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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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janj2301 · 27/10/2021 14:58

That's rather like the woman with stuffed wardrobes who say they have nothing to wear!!

SirChenjins · 27/10/2021 15:16

My teenage delight complains daily that there’s nothing to eat in this house (despite cupboards filled with food in both the utility room and kitchen and 2 flipping fridges and 2 freezers) but that’s because they’re not stocked with crap that’s immediately ready to be put in his mouth. If I do ever ask him what food he wants he’s very vague - probably because he’s got one eye on FIFA and cba to concentrate on what I’m saying.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 27/10/2021 15:42

@janj2301

That's rather like the woman with stuffed wardrobes who say they have nothing to wear!!
and a preschool kid with house full of toys and games complaining they are bored.

btw my response to "I'm bored" (at any age) is offering them to do a chore, like cleaning windows and as if by magic suddenly they are cured of boredom-itis!

Bobsyer · 27/10/2021 16:04

My almost 13 year old came out with the classic “there’s nothing to eat in this house!” less than 12 hours after Asda delivered the weekly shop.

Turns out what he meant was “I can’t find a Pot Noodle” (which we had actually bought) once it was located he was all sweetness and light!

Camblewick · 27/10/2021 16:11

Well 17 year old DS is going to spit his dummy out when he comes home. I spent a week and £ doing his room up last month. It was absolutely lovely.

Yesterday, it looked and smelled like something had gone in, ransacked the place then died. I told him that I expected him to clear it up yesterday, he didn't. I reminded him last night, he just rolled his eyes. I told him this morning that if he went out without doing it that was his choice but I would be going in there with a bin bag this afternoon, which is exactly what I've done. He'll be annoyed. Tough shit, it's my home too and he needs to respect it.

Flossie44 · 27/10/2021 16:50

Camblewick good for you!! Give us an update….

manipulatrice · 27/10/2021 16:54

He has £250 birthday money to spend and couldn't find anything he liked to spend it on.

Literally melted down. I tried to explain that he should just keep the money until he found something but that wasn't good enough.

Don't even know they're born do they?

SirChenjins · 27/10/2021 17:24

Mine has just come home from school in a fucker of a mood because his RMPS teacher moved him to an empty classroom and told him to work there because she was fed up of him disrupting the class. Apparently he did nothing, and she’s a rubbish teacher anyway who just doesn’t like him. I told him that she obviously has a very different view of what ‘nothing’ is, wouldn’t move him without a good reason and that he deserved his punishment quite frankly. He’s not a happy bunny and is currently sulking.

manipulatrice · 27/10/2021 17:29

@SirChenjins

Mine has just come home from school in a fucker of a mood because his RMPS teacher moved him to an empty classroom and told him to work there because she was fed up of him disrupting the class. Apparently he did nothing, and she’s a rubbish teacher anyway who just doesn’t like him. I told him that she obviously has a very different view of what ‘nothing’ is, wouldn’t move him without a good reason and that he deserved his punishment quite frankly. He’s not a happy bunny and is currently sulking.

I have identical conversations to this 🤣

SirChenjins · 27/10/2021 17:34

Glad it’s not just me! Grin

I may have added ‘it’s really not that hard to stay out of trouble DC3 - just sit in the classroom, do your work and keep your mouth closed’. Apparently he does do his work and all his classmates said he wasn’t talking Hmm. I remain sceptical.

AlwaysLatte · 27/10/2021 17:39

My 13 year old got in a strop because he could 'see wires' in the living room and it ruined the Halloween decorations he'd put up. This is just a side table with a multi Charging port where our iPads and phones go at night (except now there resides a multi coloured flashing spider, a plastic bat and some little spiders that totally don't make me jump every time I see them. I have yet to find the leads after he tidied them away and went to his friend's house for a couple of hours. I can't ask him where as my phone is flat...

JustDanceAddict · 27/10/2021 17:45

@SirChenjins - totally sympathise on ‘there’s nothing to eaaatttt!’

WannabeGilmoreGirl · 27/10/2021 18:05

Last week my dd16 was furious that the school had requested that she wears a longer skirt to school as per school regulations (6th form). Apparently this is "against her human rights" she's going to write to her mp about it and I should call the school to complain.

I had told her that morning that her skirt was too short and she would get into trouble and she ignored me.

She was doubly pissed when I reminded her of this and advised if she didn't like it then she could go to the local college where she could wear what she liked.

Apparently I don't understand how hard this is for her to not be able to express herself through her clothes.

