Divorce or not

[anon2576]

Hi internet
I feel trapped in my marriage. I have to ask him if I can go out with my sisters or going to my mums. Most of the time I end up staying home.
Due to being in an Asian family divorce is still much of a taboo subject, I also have 2 little girls which apparently makes it harder. so family keep telling me to stay for them. We have constant ups and downs which have been going on for a few years now.
What do I do?

Insha Allah guidance is giving sis.

I would also advise to look into the affects of divorce on children. And if you take this step to make sure the inpact is minimal. Financially support tourself before making that move. It doesn't have to be done right away. I would get my ducks in a row and work on saving and working and making aure I can provide for the kids. If you can bare patience then they to wait until your are in a better headspace and financially yo before starting Khula. At least then you arr not repiant on family for housing or support.
All the best sis. X

I know it would impact the children. He is wanting to stay and keeps saying what will we say to people we divorced because I didn't let you see your sisters but there's nothing there anymore.
I'm working part time and have savings. I feel so stuck. Part of me thinks just stay but then I don't know if I can carry on like this. Jazakillah for replying x

Remember the Hadiths sister. A sa7abiha came to the prophet SAW saying she wnated separation as she no longer lived her husband. He was called and he refused and cried saying he loved her. But the Prophet SAW allowed divorce / khula as the wife had 0 desire for him.
When ever anyone complains or bringa up culture we show evidence from the deen.

If you can support yourself and you are prepared for it mentally and financially then do what is best for your deen sister.

I got divorced 12 years ago but I was in a domestically abusive marriage and financially abusive. It took me time to be mentally ready but when I left I was content and was able to rebuild my life. Only you know your limits and you know if it is harmful to your deen.

I am working and know I'll be fine. The only thing I'm worried about is my children. My family have spoken to him but I don't feel anything towards him. He knows things from my past and is saying he'll tell everyone about it.