How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

@Gymnastxo96 you seem to be concentrating on your right to have sex with whoever you want, which noone is arguing with, they are uncertain of the motives of the guys involved and that is different. The fact you are now saying you will try hard to 'act' more like your real age is quite sad and very unrealistic.

@Gymnastxo96 of course you can date anyone you like. In fact, you can get pregnant if you like... Who can stop you? But what people are trying to say is that having a baby is a responsibility, and it's a huge one.

You are saying that you need a man to take on all that you need, plus the needs of a baby, as well as working full time.

Men who date young people in their teens do so with the expectation that they will grow up and become fully functional adults. You are an adult, so your level of function is not going to change hugely now. You are clearly vulnerable, so anyone who dates you is deliberately dating someone who is vulnerable.

Yeah I can definitely recognize the signs. I am very high functioning and able to understand a lot of things. There are people that are a lot worse. I know if they are taking advantage of they just want sex right away and don’t take the time to get to know me. What do you think now?

No that sounds like you have looked up red flags. A man could be as slow as anything but still be taking advantage,
especially the type that sleep with vulnerable women.

How many long term relationships have you had?

And if you are not able to be independent then you aren’t high functioning. People are trying to protect you from yourself. You can’t demonstrate an ability to be consistent with facts, or that you genuinely understand the implications of your desire to settle down and have babies.

Exactly as I thought earlier. Your autism may be the reason you are hyper focusing on the one point and repeating yourself, but it is your other mental processing that is evident here, and lack of understanding of what adult life entails that is the issue. And yes some of these men are taking advantage. Your mum is clearly trying to keep you safe, or as safe as she can. I bet it's not easy for her.

Why would not date a man similar to yourself in terms of ND or IQ. Why do you only want to date a typical man?

OP I really feel for you. I recognise you are old enough and competent enough to consent to sexual relationships and you have every right to do so. Autistic or not you have sexual desires like everyone else.

The reason people are concerned about what youre saying by isn’t about your actual age or the age you act but that you display a vulnerable degree of immaturity in the way you are thinking, like that of someone half your age. I don’t think this is bad in any kind of way but it’s not the level of maturity you need to be entering into the kinds of relationship where you contemplate having children of your own.

By all means go have sexual fun with men you like but educate yourself on some of the red flags or warning signs that the man isn’t with you for entirely wholesome or kind reasons. Some men will like that you act slightly younger because it means they can manipulate you and control you better which is not good for you at all and that is what people here are showing concern about.

Some people say you’re not listening but I understand that it’s just an autistic thing to respond almost defiantly and later process what’s being said when you feel less targeted. So please do take time to process what is being said here. Nobody is saying the things you don’t want to hear to be cruel, it’s because they have a better bit of insight into relationship dynamics right now, something you will develop as you mature into your 30s and beyond.

Again with the ‘what do you think now’

Kindly you are not coming across as high functioning at all. I am high functioning AuDHD - I have worked full time since I was 17, had my own place and navigated relationships.

The speed at which they want sex has very little to do with it. A creepy bloke who likes to prey on someone with learning difficulties is going to be sly enough to play the game at your pace.

Totally, it's grooming.

I do have an understanding of what adult life entails by paying bills, owning a house, keeping the house clean and doing taxes.

Yeah but I am an adult and no one in my town has a problem if I date a typical guy I dated plenty of typical guys before and no one said anything negative about it. So you are saying if I am with a typical guy they will groom me? It’s not true! They got to like me for who I am and it’s not mandatory for me to only date guys that are the same level as me.

@Gymnastxo96

Try to put aside the issue of sex and dating for a while and concentrate on the other main life issues.

Does your mother currently have a medical guardianship for you? Or is that something she is pursuing?

Do you have any other support structures in place apart from your parents? Social worker for example?

Do you pay rent to your parents? How ready do you feel to start working full time, rent your own accommodation, pay all the bills, cook and clean for yourself?

Do you cook meals at home now? Who buys and pays for the groceries?

Do you have health insurance?

Do you have a workable plan for achieving your independence? Someone above posted a great resource for a local arc center which could help with all of this.

OP, do you have female friends who you have discussed this with?

Do you do these things at the moment, @Gymnastxo96 ? Things like paying bills and sorting taxes, by yourself? You're living with your mother so are quite a way from owning (or renting) a house independently.

There's a big difference between knowing this stuff and doing it and even more so when it comes to looking after a baby.

I’ve had plenty of relationships and no one thought the guy took advantage of me. I know what a relationship entails and I am very high functioning. There are many people that are worse then me.

Can you give us some kind of timeline here to better understand your mum’s concerns? At some point you had a sexual consent assessment. Was your mum concerned that you were having sex but lacked capacity to consent and was concerned for your well being and risk of pregnancy? Was this before or after IUD was fitted? Are you using dating as a metaphor for sex? You say your therapist advised you get to know men before ‘dating’ them. So is the IUD is to protect you from becoming pregnant from ‘risky’ sexual encounters that you can legally consent to? Hence guardianship to prevent you removing IUD?

The guy you are currently having sex with is a red herring as you are not in a committed relationship and changes nothing. He doesn’t want to build a life or have children with you. And you still want to find a man that does - providing he is typical and can therefore support you and any future child.

FFS - what have people in your town got to do with it!

And if you are so high functioning why do you keep talking about guys who are on the same level as you.

None of it makes sense. You are not ‘very high functioning’, your posts make that clear. Your refusal to understand that people will take advantage is what makes you vulnerable to it.

You keep refuting anything that posters have to say.

And when we only have your posts to go on and everyone says the same, why do you think that is!

Yes I got a sexual consent assessment after I got the IUD in because my mom was concerned about me having casual sex in the past so I passed the test. And I should look for a man that wants the same things as me.

You keep repeating 'typical guy' -- what exactly do you mean by that? And what do you mean by 'no one in your town having a problem if you date a typical guy'? Do you run your romantic relationships past some kind of town committee, or interview the neighbours for their opinions on your boyfriends? How do you imagine your town would show its disapproval if that is what it felt?

How about not looking for a man at the moment? How about you show everyone how high functioning you are by showing them how you can be independent?

And nothing is guaranteed - you could fall in love with someone,
have a baby and then they could up and leave.

Did you not have a feed back session to go over the results at the time? Why not question it then?

many, if not, most of those tests would have been done online, so it seems pretty unlikely that they could’ve been misinterpreted unless someone fudged your answers.

As far as people are not wanting anything to do with you because they assume you have autism, there’s not a damn thing you can do

I meant a typical guy meaning not having a disability like me like with no disability. People in my town have no problem with me dating someone without a disability.

Yeah I can show people I can be independent! Then it will be ok for me to start looking for a man to be with without people think he is going to take advantage of me?