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It’s a parking one!

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 09:46

Get on fine with house next door. Kids play etc.

About a year ago, her sister started coming to visit every single day. Weekends too. Fine. None of my business.

So we both have double drives and both have two cars. DH also has a motorbike but there’s space to keep it on our drive.

I work from home so I’m out to drop the dc to school then pretty much back for the whole morning. DH is gone in his car from maybe 7am. Motorbike stays on drive until weekends really.

So next door’s sister has a big 7-seater. But she’s taken to partially blocking our drive with it so next door’s car can get in and out.

So she parks up in the morning, partially blocks my drive. And then sometimes they’ll head out in next door’s car and my drive will be blocked.

I can (with ball-achey manoeuvring) get my car on. But if anyone was to visit, or DH was to come home, they couldn’t park on the drive. And they can’t park in front of my house without then blocking other next door’s.

It gives me the fucking rage! It’s so inconsiderate! I’ve said it to next door’s and her answer has been to knock in if I ever need her to move.

DH is so laid back he’s horizontal so he doesn’t see it as a big deal. But it’s just so selfish and irritating.

I’ve come back and parked up right behind her, as in touching the bumper, so I haven’t blocked other next door’s.

WIBU to roll the motorbike out and block her car?? If I put it sideways it won’t block the drive I don’t think.

I hope I’m explaining properly. I need to try to figure out how to post a diagram!

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JudyCoolibar · 02/03/2020 11:20

Get smartened up, go straight back over and tell them you need to go out now. Go out and have a quick cup of coffee, and if they're back on your return, get them to move again. And keep doing this so that they are more and more inconvenienced.

If they try to suggest it's down to your inability to manoeuvre, simply repeat that they are obstructing you and you shouldn't have to manoeuvre.

AdobeWanKenobi · 02/03/2020 11:22

Drive to end of your drive. Sit on the horn.

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 11:24

I just really don’t want to have to bloody go out and interrupt work (she says while MNing) because she’s an entitled arse!

I would sit on the horn but I don’t want to disturb everyone else...

I can’t leave it though either! I’m too annoyed.

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Sparklingbrook · 02/03/2020 11:26

YY go out now, do lots of short trips and keep returning.

MaggieFS · 02/03/2020 11:26

That's true CF behaviour!

I'd block her in, and if she says anything, I'd just say ' well I didn't like to keep bothering you when I need to go out'.

Or I'd wait until they've gone out in the other car and call the police to get them towed. (Not really, but bloody tempted!).

We really do need a diagram though! Can you put up a fence or some penguin Bollards?

Seeline · 02/03/2020 11:27

Is she actually parked over your dropped kerb?

AdobeWanKenobi · 02/03/2020 11:28

Thing is, you need to make a nuisance of yourself. Keep moving her. Keep knocking.
At some point hopefully it will be more trouble than it's worth for her to do it.

When she's moved, park in her spot.

WhiteBadger · 02/03/2020 11:30

Block her in. Get a mate to come pick you up and go out for the day!

What a cheeky fucker!

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 11:31

Is she actually parked over your dropped kerb?

Not fully. But enough to piss me right off!

Okay, I’m going to try a diagram then call back in to get her to move!

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Nanasueathome · 02/03/2020 11:34

Why don’t you ask her to move and then park your car over your dropped kerb and leave it there

MummytoCSJH · 02/03/2020 11:38

What a bitch! Frankly after that, if she's blocking a dropped kerb (which is illegal), even if it's not fully blocked, I'd report her.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 02/03/2020 11:39

Go back over now. You're going out now. You weren't going out when she asked. Drive around the block and when you get back, block her in.

For the record, the answer to "Are you going out now" is always yes. Even if you're going to drive around the block once. You are always going out. Every. Single. Time.

She was really rude to you.

When she leaves, I'd go around have a nice neighbourly chat with your neighbour saying to them it was really rude of their sister to not move her car when you weren't being rude to her. Also rude of her to shut the front door on you when you said that you weren't going out straightaway but you would like her to move as she is blocking access to your driveway.
Ask them why they can't park across the driveway of the house they are visiting? Is it because that driveway could be blocked? Well, that's what is supposed to happen - inconvenience the people you're visiting not their neighbours.

