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Love Actually - Hasn’t dated so well…

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SMAJJ · 12/12/2025 15:06

Following on from an earlier thread regarding Four Weddings, I watched Love Actually a few years back and can remember a few things that made me think it’s not dated so well!
Fat shaming, misogyny, homophobic but the worse one for me personally was Colin Firth’s character using an offensive ableist slur…
AIBU and overthinking it - it’s what it is yadda yadda even though it makes me cringe and is slightly triggering ( child has a disability)

its on over Christmas and it’s annoying me that it’ll be lumped in as a great Christmas film but I find it really outdated and offensive!

I really hate that kind of stuff: it’s nasty and outdated!!
Someone give my head a wobble but be kind if you do….

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Labelledelune · 15/12/2025 13:42

KittyHigham · 15/12/2025 08:06

Your arguments are so flawed it's staggering.

But with specific reference to @SMAJJ 's point relating to the ableist slur used in the film, I can say without doubt that did not reflect the "sensibilities of the time". The excellent and long established charity, The Spastic Society, had to change their name to Scope in 1994 because of the offensive appropriation of the word. So, no. It wasn't an acceptable term in 2003 and there's no justification in the context of Colin Firth's character or storyline that would make it relevant to be used. It was written without thought or consideration. Casual ableism.

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You seem fun.

Bojosgirl · 15/12/2025 14:18

SMAJJ · 12/12/2025 15:06

Following on from an earlier thread regarding Four Weddings, I watched Love Actually a few years back and can remember a few things that made me think it’s not dated so well!
Fat shaming, misogyny, homophobic but the worse one for me personally was Colin Firth’s character using an offensive ableist slur…
AIBU and overthinking it - it’s what it is yadda yadda even though it makes me cringe and is slightly triggering ( child has a disability)

its on over Christmas and it’s annoying me that it’ll be lumped in as a great Christmas film but I find it really outdated and offensive!

I really hate that kind of stuff: it’s nasty and outdated!!
Someone give my head a wobble but be kind if you do….

Don’t like it don’t watch it. Simples

750ml · 15/12/2025 14:44

OP, I think it's an awful film - I am in total agreement with you. I first watched it about 10 years ago and tried to watch it again recently and I still hated it.

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SMAJJ · 15/12/2025 14:57

Labelledelune · 15/12/2025 13:42

You seem fun.

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No actually @KittyHighamtalks sense whereas you’ve just been goady…..

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Labelledelune · 15/12/2025 16:25

SMAJJ · 15/12/2025 14:57

No actually @KittyHighamtalks sense whereas you’ve just been goady…..

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In ‘your’ opinion of course.

KittyHigham · 15/12/2025 18:39

Labelledelune · 15/12/2025 13:42

You seem fun.

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Why does my differing viewpoint to yours equate to me having no sense of fun?

It's perfectly possible to have both a great sense of humour and the ability to apply critical thinking.

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