A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

There's norovirus going round the nursery at the minute, I'll send it your way.

Oh my goodness Polter that is hugely offensive.

Use the cheque to buy laxative chocolate for your MIL!

Polter, that's awful!

We all have a particularly nasty cold thing here (DH has proclaimed it 'flu' and it is horrid but I'm pretty sure it's just a really awful cold) so I can send you some of our snotty tissues, cups we've drunk from, clothes we've worn etc.

That's crap Polter
Is your dp the sort who will accept "ds and I are not going because xyz"?
Also sending virus vibes, I'm sure between us we can get you ill enough to bunk off!
Spend the money on nice (not laxative) chocolate for yourself, bugger your mil!

Sorry this is long.
Need to vent/explain somewhere others will understand.
Builder needs to measure up in my flat. He just contacted to say he'd come around in the next hour as he's working in the area.
Wasn't home when he rang, on the bus home. For a start I need someone else here to help me deal with them at all. Then there's the having someone in the flat. Place isn't tidy. Got out of the house this morning leaving mess from a nosebleed to sort out.

Had to phone/text (horrendous) then txt and phone again to find out if they got text as builder didn't reply- arrrghhh. Just recovering, rocking. Need to get some lunch -anxious, even though I know intellectually that it is a difference not something wrong I hate having autism at the moment.

SingaSong there's nothing I hate more than unknown people turning up. I always talk A LOT of crap and overshare things.

Difference is only shit because others don't recognise it/respect it.

Injustice... I cannot deal with it AT ALL. I will continue to argue until people think I'm loopy, because there's no way I can accept that things are not fair.

Earlier I was laughing hysterically on that thread about social awkwardness - to the point I was physically crying. It happens at the most inappropriate moments, even when nothing funny has happened. It does take a lot for me to laugh out loud, but once it's going it builds to a sort of crescendo and then I need to sleep!

Phew, that was a huge catch up- been on holiday over half term. Then visiting family today as they were going away. Social hangover now!

Sorry for all the people that are having a shit time lately- for you all- choose which you'd rather have.

polter sending flu vibes- though wouldn't it be easier to just fake being ill?

Well look what I just found! - might be worth a browse Polter
It's a good job Google didn't exist when I was at school, I'd never have been there, although I did miss a whole term of Latin by picking my nose until it bled (is that an option?).

Been thinking about your suggestion of a notebook instead of the £45 a month () Brain in Hand.
I think this is something that could really help, and include lists of things that help when I'm starting to get stressed, and I think it could help ds1 & 2 as well (although would maybe need to laminate the pages!)
I wondered if anyone else had some good ideas of things to include?

I'm thinking it may need to be something like Sheldon's video he makes when he has an earworm and thinks he's going mad, a reminder of who I can trust and what to do, if that makes sense, but in notebook form.

I know that listening to music or putting earplugs in helps, but if I'm stressed I often need to be told to do that.

My meltdown the other night really frightened ds3. If I raise my voice at all now he is very upset. I feel awful that I've done that to him.

I am genuinely ill, you can have what I've got. Can't be flu, I've had a jab but do I feel ill! Aching muscles, hot and cold, been sick. I slept all day yesterday and only woke last night when the meds wore off. Woe is me! Off work today.

Once I drop DD to my sister's, it'll most be lying on the bed watching Gilmore Girls for me!

Pig I had a meltdown in front of DD last week. I was ashamed (I usually keep it in til after her bed time) but talked it through with my counsellor. She said given how much stress I'm under it's understandable and actually that as long as I explained to DD about it (which I did, DD has asked about it a lot!) that's it's ok for kids to see that adults get upset too, rather than assuming we keep a stiff upper lip. Kids are more understanding that we sometimes give them credit for.

Faith, hope you're feeling better soon.

I haven't discussed it at all, but I have apologised. I'm quite embarrassed about it. I was holding it all in ok, then tripped over a toy car and out it all came, very loudly and quickly, then I was useless for the rest of the night. I tried to talk to Dh about it, but he doesn't do talking, just said I need to go to the dr and sort myself out, I tried to explain about burnout (which I believe fits me perfectly) and feeling completely overwhelmed, but i don't think he gets it.

Polter
You're not a whiny self-absorbed petulant arsehole

Polter I suspect that most of us on here feel the same way. I had a meltdown once because I'd run out of contact lenses! It was the final straw and DH could not compute why it was that that upset me. Feel free to vent here. It's a safe space.

polter
I had a meltdown because DP decided to fry bacon. I don't like fried bacon, only grilled. I was exhausted, stressed about a lot of other things (cancer scare) and that just sent me over the edge.