Neurodiversity support thread for women with suspected, diagnosed or self-diagnosed autism, ADHD and other NDs #19

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Hope it's ok to start one without Polter

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnetters_with_sn/2954319-Neurodiversity-support-thread-for-women-with-suspected-diagnosed-or-self-diagnosed-autism-ADHD-and-other-NDs-18

The last one filled up a little while ago, hope everyone is doing ok.

Please can I join? I was formally diagnosed with ADHD TODAY!

I never really suspected it at all until about 18 months ago when I was diagnosed with dyslexia by an Ed psychologist at uni (doing my masters).
Then I started looking into it and it was like everything just made sense. I was on the waiting list for over a year before I saw anyone but 3 appointments later I got my official diagnosis. I was worried I was overthinking and attributing everything to ADHD and I wouldn’t actually have ADHD but my psychiatrist said today there was no doubt I had it. He gave me a list of treatment options, including stimulant and non stimulant medication told me took do some research. Booked me an appointment for a few weeks time to choose a plan.
Since I have thought I had ADHD I have started doing things differently and not apologising for having to and it’s like a weight has been lift. It’s obviously not a magic wand but my goodness it just explains so much!

@Chaoticbrain it feels weird getting that diagnosis doesn't it. Such relief that there really is a reason for everything x

Absolutely very weird- it’s now trying to make other people understand that’s the next challenge.

@Chaoticbrain

Absolutely very weird- it’s now trying to make other people understand that’s the next challenge.

I've thought for the past 4 years that I was neurodoverse and was on the waiting list still am. But rows with my mother telling me I was was awful person and deliberately hurting people and that I didn't give a shit basically made me pay out for prescreening as I was so desperate to prove I really wasn't an awful human. My results came back and said I was severely struggling and that I would benefit from a diagnosis. I'm non contact with my mother now. I sent her my results, no response, she doesn't believe in autism anyway and now I've got someone saying I'm very definitely struggling it doesn't fit with her own story that I'm an awful human.

I got my diagnosis and told my fitness immediately, who were all very much like yeah we know we love you anyway and have tried to explain it a bit at work as to struggles I may have.

It was a double edged sword relief that I really was struggling and regret for all the past me's and what they had to deal with and how I wish I could have been kinder to them.

Friends not fitness

My younger brother was diagnosed 3 years ago ( I didn’t know he had actually pursued the diagnosis, my mum had always said he was just naughty) and when we were talking about it yesterday. My mum said you need to stop blaming it for everything! Actually WTF I have two degrees a masters have never not worked in decent jobs I have a good marriage. The struggles I have, have been my own mental health and have only really impacted me and my husband maybe my dds but not in traumatic way. I am not looking to blame it I am looking to cope better.

That's why I needed to find out to help me.cope better. I hold down a full time professional and demanding job that's probably not best suited to me but that I love and work hard at. I just want to cope better with life and to stop being so hard on myself (not sure that will ever happen)

Hi is anyone in here on Xaggitin or equivalent? It’s really bothering my teeth and just wondered if it was just me?

I know jaw clenching etc can happen but I’m just so aware of my mouth/tongue all the time and my teeth ache like mad! Any experience?

Hi its been suggested by the Dr with me crisis team to ask for a referral for diagnostic tests,I'm wondering if its ok to ask here and if so,would anyone know if it would be best to be referred by GP or self referral,thanks.

I found some tests,dont know how good they are?

I used a local service www.autism.org.uk/directory/a/autism-anglia-diagnosticservice

And did a £50 prescreening assessment which just said what I knew. You can go further on with a diagnosis but that £50 was the difference between life and death to me at the time.

@Iguessyourestuckwithme thank you.

So I bought a visual timer which arrived today.

And it's worked 4 times today. I'll probably be bored tomorrow but it's great for the visual countdown.