How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

No I will listen to the advice people are given to me and start improving my life for the better so people will think I am high functioning and become more independent. Why do I have to be with a guy that is the same level as me? It’s not mandatory.

Based on the way you write and your responses on here I would have guessed you to have some cognitive disabilities and low IQ. I think it's unlikely to be wrong.

However, if the issue is the IUD, then why would you want it out now so you can have a baby in future? The time to have an IUD removed is once you have decided you are ready to try for a baby. Has this been explained to you?

Regarding moving out, are you moving out because you think moving out will prove you are ready for a baby?

You are right I should continue to have the IUD in until I am independent enough to raise a baby and live on my own. I understand better now.

The tests are actually very good measures when they are carried out and interpreted by highly trained professionals who can look for differentials and take into account other existing diagnoses and presentations. They do take account of slow processing, and if there was a big difference between processing and other scores then a General Ability Score (GAI) would be used.

OP it looks like medical guardianship was granted because you want to remove IUD despite still having unprotected risky or unwise sexual encounters with men who do not want to be in a relationship with you and father children with you. Assessment scores are irrelevant in this context. It’s nothing to do with being autistic.

But again, if you are fine and high functioning, what sort of man is on the same level and why don’t you want someone like that?

Ok I completely understand. But I am working on being more independent to live on my own so I could have my IUD removed.

And what if it's not possible? What if you don't get on when living on your own?

But it’s legal for a guy to have sex with me as I’m as adult and it’s your assumptions that you think every guy will take advantage of me because of my autism. I understand a lot of things and I’m not that dumb. Don’t make me worse then I seem because I am able to date who ever I want.

Just because it's legal (ie you're over the age of consent) doesn't mean they're not taking advantage of you.

Please think about the child at the end of this. My mother was told all the things you have been told and her parents wanted rid so pawned her off on my dad. She should never have had kids she didnt know right from wrong, she had a high sex drive and men mattered more then her kids at every turn and still do. By the time i was 12 i was more mature then her I knew things she were doing were wrong and embarassing. She was taken advantage of. But if she wasnt low iq and i didnt understand that some of the things she has done she would be in prison for if the services knew. We were taken into care when i was ten because she didnt have the ability to not let creeps in the house.

Yeah but just because I seem younger then I am doesn’t mean every guy I try to date will take advantage of me. I really have the right to date who ever I want.

Just because you can, it doesn’t mean you have the necessary life skills to do so

There are many different scores provided through a cognitive assessments. The ones you describe sounds like the WISc V. When I do these I get scaled scores, standardised scores, age equivalents and percentiles. So it’s up to who is delivering it to provide the most meaningful information for the purpose and audience. For example, In the UK when doing adult assessments it can be helpful to give a FSiQ score as some services use a FSIQ (under 70) to access services. FSIQ’s should only be reported if the index scores were similar. Big discrepancies mean that other scores can be given GAI or NVR.

Obviously this information should be used alongside other sources- observation, interview, school reports, and other assessment measures like adaptive scales. The op had both a cognitive and adaptive scales used (plus likely some of the other sources).

Your "needs", more properly called "wants" because you won't die if you don't have sex, can be met with decent sex toys.

One of the things that makes you vulnerable to male abuse is that you are thinking with your clitoris instead of your head. Finding a reliable route to DIY orgasms will give you some protection from abuse, because you will be less tempted to jump into to bed with an unsuitable man just to deal with horniness.

One of the things that will make your mother and the courts think that you cannot look after yourself is that you want everything now and struggle to grasp the idea of "playing a long game" and going without something you want in the short term to get a better outcome later on. You want sexy times with a boyfriend now, even though "it's not official". You want to risk pregnancy now, with a boyfriend who is "not official" and no home of your own.

The most important decision that you will make in your life is whether to have children and who to have them with. This decision needs to be based on several factors, the most important of which are:

1. Is this man a good man? A good husband? A good father?
2. Whether you could cope financially and practically as a single mother if you misjudged the man's character.

You certainly are not meeting the criteria posed in the second question. And I think you are too naive to make reasoned judgements about the first. You prove me wrong by forgetting about boyfriends and sex for a while and focussing on more hours at work and training to get a better-paid job, with the medium-term goal of earning enough money to save an emergency fund and the long-term goal of being able to afford your own place.

It's not just about living on your own. Think about:

• Are you in a committed, long term relationship with a man who also wants to be a father?
• Are you in a financial position to support a child? (they are very expensive!) Could you do it on your own if your partner left or couldn't work?
• Are you able to look after yourself and a child safely? Being independent is just a first step, having a child is doubling the work and also making it much more important. Forgetting to eat a meal, for example, just means you will be hungry and eat more at the next meal. Forgetting to feed your baby could make them very sick.
• With your disabilities, will you be able to cope with sleep deprivation and having little to no downtime for days and weeks at a time? It is stressful for everyone but harder when you have difficulties.
• If your child inherits your diagnoses, are you able to advocate for them? Can you communicate well with psychologists, teachers, doctors and social workers?
• What is your knowledge like of the things you will need to know- safely feeding your baby and putting them to sleep, car seat safety, basic child development? Would you be able to help them with homework and read with them regularly?
• You mention your Mum has been concerned about you being taken advantage of and that you have dated lots of men. Do you understand that after having a baby, you cannot be bringing lots of men into your home and will be very restricted with regards to going out?

