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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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CatWarbler · 18/10/2021 08:43

I am enjoying these!
My (then) 16 year old was very annoyed with me as I couldn't come up with anything that he could do that would make me 'kick him out'.
Apparently several friends had been kicked out for misdemeanours such as eyebrow piercings or coming home drunk from a party.
I said I'd prefer him not to do those things, and if he did we'd have a bit to talk about but I wasn't planning to kick him out anytime soon.
At 17 he got a tattoo, I had a bit of a shout, so he took off to a friend's house and I had to go and get him as he told his friend's parents he was homeless.
I'm told teenagers have to be foul in order to detach then reattach to their parents as adults.
He's in his 20s now and we still laugh about it!

Fiercestcalm · 18/10/2021 08:43

It’s my fault his feet absolutely honk and he is very cross about this because

  1. I buy him socks that are not the Nike variety ( I buy him natural fibre socks), Nike socks apparently have the ability to stop feet smelling, it should be their new non sexy advertising campaign.
  2. I am evil because I refuse to wash anything that is not put in the laundry ( I do not go fossicking for crusty undies, smelly socks etc in his room and anything left in his bathroom stays there….. am sure his towel could walk out on its own).

The feet situation is apparently is nothing to do with the fact he is a shower adverse grotbag who has to have threats of ‘no dinner until you have a proper wash’ on a daily basis.

I am very very unreasonable to not be his laundry slave or to buy him expensive socks ….. he is welcome to buy his own expensive socks, until then he gets what he is given, he even yelled I’d be sorry if he left home…. Now let me think about that one…

MrsRobbieHart · 18/10/2021 08:44

@FatAnkles

I'm taking my 15 yo to visit her grandparents ALL HALF TERM. They live 80 miles away in the countryside. There is a bus tothe nearest town every 2 hours. My city-born girl is LIVID.
Grin my 12yo can barely cope with a 2 hour visit to his grandparents!!
EvilRingahBitch · 18/10/2021 08:44

This one is definitely my fault. DS (17) getting dressed for school (late) is just doing up his buttons when I noticed and idiotically mentioned "oh that's Dad's shirt you've got on". Both are white shirts but DH's are thick broadcloth whilst DS's are thin poly cotton so heaven knows how he didn't notice when he pullled it out of his drawer where it had accidentally ended up after a wash.

No amount of immediate reassurance from me and DH that this was absolutely fine, fitted perfectly adequately and he should definitely carry on wearing it in the interests of getting to school vaguely on time could stop him from ripping it off and getting a new one to button up veeeerrrry sloooowwwwwly.

Sidge · 18/10/2021 08:51

My 15 year old recently told me she was embarrassed by me as I was nice to her friends when they came round.

Mortified apparently because I SPOKE to them, and was friendly. In my very own house.

The sheer audacity eh.

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:51

@Fiercestcalm

It’s my fault his feet absolutely honk and he is very cross about this because
  1. I buy him socks that are not the Nike variety ( I buy him natural fibre socks), Nike socks apparently have the ability to stop feet smelling, it should be their new non sexy advertising campaign.
  2. I am evil because I refuse to wash anything that is not put in the laundry ( I do not go fossicking for crusty undies, smelly socks etc in his room and anything left in his bathroom stays there….. am sure his towel could walk out on its own).

The feet situation is apparently is nothing to do with the fact he is a shower adverse grotbag who has to have threats of ‘no dinner until you have a proper wash’ on a daily basis.

I am very very unreasonable to not be his laundry slave or to buy him expensive socks ….. he is welcome to buy his own expensive socks, until then he gets what he is given, he even yelled I’d be sorry if he left home…. Now let me think about that one…

Love this one too. (Not)
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:52

@Sidge

My 15 year old recently told me she was embarrassed by me as I was nice to her friends when they came round.

Mortified apparently because I SPOKE to them, and was friendly. In my very own house.

The sheer audacity eh.

Yes, clearly not your business (lol)
FatAnkles · 18/10/2021 08:59

@MrsRobbieHart Tbf, we haven't spent a lot of time with them because 1. Lockdowns 2. Dad was unwell and super anxious he'd catch The Germ off us before his operation (fairy nuff) and 3. Me breaking an ankle so DD is a bit detached from my side of the family. She has teenage cousins so she can hang out with them.

MoMuntervary · 18/10/2021 09:03

Love this. I returned from a weekend away yesterday and bought "misery and chaos" because, in amongst lots of nice questions and comments, I'd asked my 13yr old how he got with his homework (spoiler: he hadn't done it).

