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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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TotallyWipedout · 19/10/2021 12:41

Just for those who took umbrage at my horrid 17 yr old telling me I never did any work, I hope you also read the second part of my post, in which she told me all I ever do is work. It was the contrast between the two things which was so teenagerishly and selfishly contradictory!

(She has also given me numerous lovely handmadecards telling me what a great inspiration I am to have done everything I've done as a single parent, and how much she appreciates it and admires me - probably in moments of contrition, but still...).

sashh · 19/10/2021 12:51

[quote SpiderPlant101010]@bendmeoverbackwards Like the kid calling the mum a bitch. The bratty child who didn't like the car she was bought as a present so refused to drive it. The general ungratefulness towards parents bending over backwards to try and please their spoilt children to name but a few[/quote]
Can't you remember being a teenager?

I didn't get a car but I was 'given' driving lessons for my 17th birthday.

I had no interest in learning to drive, hadn't asked for them and thought it was ridiculous I had to learn to drive because my older brother had wanted to.

One of my friends had a guest house bought for her. She thought it was the most crap gift ever, and she had spent enough times making beds and serving dinner in her parents guest house.

Yes we both sound like ungrateful brats but we were teenagers.

MackemLass79 · 19/10/2021 12:54

Dd2 at about 15 was furious with me and her dad as she was going out to hang out with her friends and had a huge her words spot on her face and all because we made her eat stupid pizza?!?! Just for clarity we have never held our children down and forced food in their mouths she was simply treated to a fri night pizza which she chose and to this day I still don't know why the pizza was stupid haha

RockinHorseShit · 19/10/2021 13:49

Last night DD got the bad news that her long time BFs grandad had died, BF was very close to him & DD had become fond of him too. Her own GF hasn't always been so great. I could see she was very upset when she told me, but she wandered off quickly & I've learnt the hard way not to follow her.

I popped in a bit later & she was sat at her dressing table, cleaning her make up off. I said I'm so sorry sweetheart, I know it's hard on you being upset yourself & supporting BF too, just wanted you to know that we are here for you if you need to talk.

She swivelled her head around like something from the exorcist, glared at me with a demonic grin & said 'why on earth do you think I'd talk to you about anything, let alone this" she's quite happy to tell me her troubles at other times though, usually all about how disorganised & shit college is 😏🤦‍♀️

ineedsun · 19/10/2021 15:04

After reading this, DD told me she needed a quiet word. Apparently she was doing her best to remain calm but that this note was 'dehumanising' and she would like an apology!

Did you laugh in her face?

CharityDingle · 19/10/2021 15:38

@ineedsun

After reading this, DD told me she needed a quiet word. Apparently she was doing her best to remain calm but that this note was 'dehumanising' and she would like an apology!

Did you laugh in her face?

Exactly!
driftcompatible · 19/10/2021 16:32

I don't have teenagers yet but this reminded me of being a teen. Two events stand out in my mind that just baffle me.

  1. I was in the car listening to music on my personal CD player age about 14 and listened to the same track over and over. It must have been so loud because my mum said something like 'you must really like that track' and for some reason I argued that I actually didn't like it at all and then refused to listen to any music. I was LIVID. WHAT?! I'm just baffled by my own reasoning. My behaviour must have struck me at the time as absurd because I remember it. But yeah, I was absolutely enraged she dare suggest I liked a track I liked.
  1. Went to a college open evening and my dad commented on the architecture to one of the lecturers. For some reason this made me feel totally humiliated.

Dad: I think X dates back to X doesn't it?
Lecturer: I think so!

I looked to another girl in the group and said 'I'm so sorry. Omg' and she looked back with an expression like 'OMG I totally know what you mean. This is horrendous for you, you poor cow'.

Again, looking back ... what?!

But the best part about this was that years later I had a job there and pointed out the very thing I dad noticed. I then felt guilty I was such a twat years earlier.

I probably did way way way worse things but for some reason they stand out in my mind as utterly bizarre things to have done.

cricketmum84 · 19/10/2021 17:23

Haha love the stories of when we were teens!!

I once refused to speak to my for an entire week because she said my new boyfriend was weird.

He was a trainee chef 2 days a week but carries his knives around with him every day. She met him and the first thing he did was show her his knives and how sharp they were 😱

Omg if one of my girls brought home a guy like that I'd be child king him out in seconds!!

cricketmum84 · 19/10/2021 17:23

@cricketmum84

Haha love the stories of when we were teens!!

I once refused to speak to my for an entire week because she said my new boyfriend was weird.

He was a trainee chef 2 days a week but carries his knives around with him every day. She met him and the first thing he did was show her his knives and how sharp they were 😱

Omg if one of my girls brought home a guy like that I'd be child king him out in seconds!!

*my mum
cricketmum84 · 19/10/2021 17:24

P.s my new phone hates me.

I would be KICKING him out

DanceItOut · 19/10/2021 17:29

Today my teenager was upset because I told him that no I was not buying him costa on the way to school and if he wanted tea or coffee in the morning we have it at home and he will have to get up early enough to make his own.

