Bill splitter karma

[Payforyourowndinner]

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

Wow! I got such a buzz from reading this. Well done you! We all know someone like this.

Hoping that you feel better, soon. You have done a good thing. x

Totally! There's something wrong with people who think like him.

Another nomination for classics please @MNHQ 🙏
Perfect way to deal with these CFs.

@Payforyourowndinner you were magnificent! The only way to improve this is if you’d filmed it to share with us - what a treat that would have been 😁

I think this is an amazing post, and so insightful. Thank you @shenandoahvalley 😊 🙏
TW is worse than a grabby CF, he believes the world owes him & how dare a woman challenge him.

What an absolute wanker. It blows my mind that people like him actually exist & operate in real life 🤯

Well done in putting him straight- guess people like that function on the basis that most people are too polite to challenge them.

I take my hat off to you OP! Well done 👏

This is a glorious thread to read. Bravo to you and your colleagues @Payforyourowndinner

in a way i wish hed taken it furter-would love to hear what hr tinks of his madness

Superb! That’s really a brass neck he’s got thinking he could slide it in as a communal tab

He won't be taking it further?? So not only is he a greedy entitled CF, he's stupendously stupid to boot to not feel a shred of shame.

Thanks for sharing OP.

I might have been tempted to suggest if he intends to come out again, he actively offers to buy wine etc for junior colleagues after his true colours have been exposed - he’s been purposefully freeloading off them.

Horrible to have to sit there with one course and a glass of water for the privilege of having dinner with a twat like that.

What a cheak!!
Well done for standing up for yourself and for everyone else.
I have never understood why this bill-splitting even exists. It doesnt seem to make any sense to me. (Not a done thing in my home country.)

Well, yes! aka OP made him look like the tight arse he actually is!

Him paying last reminds me of a work meal we went to where we had a set menu of £50 a head and a separate drinks bill. The sober person divided the drinks bill and told each person what they owed so as the card reader came around we paid £50 plus our drinks plus a tip, if we wished. I was sat beside the bloke paying last and he said to the waitress just take what’s left off my card as if it was a grand gesture. I quickly jumped in and said no that means you are using the tips to subsidise your bill. Pay what you owe!

He sat elsewhere next time.

Oh how lovely.
Thank you for sharing.

This has made my week! Thanks for sharing Karma Fairy!!!

Seriously though, might it be a good idea to beat him to the punch and give HR a run down of what happened just in case he decides to be a vindictive little twerp and “take it further”?

Hope you feel better OP!

Loved this, have been on the recieving end of this too many times, especially as a non drinker.

Had to go to a girly do of about 15 recently. It was a whatsapp group that prearranged via text that everyone bring cash for easier splitting of the bill rather than using a card. I thought this was a nice way of enabling everyone to just pay their own way, without any embarrassment or awkwardness, with the added benefit that the venue didn't have the payment fee either for the card payers.

What a bellend! 😤
I’m sorry he’s not taking it any further though. 😂

Mess with a menopausal woman at your peril! 😎😉

Just think some poor person has probably dated him.

I think his reaction is a bit dark and narcissistic.

I can’t bear this! How can he consider himself to be the wronged party? He must be made to understand! By force, if necessary!

Those who want this thread in Classics, report the OP and say so, like I did! 😃