Words/sayings that had a profound effect on you.

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What words or saying really effected you/changed your mentality/ helped you etc

Maya Angelou's words "when some one shows you who they are believe them" helped my leave an abusive situation. I realized the abuser was exactly that and they won't change so there was no point in trying to 'understand'/'excuse' their behaviour.

I keep this in mind now when in all my relationships. It's actually helping me to undo some cognitive dissonance over some siblings that are the lovely golden child and being told from.childhood that they're sweet, lovely etc but now I realise actually just how awful they were/are to me.

Along similar vein is "how they treat you is how they feel about you". This really helped me open my eyes to one particular sibling and their nastiness towards me.

Another saying I am trying to implement in my life retrospectively in some cases, is "be careful of what you tolerate; by what you tolerate you teach others how they can treat you".
Trying to step back from my 'pick me' 'begging for some kindness' behaviour, making clear to people that I am not happy with their behaviour.

" No one can walk over you unless you lie down. "

Today will be yesterday. I saw it on a poster on my way to work and I did have to think about it a bit more than I probably should have, but it's stuck with me probably because of its simplicity.

Mine is from the poet Rilke:

Let everything happen to you
Beauty and Terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final

When I feel overwhelmed/life is tough I repeat it to myself at night and it helps me calm down and fall asleep

If we all threw our troubles in the air, we would be lucky to catch our own.

Also, always be kinder than common courtesy requires.

You die twice, the second time when your name gets spoken for the last time. That shook me.

The faults you see in others are the faults you see in yourself. I always remember that when people are pricks too me.

It's certainly a cheeky one but -

'There are two sides to every story, but you're a c**t in both of them'

Weirdly it really helped me when my ex-best friend turned on me and threatened to sabotage my wedding. It made me feel stronger.

Also, from The Crown -
"That's the thing about unhappiness, all it takes is for something worse to come along and you realise it was actually happiness after all."

So profoundly true.

“Alcohol. The cause of, and solution to, all of life’s problems.”

Homer
(Simpson)

"Imagine how we would be, if we were less afraid. "

@teaandcakeordeath83 I love that Latin saying Dum Spiro Spero meaning while I breathe i hope. I have a necklace which has it stamped in gold using a sealing wax from the late 1700s & my husband bought it for me when I was facing an incredibly challenging situation in work. I wear it a lot & I touch it like a talisman when I need to remember that I can do what I need to do! It brings me huge comfort

"Other people's opinions of you are none of your business."

I used to obsess over whether people liked me and hated the thought of someone disliking me at all. Now I genuinely couldn't care less 😁

I deliver very complex projects in work & I always keep in mind the thought that there us an answer to every problem..it may not be the first solution you try but there will be a resolution. And some times that answer is a no it won't work.

“Never compare the inside of you with the outside of others”. Said by a colleague at work.

Very easy to think that others have amazingly perfect lives when in reality we all have stuff going on inside that we don’t share outwardly.

In a meeting and someone read out this poem by Edgar Guest and it really struck a nerve:

Is anybody happier because you passed his way?
Does anyone remember that you spoke to him today?
This day is almost over, and its toiling time is through;
Is there anyone to utter now a kindly word of you?

Did you give a cheerful greeting to the friend who came along?
Or a churlish sort of "Howdy" and then vanish in the throng?
Were you selfish pure and simple as you rushed along the way,
Or is someone mighty grateful for a deed you did today?

Can you say tonight, in parting with the day that's slipping fast,
That you helped a single brother of the many that you passed?
Is a single heart rejoicing over what you did or said;
Does a man whose hopes were fading now with courage look ahead?

Did you waste the day, or lose it, was it well or sorely spent?
Did you leave a trail of kindness or a scar of discontent?
As you close your eyes in slumber do you think that God would say,
You have earned one more tomorrow by the work you did today?

Be the change you want to see.

You can't argue with stupid.

How you live your days is how you live your life.

A day without laughter is a day wasted.

'Don't expect anything and you'll never be disappointed' and 'University isn't for the likes of us' (courtesy of my mother). So I won a scholarship and did four degrees at two different elite universities.

Words that have a profound impact don't need to be positive ones!

Sayings that have stuck with me..

Blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours burn any brighter.

When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

No-one is thinking about you the way you are thinking about you.

Feelings aren't facts.

‘Let your faith be bigger than your fear’.

I suffer with anxiety, and these words have helped me many times.

Benjamin Mee: You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.

This has helped me so much when I’m worried about doing something new and unknown.

Also

Read, every day, something no one else is reading. Think, every day, something no one else is thinking. Do, every day, something no one else would be silly enough to do. It is bad for the mind to be always part of unanimity.
Christopher Morley

I remember hearing a story about someone's grandmother who survived the Holocaust telling her that you should always have a secret stash of "escape money", even if it's in the form of jewellery, as you never know when you might need it. That really stuck with me.

From Sadhguru "If somebody else can decide what can happen within you right now isn't this the ultimate slavery?"

From Miraculous Ladybug (yah, highbrow) something like "life doesn't always give us the gifts we would like. But the real gift is life itself"

Me favourites are:

Don't borrow trouble ahead of time

And

Never wrestle with pigs. You'll both get dirty and the pig likes it.

I either read or heard this recently and it stuck in my mind:
when you're feeling shit, remember there are literally 24 million people who would love to have your life!

I don't know if it is 'literally' true, but it might be, and it always gets me thinking about all the fantastic things I really do have in my life and stops me focusing on the small issues I'm pissed off with.

This may sound a little cringey but my dad has always told me that I'm a queen, and if somebody ain't worth stepping off the throne for, I sit my ass back on it. I always think of this when I'm going through something. I'm nearly 30 and he still says this to me

Also "you have a 100% track record of getting through bad days"

A nutritionist once said “Your body is not a dustbin, so don’t put rubbish in it.” Stick with me.

Also “Say things straight, or they’ll come out twisted.” This has helped me not to bear about the bush, but say what I mean.