Neurodiversity support thread for women with suspected, diagnosed or self-diagnosed autism, ADHD and other NDs #18

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As usual, latest support thread.

Welcome

Lovely hair

The palest bits should wash out to blonde again after 1/2 washes - they have just picked up the blue as it was being washed out.

I cannot wait to see my kids and my husbands reactions. I'm really excited and nervous about what they will do/say. I'm sure DS will want blue hair immediately

My hair's probably too dark to pick up colour like that, isn't it? Do you have to bleach it?

I don't know. It probably depends on what effect you want. There is a range from L'Oréal for various semi permanent colours. My hairdresser used a really dark marine blue at the roots and a paler one for the lengths. But on hair that had already been highlighted. She has dark/black hair and showed me a greenish strand that she had, which is impressive on such dark hair.

This is a not good pic of the back. you can see what my darkest natural colour is, so a dark blonde sort of colour.

Wow, that's so intense and pretty :) I think your natural color looks about the same as mine. Looks lighter when it's longer? I slightly lightened mine once but I couldn't be bothered to do it again

I hope you get a good reaction from family!

I've used Arctic Fox vegan dye and it's very good. My hair is very dark brown but with a lot of grey and it picked up the colour really well. It does dye everything it touches so I had to be so careful!

Back in my punk days I used to use Directions or Crazy Color but the Arctic Fox is much better, and smells divine.

Blue is hard to get right though so I am very impressed with that colour MrsN

I adore your hair Mrs.N, it's a beautifully resonant blend of blues.

Your family should love it, dd bought some clip-in hair streaks and treated me to the dark blue one, I've been wearing it all week.
www.stargazer-products.com/baby-hair-extensions.html

Awwww thanks guys! The kids love it. They both want blue hair now I picked DD up from nursery and there were only a couple of people there, they were a mix of fascinated, impressed and gobsmacked I think.
Then I had to get a parcel from the neighbour who opened the door and did a brilliant kind of double take. I'm really not sure what she thought.

Then picked up DS from his play date and the mum was like "what happened to your hair?!" But then admitted she loved it and had all sorts of colours when she was younger.

DH was shocked when he got home, he was really unsure at first but he seems to have come round to it with his wonderful "why not, it's not forever" attitude. Brilliant. Just lots of fun!

While I cleaned DS's teeth he had a good play with my hair, he was absolutely fascinated by it. I understood his need to explore it; so I let him do what he wanted.

I'd love to go bright but I wrecked my hair last time I tried. ATM it's the cyber black blue colour from schwartzkoff live dyes.

Autis yes I think we have a very similar natural hair colour. I think you'd get some blue, but it might not be so vivid.

My hairdresser has said that if I get fed up or don't like how it is washing out let her know and she will do me a special treatment to remove the blue and then re charge the blonde.
I think I will have to wash it in the morning though. Playing with my hair has made my finger tips blue

My car has broken again btw. I'm really stressed about it. Although my cousin is driving an hour to tow me to the garage. I feel incredibly lucky and loved and incredibly guilty at the same time. I should be working tomorrow and have 3 meetings at 3 different times. Also have an appt Friday afternoon that I've waited literally months for.

oh no weave, I hope it gets fixed tomorrow!

Weave hope you've made it home safely. Sorry to hear about the car.

Hello all ... I asked for referral for assessment from my GP today. ASD has been mentioned by CMHT previously (but then stated they had "no clinical necessity" to refer me onwards for diagnosis)! But I NEED to know ...

Mini good for you, I think things are somehow easier to navigate when you have a definite answer. You know more about yourself, with certainty, which is definitely a good thing!

Car is at garage and DH just dropped the keys off. I can walk today's appointments for the most part. It means DH misses our DDs school presentation this afternoon though unless they can fix it before 2pm.

I've an appt for eldest tomorrow that I've waited 8 months for. Hoping I have the car by then. A friend has offered me a lift if I haven't though which is one stress reduced.

Just pisses me off as I feel like I go one step forward and 6 steps back.

We need a reliable car asap. We had a notability car until the Torys moved the fucking goal posts and decided that my DHs disability doesn't require a car anymore (or in fact any form of pip, they tried to remove it all) despite the fact he is worse now than when he qualified for max everything in the first place.

mini I fee like I need to know as well. My doctor is chasing mine up. I was referred in about 6 weeks ago.

Weaver fingers crossed for the car. You're right to be angry. It doesn't help, but you're right.

I think the worst part tbh is my week being thrown. Going back into (almost) full time regular hours work and into an office with other people is a massive adjustment for me. I've been coping by meticulously planning my days around the various appointments and work based meetings. The car breaking basically fucks everything up.

Today I am just spending my day walking. It's a 25 min walk to school. I've done it twice already and have to go back to people then collect the kids at 2. It's doable but really unsettling.

Weaver I hate unexpected change. It really bothers me.
Even when the first idea hasn't been exactly thought through - simple example, DH says he fancies take away for dinner, then later says he isn't hungry enough. I've taken it as set. We will have take away. I fantasise about what I want. Then DH says "nah" and I can get really wound up and strop about it.

So I think if you've got all that walking to do on top of the everyday chores you're doing a really really job!

I'm now making tea but I don't know when DH will be back. The garage are looking at the car as we speak so if it's a fast fix he
Could be home in a fixed car in the next 30 mins. Otherwise he may call his dad for a lift or he may get a bus then walk. The timing for each is totally different but I've had to just cook because al the kids are moaning because we normally eat at 5.45-6.00 and DD won't let me deviate

Can you pop a portion a side to stick in the fridge for him or on the side depending on what it is, it's what I do if one of us doesn't want to eat at same time as the other

He got the bus in the end. A friend offered to take me and DD for her appt this afternoon. I've asked her if she can and now I feel horribly guilty and like I want to take
It all back. I've already messaged saying it's fine I can walk she doesn't have to do it (even though she offered)

Still no verdict on what's wrong with the car which is terrifying because it's been at the garage since yesterday. When we called at 4.30 they were just looking at it but it's now 11am the next day and no ones given me a clue. I'm scared that it's totally broken. We have some money but not a lot ATM as we have invested heavily into our business. Enough to buy a shit car but not a decent one.

I'm full of guilt and fear and am struggling to cope.