It's supposedly 'montessori' but there is no way it actually is. A lot of upper middle class friends ude it as they work long hours. I spent two weeks trying to settle DS into it, spending an hour each day with him. It was owned by someone who was new to the buisiness and all staff were really young and were always on their mobiles and moaned about the work they had to do.

DS didn't settle so I never left him.