Laughing was not the response she wanted.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 27/10/2021 18:30

not today but a few weeks ago:

DS2 missed a class because he didn't wake up in time.
Of course it was ultimately my fault for not checking he was awake - just days after he hissed at me for checking he was awake.

Cutted Up Pear much???

Camblewick · 27/10/2021 18:43

@Flossie44. Well, it went as expected. 😂. 'Where's my stuff'? 'Stuff' being the absolute shite that was strewn all over his desk - empty cans of Monster (🤬), sweet papers, crisp packets, chocolate wrappers, empty envelopes etc etc. Told him it's in the bin bag by the back door so he very theatrically started to sift through his 'belongings' for something that he desperately needed. I told him that if he found anything in there that he genuinely needed then I would give him £50. God he searched but even he couldn't convince himself that he needed an empty pipe of pringles so he had to concede, reluctantly. So a small win for me but tomorrow we have the monthly conversation about how utterly appalling his diet is but I'm just not emotionally equipped for that tonight. 😂 🤦

Fluffycloudland77 · 27/10/2021 18:56

Legend. £50 😂

Thatsnotmyteenager · 27/10/2021 19:21

Took them to a Starbucks for a treat. Didn’t decide for them what they wanted for their lunch. They had a drink but no lunch. My fault clearly despite me saying they could have whatever they wanted, they just needed to choose it. (Last time, I chose ‘wrongly’ - won’t be doing that again!

FinishWhatWeStarted · 27/10/2021 19:53

@JKDinomum

Today, her (short) hair is standing up at the back. This is apparently my fault. Last night she chose to have a shower at night instead of in the morning. I woke her up 40 minutes before we needed to leave this morning. She didn't actually get up until about 15 minutes before we needed to leave. Then leisurely ate breakfast while on her phone. Then got cross because I called her to leave, I and the other two kids were ready and waiting. We left five minutes late because of her. When she got out of the car she huffed at me about her hair sticking up....
I've got so fed up of leaving late that they're given a time ten mins before I need to leave and if they aren't ready I'm going GrinEnvy
polkadotpjs · 27/10/2021 20:54

I'm "just so annoying" today. Why? I asked if he wanted supper. Home made cake and custard. "Nobody else's mum makes cakes. It's so lame"
He's asking to go out for a walk now. He's too wet and dark but "it's SO boring here" (Center parcs ). Novelty clearly worn off of no Xbox for 4 days. Sigh.
I'll have to book a separate room next time for his strops and DH snoring (see other thread). I've retreated with red wine to my room

Mercedes519 · 27/10/2021 22:33

I came downstairs this morning at 11.30am (after doing 3 hours of work) to be moaned at by teen that there was no milk for his breakfast. And it was all my fault because I’d gone out first thing and not bought milk.

I pointed out a) he could go to the shop and get more milk b) it’s his cereal habit is why we run out of milk and the killer….

C) I had bought more milk. He looked in the fridge and completely missed the milk because ‘it wasn’t in its usual place’.

Sunflowers765 · 27/10/2021 22:52

Me and DH had the audacity to go out for the morning and on our return our teenager stood in the kitchen and said mournfully "no one has fed me" We'd been gone about 4 hours, the fridge was full and she's 17.

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Positivelypatient · 28/10/2021 05:36

Well I just popped in here to see if this thread was still active...seems to me we are all dealing with irrational teenage temper tantrums on a daily basis.

Its been fun reading them and reassuring too to know it's not just me dealing with them. My DD3 has been by far the most difficult of my children to deal with and having had 2 DDs before her, I kinda thought I knew it all, but she's proven me wrong in that respect.

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Flossie44 · 28/10/2021 07:52

I’ve been reprimanded in the past for serving healthy food. Apparently no one else eats healthy stuff, so why does he have to!

Bollindger · 28/10/2021 10:21

My DD was cooking, Mexican , I hate hers as it just seems to be hard spice flavours, I told her never to cook that for me.
HER Mum can you go and get me my phone charger? It's in her bedroom. She is at the bottom of the stairs, I am sat in the lounge.
Me. NO.
HER. Fine I will get it myself, but don't expect any of my food.
I just shake my head

Oftenithinkaboutit · 28/10/2021 11:13

@Bollindger

My DD was cooking, Mexican , I hate hers as it just seems to be hard spice flavours, I told her never to cook that for me. HER Mum can you go and get me my phone charger? It's in her bedroom. She is at the bottom of the stairs, I am sat in the lounge. Me. NO. HER. Fine I will get it myself, but don't expect any of my food. I just shake my head
She cooked and you were rude And she was rude back to you