Bill splitter karma

[Payforyourowndinner]

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

Oh dear.

Get well soon!

Hopefully these are at least sick days & you can have days off another time.

Hope you feel much better soon, OP.

We need valiant anti-CF warriors like you good and healthy and ready for battle!!

Aww get well soon @Payforyourowndinner 🌺

Hope you feel better soon OP! xx

@Payforyourowndinner

Sorry you're feeling unwell OP. Time to get under a rug on the sofa watching daytime TV (or Prime, Netflix etc) or under the duvet in bed. Rest up with your work devices switched off until you are better. Hope you have a calm, relaxed weekend. 🌹

This post has made my day!

I do wonder if this kind of person just restricts this behaviour to bill splitting at meals; or whether there are other areas in life where they also get angry and try to use shaming tactics, just because somebody doesn't want to give in to their flagrant demands for whatever they want.

Oh this absolutely happens elsewhere in their lives. They’re the ones who disappear to the loo when it’s their round (popping back up when everyone has a drink: “Oh, I’ll just get mine, then!”), charges you petrol money for even the shortest journey when they know you wouldn’t charge them, asks to share your hotel bathroom because they didn’t want to pay for a hotel so are camping but still want a nice bathroom to use…

The fuckers are EVERYWHERE.

As a PP said, we all like it when life offers a bonus: finding a tenner in the street or a shop that gives you a gift card as an apology. But getting your “bonuses” by taking from others - particularly those less well off or less able to speak up - is just arsehole behaviour.

This happened to me recently. Out for dinner with work, 8 people, some drinking, some not. We decide to ask for separate food and drinks bills to be fair to the people who weren’t drinking. Drinks bill alone works out at £35 per head. Me and one colleague shared a £20 bottle of wine, then I had one more glass of house wine. So no way mine and this one colleagues share came to £35 each. Two girls shared two bottles of Prosecco and someone else had several Black Russians. Both the girl I shared with and I commented that was way more than what we had actually drank. I offered to pay a little more than the colleague I was sharing with because I had an extra glass, hoping to shame the others into splitting it more equally. No one cracked a light. People also seemed to forget that soft drinks aren’t exactly cheap either and would have pushed that bill up a little. Yeah everyone should pay for what they have.

People also seemed to forget that soft drinks aren’t exactly cheap either and would have pushed that bill up a little.

I don’t drink alcohol and remember having to argue this one time. As the only non-drinker they took me off the drinks bill. In the end we agreed it was easiest if I put the cost of my drinks into the tip.

I agree with those who have said they can’t believe he admitted he wouldn’t have ordered what he did if he was not splitting!!! The cheek!

You're a legend!!!!!!!!

You deserve a promotion. 👏👏👏

What a CF expecting others to subsidise him! To admit that he wouldn't have stuffed his face if he had to pay for it. I wish someone had of gotten a photo of him when he was told he was paying for himself.

I've been taken to the cleaners like this. Top marks to you for putting the greedy tight pig in his place.

Well done! Wish I could have seen it!

Right! And that's why he was embarrassed. If, when he found out they weren't splitting the bill as expected, he just said 'Okay' and PAID FOR THE FOOD AND DRINKS HE CONSUMED, then there would be no need to be embarrassed, and no need to consider 'taking it further'. What. A. Turd.

That is brilliant!

Well done! You are a legend 🥰

Someone has possibly asked this already, but did he drink the whole bottle of wine himself 😯??

That is true and is still the case.

This is brilliant well done you!

Bravo! Bravo! Bravo!
Never really been badly stung in a bill-splitting situation, even though I'm a light 2-course max eater.
But there have been times I haven't ordered something I really wanted to order, just because everyone's ordering differently. And I'm not going to order a dish that is a clear expensive indulgence.
I'm a huge fan of pay for yourself, when you're out in a group.
And yes, I will order a bottle or two of wine to share with others.
But equally I could buy a glass of wine.

In Japan as a very young woman, three of us adults, colleagues, not real friends, one with a teenage son. The other two adults chose a restaurant for lunch, horrifying prices, so I had the smallest, cheapest item on the menu, with water, assuming we would pay our own, as was the norm in my country. The others, including son, all ate up large, wine, sake, the works. Bill arrived, I had my yen in my hand all sorted, but the others decided to split the bill - THREE ways. The son, you see, having no money, should not be expected to pay for his own.

I hope OP feels better! Could be karma keeping you out of harms way!

This thread is an award winner!!! Just awesome!!

I’ve loved this thread. You are a breath of fresh air @Payforyourowndinner . Let’s hope he’s learnt the hard way and if not then it’s up to others to stand up for themselves now. Get well soon ☺️