Chatty thread for ND mumsnetters

[whiskeyarmadillo]

I thought I'd try and start a friendly chatty thread here on the ND board. All are welcome. Bring a cuppa.

I'm whiskeyaramadillo. I'm late 40s and AuDHD. I have a ND parent and two ND children - my third DC is NT ish. I work full time and live on the western edge of London but my heart is firmly in the countryside which is where I grew up. I have one black and white cat who is my sunshine although he is in my bad books today after bringing in a mouse.

Today (Sunday) I'm sorting out my very very messy house - again. Making sure homework is done and uniforms are clean. Putting endless pants and socks in drawers. If I'm lucky I'll get to lie on the sofa and continue reading 'Wintering' by Katherine May or watch a bit of a crappy fantasy movie with a giant mug of tea.

What is everyone up to today?

@Cherrypi , sorry but your accidental smear really has tickled me 😁

Thank you. Today's pondering is why have they changed the shape of Cadbury's Easter eggs without saying so on the box? I should have noticed the box was flatter.

I've not had a good couple of days
Yesterday was my birthday and I was stressed having to open gifts in front of family..I am very greatful for the gift s .but I probably come across as rude , because I try to not open them ..it stresses me so much id actually rather not have any ..and it was Easter Sunday and I had to cook a roast dinner,which I hate as the smell makes me feel sick ..and I had to try to force some down at the table whilst smiling pretending I was happy to be cooking and eating a roast dinner on my birthday ..my DH , assured me he would cook it ..but of course he didn't..he was busy pretending to be busy
Then today more relatives up ,and i did a buffet but couldn't eat anything myself,so I was particularly irritable because I was feeling light headed,but I don't like eating in front of people.so again I came across as rude and snappy and probably ungrateful..in reality I was overwhelmed with two days of family and no space to recharge my batteries,plus the ADHD asessment tomorrow is adding to the stress ,so I can't eat untill that's done now .
But I'm feeling.. overwhelmed,sad , frustrated with myself, worried I've upset people.i literally cleared the buffet table the minute people finished eating their food and told them they were free to go now ..ahhhh.

Why do you have to do so many things you don't like on your birthday?

@Newyearsparkle that sounds unbelievably stressful - I don't think you should be beating yourself up about how overwhelmed you felt. I'm sorry you didn't get a nice relaxed day doing things you like to do on your birthday!

Sending you good vibes for your assessment tomorrow. The anticipation about that can't have helped your stress levels over the weekend.

Coz that's life , because I'm an adult, because I'm a mum , because sometimes we can't always just do what we want ,we have to put others first .
Both my eldest adult kids are going on holiday for their birthdays this year,and that's what I would of liked to of done ideally .but my birthday was on Easter Sunday,and we always do a easter meal together similar to Christmas,and I didn't want to leave them without anything nice happening for Easter .
It's normal though,when your a mum that you put everyone before yourself.
I could of just said " I'm away for Easter this year ,I'm spending my birthday on holiday" ..but would I of enjoyed it?? , knowing I'd left them alone at home , probably not .
And a lot of it was me being rediculous and just having a moan,stress is very high with the assessment today ..

Actually I feel I was just being rediculous now , reading all that back .
Normally I'd make a massive effort and power through smiling,but stress for today got the better of me ,and I'm actually quite worried I've offended people.
I will probably make it worse trying to discuss it , probably best left .
The older I get ,the less I seem to be able to successfully mask

@Cherrypi
Shit , reading your message back ,that I wrote to you ,that sounds stroppy..
Genuinely i didn't mean it to be , apologies if it comes across as so .
It's going to be a long day I can tell xx

Don't worry. I think you have every right to be stroppy after a day like that. Mums can come first sometimes.

Good luck for today 💐

Hope it goes well today, @Newyearsparkle . You'll be fine, you'll see

Don't worry about Easter Sunday. If you can't spiral somewhat when you have a house full of people a couple of days before your assessment, when can you? Surely anyone will understand that.

@Newyearsparkle good luck with your assessment today. I also find it harder to mask the older I get

I officially have ADHD and get medicine in a couple of days ,I just can't remember which ones though.
Blimey I'm glad that's over with

That's good @NewyearsparkleHow are you feeling? Is it a relief?

Glad to hear the assessment went well @Newyearsparkle - that must be a big relief

That's a load off your mind Newyearsparkle. And good that the meds are being sorted so quickly.

Is it how you thought it would be?

I thought it was a phone call ,then a message arrived to say on line chat ..
And I'd put a conditioner treatment on my hair and I was all greasy in old clothes.
So I was very stressed..why didn't they tell me it was a chat where they can see me .ugh .
She said I seem very anxious..but that was the unexpected video call.
Once I got past that ,I chatted ..a number of times I kept going of the question she had asked me , answering a different question and forgetting what the original question was,and I talked over her a fair bit ,and kept having to apologise,which was embarrassing.
plus I felt an absolute greasy mess .
.then I figured out she had access to my NHS app and medical notes ..which threw me a bit as I was worried what she was reading about other issues I'm having currently ( bladder medication) so then my Mind went off worrying about that and trying to work out what she had read about me ,and thank goodness she was a woman reading my notes and not a man ..as I know they have bladders to , but you know ...
So anyway ,glad it's over with..but my goodness am I tired today ..I didn't sleep well either and today I feel odd ,worn out ..like I can type all this ,but I wouldn't want to have to talk to anyone..glad it's over

Then she asked me about cocaine or other drugs ,and without thinking, ( because I was stressed) I said " I should be so lucky "
But that's the truth..if I'd been moving in circles where anything was available,I would be on it for sure ..there's been some awful times where I would of taken anything offered me ,just to try to feel better mentally.
But it means I can really understand how people do end up taking drugs, because I'm in my 50s and it's been a long time of so many struggles

That's bad they didn't tell you it was a video chat. That would totally throw me. Well done for coping with that.

It definitely did throw me ,I have the email saying it was a phone call asessment.
I just looked an absolute state,and I had to hold the phone In front of my face the whole time ,where as if I'd known ,I would of got comfortable,set the phone up on an angle so my chins were not showing and made sure I wasn't greasy and looking a mess

They definitely should have told you it would be a video call, very bad of them and I agree with Cherrypi, well done for coping with that. Did they say why they changed it from a phone call as per the email?

No , nothing was mentioned

I really feel for you, that would have thrown me to the max too. It sounds so stressful 😩

Hi everyone 😀 I was recommended this thread by someone in another thread - hope it's ok to join in. I'm ND (autistic) and enjoy knitting, gardening, silence, and antiques 👋

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