How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

The only consistent thing about your posts is that they are inconsistent. The stress of a relationship and baby does not sound like something you could cope with. Have you ever looked after a baby alone for any length of time?

He is not taking advantage of me. I took my time to get to know him I can’t believe you would think that any guy I meet would take advantage of me because of my autism. That’s not true

Well according to you it’s just fine but then you say you wouldn’t date a man with the same mental age?

Just because you are apparently able to consent, that doesn’t mean that any man who would want to have sex with someone who is emotionally so young is okay.

I'm not the only one who thinks that some guys would definitely do that.

It isn’t about your autism

It is about you keep changing the facts (mental age, existence of boyfriend etc), the fact that you really are sounding like a young child but you deny you have learning difficulties.

As long as you claim there isn’t an issue, it will get worse.

It sounds like you want a partner to look after you and a baby but it doesn’t sound like you understand what that means.

You certainly aren’t. It’s creepy AF - they usually can’t handle a relationship with a woman on an equal footing so target vulnerable women and make them feel grown up

It's not because of your autism. Clearly there's a lot more going on than autism, even setting aside the mention of bipolar. Your comprehension/communication inconsistencies make this thread difficult, not least because you're pinging from wanting a stable partner, independence and children to wanting to have sex with whichever typical guy you please to satisfy your high sex drive. And all the time it's 'What do you think of me now?' and 'This is what people in my town think', as if those things carry weight in a matter of medical diagnosis and legal status.

Exactly. There are many men who'd be quite happy to go for dinner occasionally with guaranteed sex on tap, but most certainly wouldn't want to look after what might be effectively two children. And i can't exactly blame them 100% , while am judging them for taking advantage of the first bit.

I do understand what it means. It means I got to settle with someone that wants to be with me in the long term. I understand what a boyfriend means and I am not as bad as you think do I sound better now?

Also - if you can't believe any guy might take advantage of a 30yo woman who acts like a teen and has a high sex drive, then you're showing your naivety/the limits of your thinking. At the very least, it would explain why they aren't valuing you as a serious life partner prospect, but still stringing you along in this boyfriend but not situation.

I do understand what it means. It means I got to settle with someone that wants to be with me in the long term. I understand what a boyfriend means and I am not as bad as you think do I sound better now? I understand that a guy would look after a baby when me and him have stable jobs. I am not looking for him to look after me I am able to take care of myself and I understand what a relationship entails.

You are right so does this mean I need to have a boyfriend that’s on the same level as me because I will work on sounding and acting like a 30 year old. It’s also not true that a normal guy would take advantage of me just because I am dating him I have feelings too. What are your thoughts?

What do you think a relationship entails?

You are right so does this mean I need to have a boyfriend that’s on the same level as me because I will work on sounding and acting like a 30 year old. It’s also not true that a normal guy would take advantage of me just because I am dating him I have feelings too. What are your thoughts?

I think a relationship entails of talking about our future together and what we both want of of the relationship and doing things that we both love and understanding if it’s a healthy relationship which I am able to understand the red flags of guys.

I've known, professionally, people with learning disabilities make good parents with adequate support and a willingness to accept it. It's never easy though and frequently involves their own parents doing way more than is usual for grandparents.

I've known others where the child(ren) have been removed and it has invariably been not because of a lack of such support on offer but an UNwillingness to accept it, because they can't see the need or want to be seen as in total control (as they define 'normal') when in reality, they're struggling. The safety and wellbeing of children does and should always come first, though and it doesn't sound like your mother welcomes the idea of possibly doing a lot of care for your child, for a start.

No That has just proved my point, that isn’t what it means. It means daily grind, having to work with budgets, deal with emergencies, then the shitty nappies and sleepless nights if you have a kid. You have an immature view of life and that is the very thing that makes you vulnerable.

Do yourself a favour - read through the relationships board on MN - that will give you an idea of what happens in relationships.

Also the boards about people with disabled children (as any potential child may be genetically more probable to have the same issues).

But yet again with the ‘do I sound better now’?

But it’s legal for a guy to have sex with me as I’m as adult and it’s your assumptions that you think every guy will take advantage of me because of my autism. I understand a lot of things and I’m not that dumb. Don’t make me worse then I seem because I am able to date who ever I want.

OP, everyone here is speaking very clearly. And you do not seem to be able to take on board any of what is being said. So how would you cope with a baby that can't clearly articulate what it needs?

That’s is not what a relationship entails.

And you say you will work on acting your age so you acknowledge you are immature.

What makes you think you could recognise when someone is taking advantage of you?

But it’s legal for a guy to have sex with me as I’m as adult and it’s your assumptions that you think every guy will take advantage of me because of my autism. I understand a lot of things and I’m not that dumb. Don’t make me worse then I seem because I am able to date who ever I want. I am understand what a relationship entails by doing the bills making sure the house is clean and being to take care of an emergency and being able to care for a baby if they are sick. Including their bills too and my bills.

I know when someone is taking advantage of me if they move too fast in a relationship and just wants sex. If they move very slow and want a relationship and make sex the less focus and want a future then they are genuine. I’m very high functioning and know what it entails. I’m not mentally challenged.

you have been told several times that it is not your autism - it is your IQ/cognitive function.

It is legal yes but it doesn’t make it moral. You can’t describe what a relationship really is. Most of the people on here have had a lot of life experience and know that there are dodgy men who will take advantage. You think you can recognise the signs? Because honestly I doubt it.

I said it's not because of your autism. You said I'm assuming it's because of your autism. You're cutting and pasting replies now to different posts and I'm sorry but it's like a malfunctioning bot. What I think now is - I'm out. Get help IRL. Take care.

Seriously? You think if a guy wants to settle with me because I act like a teen is because they want to look after me? That’s not true! People in my town have no problem with me dating typical guys and I am very high functioning autistic. I am not mentally challenged and know what a relationship entails and know when a guy is going to take advantage of me. So that’s not right what you wrote. Autistic people like me have every right to date who ever I want.