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 11:40

So hard to describe but the driveways are sort of angled. So she’s parked more over my side than the picture looks.

So I can squeeze in past her and park on dh’s side behind the bike when he’s not here.

But if he ever comes home early or is off (rarely) I’m pretty much stuck.

If I parked behind her I wouldn’t be blocking other next door but I’d be making it very difficult for them, IYSWIM?

She parks 3/4 over my drive so neighbour can get easily in and out. Hope this makes sense!

It’s a parking one!
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WhatchaMaCalllit · 02/03/2020 11:42

Can you get a sign that reads "24 hour access required. Do not block driveway" and if you have gateposts or something at the top of your driveway, hang it/nail it to the post?

Then they have no comeback whatsoever if they partly block the driveway access. You just say "Did you see the sign? 24 hour access is required to this driveway. Park somewhere else" and leave.

stophuggingme · 02/03/2020 11:45

There is no way in gods earth I would take this and after they’ve been so rude you have to fight fire with fire

I would get the car off the dI’ve and park right up her arse then wheel the bike off the drive and park it up and secure it.
Then go out
Or pretend to be out when she comes hammering on the door

See how they like it Grin

stophuggingme · 02/03/2020 11:45

Secure the bike in front of her car
At an angle so she can’t manoeuvre

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 11:47

I think the problem is that she’s not fully blocking access to the drive, IYSWIM?

I can squeeze into dh’s spot but it’s tight with the bike. And because of the weird angle, I have to reverse back off the drive then do a three point turn to drive back out.

Or I could spend 50 years carefully reversing into the spot.

All of which I can do but it’s bloody annoying!

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misscockerspaniel · 02/03/2020 11:48

Sorry, but the only way you are going to get the message across to the self-entitled twat is tit for tat - you are going to have to cause her inconvenience. Think of it as aversion training.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 02/03/2020 11:48

Can you email Council or see a parking warden and get them ticketed?

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OhCaptain · 02/03/2020 11:50

But will they do anything if she’s not technically blocking access?

I’m going to de-slob and go over to tell her I’m going out.

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WhatchaMaCalllit · 02/03/2020 11:53

Go all Sheldon on her.
"That's my DH's spot. I don't park in his spot and he doesn't park in mine. You need to move your car"
Repeat until the message sinks in.

Can't state enough that they need to be blocking the home of their relative and not yours.

The relatives of my NDN do the same thing when they visit. They partly block my side of the driveway and a TINY bit of the driveway that belongs to my NDN but IMO they should be blocking ALL of my NDN driveway as they are who they've come to see. If I see them park and head into the NDN, I will get in to my car realise that I can't get out without scraping their car so call in to them. They move forward about 3 feet (that's all it takes) and then I leave and drive around the block for about 5 mins and come home again. It's really annoying but it works. I just wish they wouldn't keep blocking my side of the driveway by only such a small amount. I wish they wouldn't block it at all.

Nanasueathome · 02/03/2020 11:53

Then just pull off your drive and block your own dropped kerb. Park where she is at the moment
Lock the car and walk down the road

Twixes · 02/03/2020 11:54

Your neighbour and her sister are dicks, I would be RAGING. That being said, you need to keep your cool and maintain the upper hand. @Intelinside57's advice is perfect. Charm offensive is the way to go here. Wear them down with it.

MzHz · 02/03/2020 11:55

Go out, drive round block, come back in

Knock

Tell her not to block your drive again.

The thing is, once in a while isn’t the end of the world, but she is doing this every single day. She needs to park on the drive or elsewhere entirely

MrsStrangerThing · 02/03/2020 11:55

I have to say I am more interested as to what they are up to in there! Daily long visits is a bit strange. I am very nosy Grin

I think you are going to have to either leave the motorbike out where she keeps parking to block her from doing so, or just keep knocking frequently throughout the day to say you need in and out.

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