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to think it's really cheeky to invite someone to a BBQ then expect them to bring...

533 replies

dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 16:35

...The BBQ!?

We were invited last week to a friends today for a BBQ. They called this morning asking to borrow our BBQ, we assumed there's had broken or the one they ordered hadn't arrived etc - but no. They don't have one. So we suggested they come to ours and bring some of the stuff they'd bought as our BBQ is very heavy and large (won't fit in the car without removing the child seats and lying all seats flat) but it turns out, that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it at theirs as they are having other friends this evening.

Was IBU to say no? That I didn't want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle to their house and leave it with them?

OP posts:
Petlover9 · 12/04/2021 19:59

@FOJN. I was going to write similar; Blackpool front even. Cheeky ar**holes

MumsMeaningfulMayhem · 12/04/2021 20:01

My face is literally frozen in this expression Shock and will probably remain that way for a while...

WeatherwaxLives · 12/04/2021 20:02

This is brilliant Grin I never understand how people can be so unaware - I have pretty serious social anxiety and second and third guess everything so I'm at completely opposite end of the spectrum.

It's one thing knowing the terms of the invite at the beginning, completely different to spring it on you last minute and get a huff on.

I was once invited to a bbq where we were all asked to bring our own bbqs.
One invited couple don't own one -
they brought a big colander and an oven shelf, it was bloody fantastic, much better than my 'real' bbq. Where there's a wiil, there's a way!

Turningthecorner · 12/04/2021 20:05

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dancemummy · 12/04/2021 20:08

We were invited to a bbq once and I asked what they’d like me to bring, and they suggested burgers. They then text back and asked to also bring some sausages and chicken. No problem we said. I then thought I’d best check they had rolls, oh no, could we get some of those too. Oh and some salad, oh and they’ve got tea and coffee but if we’d like to get some cold drinks that would be great. My husband and I shopped laughing that we’d basically brought the whole bbq! Then as we were about to leave they called to ask if we had any charcoal for the bbq as they’d had a quick look and didn’t have any!!! (They live within walking distance of a Wickes and B&Q). My kind OH said we’d stop off and get some on the way over. We teased them about it for a few years after, and it’s still a story we tell inn slight disbelief. We don’t really see them as friends anymore as sadly they were like this in all aspects of our friendship. Very one sided. Take care x

josbd · 12/04/2021 20:13

Jeezo: Just think, would you do the same? No: They can fuck right off, and buy their own

ConfusedCarrie · 12/04/2021 20:15

I agree with @osbertthesyrianhamster.

GlendaPickle's the CF friend Grin

JudgeJ · 12/04/2021 20:16

@Howshouldibehave

the food was fabulous but kitchen looked like a bad day on the Somme. 'Don't worry, I'll send a couple of the lads round in the mroning!'

Did he??!

We're still close friends over 40 years later so, Yes he did!
Bard6817 · 12/04/2021 20:33

They don’t sound like friends at all. I was going to suggest you shouldn’t go, but then saw you didn’t anyway.

Move on, they are wrong’uns.

crossroads1 · 12/04/2021 20:35

cheeky and very cheap of them! curious to know what their reaction was when you said no?

give ppl an inch and they take a mile!!

osbertthesyrianhamster · 12/04/2021 20:49

@dancemummy

We were invited to a bbq once and I asked what they’d like me to bring, and they suggested burgers. They then text back and asked to also bring some sausages and chicken. No problem we said. I then thought I’d best check they had rolls, oh no, could we get some of those too. Oh and some salad, oh and they’ve got tea and coffee but if we’d like to get some cold drinks that would be great. My husband and I shopped laughing that we’d basically brought the whole bbq! Then as we were about to leave they called to ask if we had any charcoal for the bbq as they’d had a quick look and didn’t have any!!! (They live within walking distance of a Wickes and B&Q). My kind OH said we’d stop off and get some on the way over. We teased them about it for a few years after, and it’s still a story we tell inn slight disbelief. We don’t really see them as friends anymore as sadly they were like this in all aspects of our friendship. Very one sided. Take care x
See, I wouldn't have even gone there. By that second text, I'd have sent back a laughing emoji with 'Yeah, right! Are you actually providing just the actual BBQ? LOL.' And then when they asked more said, 'On second thought, think we'll give it a pass.' Because people like this aren't friends and not worth keeping.