Tilltheend99 · 18/10/2021 09:07

Lol. They have the touch screens in Paris Mcd now. We just used that.

honeygriff · 18/10/2021 09:08

Last weekend eldest DD burnt a large hole in her bed with her curling tongs whilst getting ready to go clubbing. There was a lot of screaming involved and was swiftly sorted by my youngest DD who is sensible. This weekend eldest DD burnt herself badly with the tongs. DP & myself did lots of first aid. DD was ok to go clubbing until 3am. DD came home @ 3am with her friend that she had railroaded me into letting stay. Our house is closest to the club. DD then proceeded to have a loud argument with friend at 3.30am. I'd like a weekend off clubbing as I'm finding it's wearing me out!

yomommasmomma · 18/10/2021 09:09

@Helpmyson

My 16 year old called me a bitch because I have refused to change our flights, back from long awaited holiday, so he can celebrate Halloween with his mates I feel.your pain , why are they so horrid to us ? Will it ever end
This is shocking, I am so sorry. I hope he had some serious consequences.
Mercedes519 · 18/10/2021 09:12

Reading this thread while being harangued by DS (15) because he couldn’t find his box pants for cricket training this morning.

Reader I found them…in the clean washing. Apparently washing his dirty clothes is me making his life more difficult.

Don’t worry I have already instigated the ‘not in basket, doesn’t get washed’ rule in this house after a particular incident involving me suggesting he might like to put his dirty washing in the basket.

Celestinesaunt · 18/10/2021 09:14

This weekend one of my teens was miffed that weren't at home to cook her Sunday dinner , we had left loads of alternatives in the fridge btw. The thing is, we begged her to come away with us, where we were preparing lovely meals, but she told us with several eye rolls that she had better things to do. The better things obviously didn't include cooking for herself and she seemed outraged when we explained that that was the consequence of her choice and we couldn't be in two places at once to suit her catering requirements. Confused

On a serious note Helpmyson I would be coming down quite hard on that.

SMaCM · 18/10/2021 09:21

Mine is now in her 20s and I can promise it will pass. I bought Don't Blame Me, Blame My Teenage Brain which helped.

I could never understand why it was really embarrassing if I had anything to do with her friends, but their parents were really cool if they sat in the garden with them eating McDonalds, or danced to music with them. If I did it I was just being ridiculous.

Ohhelppp · 18/10/2021 09:33

This is amusing and terrifying me in equal measure. I have a 9 year old DD and this morning she had a strop because I wouldn’t let her take the lunch I’d left at home by accident on Friday (we’ve been out all weekend so haven’t had a chance to clear out the fridge) to school for her lunch today and said I’d pay for her to have school dinner instead.
We’re almost there, aren’t we?!

janj2301 · 18/10/2021 09:42

I had to go through the not in laudnry basket not washed with my HUSBAND, he wondered why he'd run out of shirts. NB this was years ago, I was SAHM and he did all the cooking I did all the laundry, just incase you were concerned about my being his slave.

trumpisagit · 18/10/2021 09:46

DS1 is horrified that I made him do a lft.
He has been socialising with children who are positive, and school obviously expect them to do them twice a week.
DS claims "nobody" does them.
I then listed several of his friends who I know test regularly. Apparently that's because "their parents are strict and not normal too".

50ShadesOfCatholic · 18/10/2021 09:47

@Cameleongirl

For homework, DS (13) needed to read a book and explain the themes. He decided the best approach was to get Mum to read the book and tell him the themes, which he'd then write down .

Apparently I wasn't being supportive enough when I suggested he should also read the book and actually do the work. Grin

This is a child who's doing well in English and doesn't really need help, he just wanted to play online instead.

Much the same here. DS incredulous that I expected him to watch his assigned movie for English. He thought I could watch it and tell him what it was about 😜
SherBear1971 · 18/10/2021 09:56

I have a friend whose son was mid rant who shouted " why can't we be a normal family and eat ready made lasagne instead of homemade!"

TheLadySif · 18/10/2021 10:03

My 17 year old granddaughter has an ongoing rant because her mother gave birth to her in the summer, making her younger than most of her friends who are now old enough to go clubbing and have passed their driving tests.

MrsRobbieHart · 18/10/2021 10:12

@TheLadySif

My 17 year old granddaughter has an ongoing rant because her mother gave birth to her in the summer, making her younger than most of her friends who are now old enough to go clubbing and have passed their driving tests.
As the youngest person in my year throughout school, I feel her pain Grin if my mother had employed some forward planning and self restraint Wink for just another week I’d have been the oldest in the year!
AmazingBouncingFerret · 18/10/2021 10:13

I allowed my 15 year old son to connect his Spotify during a car journey.

He was OUTRAGED to find out that I knew all the words to Gangsta’s Paradise.

TheOrigRights · 18/10/2021 10:16

There were no Pepperamis left.
This was the final nail in the coffin of a Nothing Ever Going Right weekend.

bintang · 18/10/2021 10:22

It's apparently completely unfair to DD(15) that DS(12) likes all the same music and all the same books as I do, as that gives us loads to talk about all the time... Confused

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