Wbeezer · 19/10/2021 17:33

Well my teenager is properly upset because the cat died suddenly but he's already lining it up as an excuse not to do the coursework he's supposed to do over half-term.
Also his older brother is to upset to speak to me, just uses gestures to get me to leave him alone, and reject all food and drink but did perk up and chat away when his friend came over to see him. Has not asked if I'm OK, its all just happening to him...

ilovechocolate07 · 19/10/2021 17:33

I'm loving this thread as a mum to a 14 and 12 year old!

girlsyearapart · 19/10/2021 17:36

Dd2 13 has started covid isolating on day 1 of half term. She is fine.

Dd1 14 is losing her shit and proposing her sister stays locked up in her room for ten days as ITS MY HALF TERM AND SHE WILL MAKE ME MISS HALLOWEEEEEEN

zero sympathy for her sister who can’t do anything for ten days 🙄

bendmeoverbackwards · 19/10/2021 17:37

@MaxiMini

Do all teenagers do this as mine is 15 and I'm still worried it's going to hit any day
I thought the same about my oldest dd @MaxiMini, everyone warned me but she didn’t change a thing.

Dd2 - slightly more challenging but not too bad

Oh boy are we paying for it now with dd3 😂😂😂

starryeyed19 · 19/10/2021 17:39

DD, 14

Because I wouldn't let her go and watch Venom on a Sunday night at 9pm

Shouted at me because I didn't hear what she said

Keeps coming into my room without knocking

Woke me up on Sunday morning and then said that she was going to make me breakfast but because I had been horrible to her, she wouldn't

I can't even remember the rest

bendmeoverbackwards · 19/10/2021 17:41

@EmotionalSupportBear what a lovely post. My own mum wasn’t great with teenagers, I hope I’m doing a better job with mine.

Jazz50 · 19/10/2021 17:41

Im sure this will not score me any brownie points, but your children sound spoilt and entitled and you raised them that way without even knowing you were doing it.

MyMabel · 19/10/2021 17:41

Can’t contribute, I’m just sat here now regretting reading these as my 2 year old munches down on skips and watches Peter Rabbit.

I do remember suggesting to my mum that she must hate me more than anyone in the world and she was being ‘fucking annoying’ because I couldn’t have a friend stay over unless I tidied my bedroom.

On the flip side, my attitude turned right around at 17 and we’ve been super close to it’s no falling out since then! - hang in there.. it will end! 😂

etherealbeauty · 19/10/2021 17:42

Oh wow I've found my people!
It's the age I've found hardest so far and it's not long begun.
Why are teenagers such unreasonable dickheads? (Only half joking)

Sonex · 19/10/2021 17:43

My 16 year old responded with a pained expression and massive groan because I'm making him go on the NCS Autumn program where, at no expense to him, he will get to hang out with a bunch of similar age teenagers and do a load of fun activities instead of sitting at home bored.

BiscuitLover09876 · 19/10/2021 17:44

@driftcompatible

I don't have teenagers yet but this reminded me of being a teen. Two events stand out in my mind that just baffle me.
  1. I was in the car listening to music on my personal CD player age about 14 and listened to the same track over and over. It must have been so loud because my mum said something like 'you must really like that track' and for some reason I argued that I actually didn't like it at all and then refused to listen to any music. I was LIVID. WHAT?! I'm just baffled by my own reasoning. My behaviour must have struck me at the time as absurd because I remember it. But yeah, I was absolutely enraged she dare suggest I liked a track I liked.
  1. Went to a college open evening and my dad commented on the architecture to one of the lecturers. For some reason this made me feel totally humiliated.

Dad: I think X dates back to X doesn't it?
Lecturer: I think so!

I looked to another girl in the group and said 'I'm so sorry. Omg' and she looked back with an expression like 'OMG I totally know what you mean. This is horrendous for you, you poor cow'.

Again, looking back ... what?!

But the best part about this was that years later I had a job there and pointed out the very thing I dad noticed. I then felt guilty I was such a twat years earlier.

I probably did way way way worse things but for some reason they stand out in my mind as utterly bizarre things to have done.

So good!
bendmeoverbackwards · 19/10/2021 17:45

Anyone have a teen who prefers one parent to another? Dd3 (14.5) just can’t stand her dad at the moment. It’s very hard for him. He’s a kind loving father and she’s so nasty to him. I’m hoping it’s just a phase.

BBOA · 19/10/2021 17:45

16 DS lost his shit as I asked him to repeat the laptop password so I could print off a form from my emails. The laptop we just bought him.

Bigbus · 19/10/2021 17:47

My DD13 is angry with me today because She can’t see her best friend on Saturday (who she sees 7 days a week) because we are going on holiday even though we actually have rearranged flights back so that all the DCs can be home to see their friends all weekend for Halloween.

It’s kind of funny but I’m also kind of fed up for being the bad guy all the time!

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