As I said, my BBQ is not cheap, it's also heavy (the fuel canisters for them are, too) so the fuck I'd load it in my car and take it a CFer's house.

cerealgamechanger · 12/04/2021 21:54

@GlendaPickle- you're a massive CF for trying to take advantage of the OP like this! Give her back the rest of her stuff.

DontbesuchanarseGlenda · 12/04/2021 21:56

Turningthecorner
Don’t be such an arse Glenda!!

Thank you, you inspired a name change! (And were spot on too!)

Mexico1986 · 12/04/2021 22:02

We never asked anyone to bring their own braai though let alone be asked to leave it for another braai the next day

giggly · 12/04/2021 22:59

This is exactly the sort of cf thing my sister would do. She asked if she and bil could stay at my house when I was I on holiday for a night. Turns out they stayed for 3 nights along with 8 friends of theirs😳

RogueMNerKnowsNoShame · 13/04/2021 00:06

@GlendaPickle

Yes I don’t see what the problem in lending a bbq. It will cleaned, Op is a drama queen.

I bet she has lent a Henry hoover or something similar before.

What friend posts on a forum.

Omg, I assumed you were joking in your last post.

Did you not read the op post that said they live a 25 minute drive apart?
So that would be, what, around 30 miles? Maybe a bit less. Even if I've got my maths wrong and it's a mere 20 miles or so, that is quite some way to push a bbq!
You'd have to set off very early to get there in time for lunch

expat101 · 13/04/2021 01:22

[quote Justilou1]@expat101 - I bet he remained unemployed too[/quote]
He did his dash about the village as he started on the Client's work, other younger builders have since come up through the ranks and doing a better job too.

It's not too hard to find someone who won't have him back.

Justilou1 · 13/04/2021 02:47

Awesome - he sounds like the original Dodgy Bros @expat101

Ddot · 13/04/2021 05:17

Hi having a party, cant be bothered getting what I need so can you sort out cooking facilities oh and fuel too. I'm far too precious. Yes it's my party, what do you mean FU* O* oh what selfish friends I have. Me me me me!

Lostinthemail · 13/04/2021 07:38

@purplebunny2012

They are CF to the extreme. YANBU, unless they were going to pay you for the gas and hire of the BBQ
Really? Because even if people are willing to pay for it I wouldn’t be willing to rent my bbq out to other people and risk them damaging it. If they do and it’s broken, they’ll probably say it’s my problem because they already paid for it. If I start a rent-a-bbq it’s because I want to, not because of other people’s wants, so even if they are wanting to pay, it’s not unreasonable to say no...
lightand · 13/04/2021 07:43

Havent rtft.
Personally I would have leant it to them.
I seem to be in a tiny minority.

GlendaPickle · 13/04/2021 07:48

OP knows that the other person in question reads this forum and is recruiting support and is not being truthful with the facts.

Attention seeking.

Perhaps that person does not want her to host the bbq as she buys cheap farm foods meat and tries to pass it off as a M & S.

EThreepwood · 13/04/2021 07:53

@GlendaPickle

OP knows that the other person in question reads this forum and is recruiting support and is not being truthful with the facts.

Attention seeking.

Perhaps that person does not want her to host the bbq as she buys cheap farm foods meat and tries to pass it off as a M & S.

Yeah still not shining yourself in a good light there with your snobbery Hmm
DartmoorDoughnut · 13/04/2021 07:54

Definitely the OP’s friend then @GlendaPickle ... you sound lovely don’t forget to give all OP’s things back

Lostinthemail · 13/04/2021 07:54

@GlendaPickle

OP knows that the other person in question reads this forum and is recruiting support and is not being truthful with the facts.

Attention seeking.

Perhaps that person does not want her to host the bbq as she buys cheap farm foods meat and tries to pass it off as a M & S.

Glenda, give the OP back her stuff and don’t bother her ever again. If you don’t like the food she serves don’t eat there, that’s ok. Borrowing stuff from people and not returning it is, however, not ok.