I think it's important that you recognise that living by yourself is not the same as being ready for a baby and in many ways could make matters worse.

Previosuly you said mental age doesnt exist, in this quote you said you are mature for your age then you said you wouldn't date someone with your mental age. You are contradicting yourself.

The problem is you are getting lots of conflicting advice here. But we dont know you in real life. Only what you have written here which does appear to make you sound very vulnerable. You keep asking them same questions, ask questions we cant possibly know the answer to and have a very immature approach to falling pregnant 'if it happens it happens' is not a considered thoughtful and prepared plan for parenthood.

I would suggest building a therapeutic relationship with a psychiatrist or pyschologist where they support and advise you about whether it is a good idea to have a baby. Get a professional opinion and listen to their advice. Because if you have a baby, and then afterwards realise you can't cope and dont gave adequate support (no partner or mum to help for example) then you and most importantly the baby will suffer. The baby may not thrive, could be neglected and may be taken away from you, which would cause lifelong trauma for you both. That is the reality of having a child when you have a low IQ, additional needs, not enough money, not enough support.
Im not trying to be hurtful but there is so much more to raising a human being to thrive than just being able to do laundry and cook etc. You need to be able to make difficult decisions under pressure, you need reliable finaces. You need to be able to cope with emotional dysregulation whilst being extremely sleep deprived. You need to be able to cook healthy food, manage all the bills, support your child with schoolwork, guide them through relationship dramas, advocate for them if they have additional needs themselves. The list goes on and on and on. Most people without additional needs really struggle with parenting at times because it is very very hard. Its not something you do without a lot of thought and planning.

I think you need to seek an advocate who is independent and can advise you - is there a charity or service that can help you?

you write as if you have a learning disability and i don't think you should be considering having children

You have rights to consensual sex but guardianship exists to protect the rights of a yet to exist child. Especially where you would be unable to support and care for them due to known issues.

You have no grounds for removal of guardianship that would result in removal of IUD and likely pregnancy.

Yeah I definitely do have rights!! Finally someone who understands my disability and my rights!!

Have you ever considered how the child might feel about your capacity in the future and the fact that you are purposefully seeking out a “normal” man with no disabilities to basically “breed” with?

Or are you just completely hyperfocused on having a baby as a fun plaything?

Because you just honestly sound like you want a baby because you think it’d be fun or cool.

Yeah I definitely do have rights!! Finally someone who understands my disability and my rights!!

When it comes to parenthood, you don't have rights, you have responsibilities.

If you're not able to manage those responsibilities (and bear in mind that even for a settled couple without disabilities, parenthood is recognised as an extremely difficult task) then it will result in very serious consequences both for you and your child.

You don't understand this post OP.

1. Your OP about how you deal with misdiagnosis. I dont think you have been misdiagnosed, but you may need to go through something similar to the stages of grief to accept what that means for you

1. Knowing WHAT being an independent adult entails isnt the same as knowing HOW to do those things and WHEN to initiate them. My LO (6) knows to put her plate in the dishwasher (supervised), and to tidy her toys but would do neither without prompting. Its not enough to know being an adult includes bill paying and house work its to recognise when they need doing and how to do them effectively.

1. You fixating on babies and men and sex. Stating "your town" doesnt thing youre taken advantage of. I mean you dont know what people in the town think, sometimes people lie or hide their opinions. And no one is saying ALL the men you date or have dated were using you, theyre saying you are more easily manipulated even over a long period of time.

1. Autism and IQ are both scales, of course there will be others more disabled than you. But being more capable than some others with similar circumstances doesnt mean you arent vulnerable to potential predators or grooming. AGAIN no one is suggesting ALL men that date you are predatory, just some. This is reinforced when you say things like he wont commit because you are too immature for him.. but hes still happy to have sex with you.

1. Some of these comments arent because of your autism or IQ. I would say to any woman, if you arent good enough to be his GF but you are good enough to have sex with - hes an arsehole. Now thats fine if you just want sex without commitment too. But any woman hoping a man shes having sex with will commit when he has said he wont is looking for heartbreak. And youve said your current BF wont be serious with you because you are immature but will have sex with you. His behaviour isnt matching his words. Youre too immature except when he wants sex. That is why so many of us worry.

Finally I am still curious, why do you only want to date "typical" men. Why wouldnt you date someone with autism and a similar IQ?