A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

Today's procrastination project here is an essay on normative theories of ethics

Going in holiday to Wales tomorrow...visiting my in-laws and am stressing about going. DS (also ASD) doesn't want to go either.

Once we are on our way I will relax and when there it will be fine as my IL are lovely.

But today....I don't want to pack. I don't want to leave my beloved animals....stressing about that even though I have good care arranged for all of them.

Have started packing but lots of procrastinating going on.

Prefer being at home.

My mum came to visit today. I love seeing her and really miss her but it's very hard work with the boys. They both get so excited about her being here they're even noisier than usual and DS1 gets overloaded and starts kicking out at people/winding up DS2 etc.

DH is putting them to bed right now and I just feel zombified.

We're attempting a trip to the seaside tomorrow with the dogs (even the crazy one!).
Tricky at the moment as ds2 is so angry and wanting to hurt everyone. Fingers crossed a change of scenery will be good for everyone.

Thanks rat& hsf.

Good luck with the weighted blanket project Laura. I'm sure you'll get the hang of it!

I always dread going on holiday too Alfie. Staying at home would be my preference but it's not always realistic.

Hope you've managed to recover after your mums visit Big and good luck with the seaside trip Pig!

It was dd's birthday today so it's been full on. She got gifted some kinetic sand from a relative and I am fascinated by it. Haven't stopped fiddling with it all evening. Amazing stuff.

I feel so ridiculous. I've noticed my friends list on fb has gone down by 2. I can't figure out who deleted me so they obviously weren't an important part of my life but I still feel like I need to know. So annoying.

delete we have kinetic sand too. Amazing stuff.

Inevitably Project Weighted Blanket has not yet begun! It is in the thinking about it and prodding the internet stage of development.

What I did do though was get dragged into go into a shop I would not normally go near. I haven't had a reputable winter coat since I was a child as I hate shopping and really hate trying on winter weight clothes in a hot shop. DP coerced me in and I now have a coat which I am told looks really good. And she told me how brave I had been so it was almost worth the tearful anxiety attack that preceded it.

Good luck, Pig! Hope the seaside is a success.

Delete, I'm not sure when or how I stopped knowing how many FB friends I have/stopped caring but it was very liberating. It might be that someone has deactivated their account rather than specifically unfriending you (if that makes sense).

Laura, well done and I hope you enjoy your new coat.

I booked a thing for the boys through the children's centre for today but now I'm anxious about it for two reasons.

Firstly, it's a walk to and look around a commune place but since the commune is about a four minute walk away from our house (and the children's centre is a good 20 minute walk with the boys) the woman at the children's centre said we could just meet them there rather than going all the way to the centre just to walk back again. But she could only give an estimate as to when they'd get there so we'll turn up and...what? Wait around outside? What if they're already inside? It's gated so I wouldn't know what to do.

Secondly, when I booked this and a 'spooky stay and play' for the boys the woman at the centre didn't actually write all this down/book it in but said she would do it after I'd gone. I'm worried she forgot to do it (next time I saw her she asked if I'd booked anything for over half term so that made me think she'd forgotten) and I'll turn up with the boys to be told we're not on the list (limited places).

I'm sure normal people don't worry about this stuff.

Quick question if I may?
I had my first appt with the psychologist today wrt diagnosis (or not). I am absolutely exhausted now. Is this normal?
We didn't finish so have to back for another go.

Giddy, yes completely normal!
I was warned of that during my first psych appointment, thought "nah, not going to happen!", got home and could barely move! I couldn't even cook tea I was so,exhausted, and ended up going to bed at about 8pm.

Seaside has been lovely. Dd was at a no sleepover last night and was less than lovely, ended up going back to the car to sleep .

How did your day go BDH?

Giddy - yes very normal!

I've had an easy day today but actually got a little bit of work done - yay.

Giddy, I went to my first CBT appointment of six this morning, got home and had a 3.5hr nap Absolutely normal!

(Have done CBT before but this is a refresher to help deal with anxiety.)

I had physio today. Then parents evening tonight. Ugh. I want to eat and go bed now. Just waiting on my takeaway.

Thank you all. Went to bed and slept for 2 hours

It was fine, Stop, thanks for asking.

We arrived before the rest of the group, someone came to the gate and I explained so he let us in and started to show us round a bit then the rest of the group arrived.

Well done for getting work done.

Giddy, I know I feel shattered after any social interaction so I can imagine something that intense taking it out of you.

Was a bit confused at CBT… was asked to talk about my family, and I explained my mum is almost certainly autistic too. She said, "Oh, it's unusual for it to travel down the female line!" It's not like it's x-linked!

"Travel down the female line"?? Um.... I'm not a biologist but that sounds like horlicks to me...

She said, "Oh, it's unusual for it to travel down the female line!"

I've just added the Female Line on my mental tube map.

It's purple and shaped like a uterus.

😂

The daft thing is, it seems like there might be a mitochondrial link in autism, which is very definitely the female line! (I have a theory that's part of what going on in my family.)

Today's not going so well. I was looking forward to it because it's the only day of half term we were just going to stay in without anyone coming to visit. I just planned to 'put Halloween decorations up', which seemed an easy task given we don' have many.

DS2 seemed to get ill last night, though, so he's in a bad way and has been hard work today. Plus, I was up with him in the night so I'm tired. DS1 and I are just constantly clashing in general right now. He's a wall of noise and demands, which are two things I'm not handling particularly well.

DH's best friend tagged him in some video on Facebook, which has sparked a debate/argument where DH disagrees with pretty much all his friends (it's a contentious issue that often comes up on MN so I won't go into more detail). DH seems to have taken it all very personally and I think he's pretty upset (he's at work so I'm only going by text based communication).

I tried to do arts and crafts stuff with the boys and it was a big fail. Ended with black paint and the sofa and floor and the actual project didn't work.

I'm counting down the hours until I can put the boys to bed.