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Does anyone fancy going a bit Stepford with me?

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BEAUTlFUL · 24/11/2008 22:32

I regret that title now! but will carry on regardless...

Basically, I have recently read a marriage book called "Fascinating Womanhood" by helen Andelin, written in the 1960's, and am starting to practise it in my marriage. It involves a lot of work, but good work, IYKWIM, accepting DH, admiring him, appreciating his efforts, listening to him, being a "domestic goddess", taking over childcare completely, settling him with a drink when he comes home, etc.

I'm LOVING it and actually weirdly feel a lot happier and more confident since I started it! I know it's not going to be popular with many of you, but is there anyone out there who fancies trying it out?

We could do it like a sort of bookclub, and follow the assignments every week. It promises to make your DH absolutely gaga in love again, v attentive, romantic, etc.

But more than that, it really teaches you acceptance, so if they're not being perfect, it really doesn't get to you as much. Or at all.

I know it'll get scoffed at, but I don't care really!

Anyone? It's hard work, but I'm convinced it's worth it as after just 3 weeks, DH and I feel so much closer, he is saying ILY all the time, we are laughing again, holding hands in bed, etc.

Even my mum has noticed. We went there for lunch and afterwards Mum rang up and said, "What's with you two? Your DH looks so happy and confident, and your body-language together was so 'united'!"

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BEAUTlFUL · 24/11/2008 23:51

Oh God. Look, stop posting to me so manfully! You just know I'm weak and will crumble!

I didn't think it was that bad. I was only doing it for fun. I just wanted a bit more hair-stroking.

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Quattrocento · 24/11/2008 23:51

DO NOT FEED THE LOONS

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dsrplus8 · 24/11/2008 23:53

beautiful your making it worse!!! you are a troll arent you????

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anyfucker · 24/11/2008 23:54

right, out with it

you fucking weirdo

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dittany · 24/11/2008 23:55

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dsrplus8 · 24/11/2008 23:56

pmsl at anyfucker

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Tortington · 24/11/2008 23:56

you are giving him financial control

so he will stroke your hair.

its fucking ridiculous.

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Tortington · 24/11/2008 23:57

good point dittany, what kind of real man wants a wet loon like that anyway.

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BEAUTlFUL · 24/11/2008 23:57

Oh, for fuck's sake, I'm not a bloody troll! Grrr!

Has nobody here ever read a self-help book and got completely sweapt away by its promise? Has nobody else felt bored in theiur marriage, worn down by things, and wanted a way to improve it?

Am I the only one to read something and be so spineless impressionable to have leapt all over it like it's The Answer and then tried to convert everyone else?

If it's any consolation, DH is all a bit shocked too, albeit in a happy way.

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Quattrocento · 24/11/2008 23:57

STOP FEEDING THE LOONS

I don't believe for one second that this is a woman posting. It's some sick bloke getting off on this.

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anyfucker · 24/11/2008 23:58

if this is trollery, its the best I've seen for a while

my blood pressure is through the roof !



I will say it again,

I HATE IT IF ANYONE STROKES MY HAIR!!

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thumbwitch · 24/11/2008 23:58

get one of these if it's hair-stroking you want! FFS, giving up your rights as an equal partner are NOT worth it. Even though I strongly suspect you are trolling for fun.

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dsrplus8 · 24/11/2008 23:59

beautiful troll , your a troll, its droll, your probably a man on the dole, you oh trolly troll.go find yourself the nearest hole ,....and stay there!!!!

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Tortington · 24/11/2008 23:59

ehs happy now, wait til he comes in and you havent got the tea on the table and he demands it - as a right.

then you say - fuck off

then you get divorced

AND YOU DONT KNOW HOW MUCH MONEY THERE IS COS YOUR A SILLY BINT.

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thumbwitch · 25/11/2008 00:00

anyfucker, seriously, this thing is soooo much better than having your hair stroked, which I also hate.

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MotherBored · 25/11/2008 00:00

Yeah yeah. Self help book. yes of course

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Tortington · 25/11/2008 00:00

SHE isn't a troll she has posted on mn fer ages - she is deluded and stupidly believes that this shit is the answer.

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Quattrocento · 25/11/2008 00:01

Do you know any woman in the UK who would hand over her money, dignity and pride over to her husband in return for having her head stroked like a pet dog?

I ask you.

Blardy loons. Here I am meant to be writing deathless prose about the PBR and instead getting sucked in by loons.

Oy, loons. Your master says it's time you were in bed. He phoned me and told me to tell you. You'd better go now ...

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anyfucker · 25/11/2008 00:01

pmsl @ dsr

go and have a dance round a pole...

or summat

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sweetgrapes · 25/11/2008 00:03

Why do you think she's a troll? People DO live like this. and these books do have their followers.

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thumbwitch · 25/11/2008 00:03

custy, i think she is still trolling, even though she is a known regular - if she isn't then she really needs a psychiatrist - but I think she is starting to give her trollery away in the last couple of posts.

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anyfucker · 25/11/2008 00:03

thumbwitch, that erogenator, I wants me one of those

however, I suspect it might get used in an altogether different way.... mwah-ha-ha-ha

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Quattrocento · 25/11/2008 00:04

Custy

If this is a woman

and she really believes "this shit is the answer"

then she is totally, but totally beyond any form of help.

And if you do drag her back into sanity, she'll just go and join the Moonies or something next week.

Give up now and don't get upset

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dittany · 25/11/2008 00:05

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dsrplus8 · 25/11/2008 00:05

[quattrocentro, pmsl roflol/ hey beautiful if your not a troll sorry, the men in white coats will be with u shortly , theyll tell u what to do , when to take the meds, when u can phone home ,when to get up and go to bed......youll love it !!

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