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It is one o clock in the morning, I need the night shift to mind my worries whilst I sleep....

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NaomiFromMilkShake · 17/12/2019 01:03

I am 50% of the way through chemo. (second time around)(different primary)

My DS (18) has just been diagnosed with depression I think me being diagnosed again was the tipping point.

Due to above I am having to delegate Christmas, it will get done, it did before just not my way.

DH retiring in three years, should be more than enough to live on, but at the moment I am worrying (Like I couldn't worry about that closer to the time) Hmm

Sausage rolls, my job, ditto mince pies.........if they don't happen my DH and my DS will suck it up. Just me worrying.

DS struggling in college and have to go to a meeting on Wednesday

So if some of the night shift would like to come and mind my ,worries whilst I attempt to sleep, it would be gratefully received.

Feel free to add your own, just writing that down has helped.

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Clevererthanyou · 18/12/2019 01:21

In my very humble opinion this is one of the nicest threads that I have ever seen. I’m going to be incredibly impolite and dump and run though I’m afraid. I leave here for someone else, my 7 year back pain which has spread to my leg and I have to sit for 2 hours in a freezing cold room tomorrow which will make my back and leg sing Xmas Envy I’m also leaving my money worries (trivial in the grand scheme of things), health concerns and fears for my sister. I’ll be back to night watch for someone else Brew

Trumpton · 18/12/2019 01:24

@2018SoFarSoGreat

Thank you . I will sleep as soon as I have finished having a little weep.

NoOneNeedsToKnowThis · 18/12/2019 02:12

@Clevererthanyou I’m on a night shift and I will watch those for you. I hope you can get some rest if you can. Sending you best wishes Flowers

octoberfarm · 18/12/2019 02:26

Happy to mind any other worries lingering again tonight, for as long as they need minding Thanks

notthemum · 18/12/2019 02:40

I'll mind some for you. Autistic gs here overnight and has decided not to sleep, bless him. So I am wide awake for the foreseeable and have to be up by 6.30 anyway, so drop them with me and get some rest.

CatyaPurella · 18/12/2019 03:29

I am here too. My worries are insignificant really but my mind is racing about how someone very close to me has made me question our relationship and what I ever really meant to them. Christmas tree came down too & made a hell of a mess, scraped my car & my Mum is in hospital.
Just want to sleep but my mind is racing Thanksto all those that need one

Fuzzywuzzyhadnohair · 18/12/2019 03:37

Hugs to you all. My marriage is in trouble and I don’t know what to do about it. Christmas is such a hard time in so many ways. Happy to mind a worry or two, hope some of you are sleeping now. Lovely idea for a thread OP.

HannaYeah · 18/12/2019 03:40

I'd like to vote that no worry is too small for someone to take it for a while. In fact the little ones are easier to look after for someone else. And those tend to be the ones that snap my eyes open at 3am.

I agree. All worries welcome, both large and small.

Ellathechristmasfairy · 18/12/2019 03:50

Beautiful thread, very sweet and in my peri menopausal hormonal insomniac state I have shed a tear at a couple of posts.
I will take some worries on.

Pinkypie86 · 18/12/2019 04:01

3.57 and I'll also watch your worries

DS has had a tough year he's 10. Found out he has a rare chromosome disorder, won't go to school, anxiety etc. Heartbreaking watching him so upset.

Christmas overwhelms me, No Grandparents on either side. Always feels a bit sad for the kids.
My DP and our relationship could and should be better. :/
Everyone get some sleep... we deserve better than to be worrying all night.

anxioussue · 18/12/2019 04:34

4.30 am I'll mind your worries.can somebody mind my worries about making the right POA decision for elderly parents please

B0bbin · 18/12/2019 04:50

I'll mind your worries. Get some rest. I'm worrying about family too and the future and lots of tiny things. Just can't sleep!Flowers

FinallyHere · 18/12/2019 04:58

Thank you for being here, you lovely, lovely people.

I'd be very glad to leave this small parcel here and get off to sleep. It contains mostly my concerns about one part of the funeral arrangements for my mother on Monday, which have not yet been confirmed.

That's just the bit on the top that is visible.

There is a bit more underneath about missing her and some entirely separate concerns for DH's who has had some tests arranged at a local hospital frighteningly quickly after a good few months of similar but different tests all proving non conclusive.

My darkest fear is that there really is nothing to find but that he will continue to chase for solutions outside himself. .

In the daytime, I feel as if I can keep the lid on it all but when I close my eyes....

Kindest thoughts to everyone, those in need and those offering to help. Especially the PPs validating the idea that even smaller worries deserve to be heard and soothed.

Lovely thread, lovely people thank you

anxioussue · 18/12/2019 05:33

We all have our worries and big or small, they need sorting. I always think that sometimes people post a small worry when they don't want to share the big ones.

SeaSidePebbles · 18/12/2019 05:46

Hope you all got a bit of sleep. I’ll take some of your worries and walk them out With the dog into the fields in a bit. I’ll do that tonight as well, just before bed, so please feel free to leave them here for us.

glowingtwig · 18/12/2019 05:46

I'm up feeding my 8 week old, leave your worries with me for a while, they can sit on the hot water bottle I have here and be soothed until it's time to wake.
My worries are that my LO isn't putting on enough weight being BF and all the emotions that come with that. Plus being a totally overwhelmed FTM. Will someone mind mine when she does go back down to sleep?

TheFurryMenace · 18/12/2019 06:00

Glowing twig - I will mind your worries about your precious LO. I had the same with my DD when she was a baby. She's now 10 and a thriving, wonderful girl. But I vividly remember the weekly visits to the health visitor to have her weighed. I'll hold that worry as I'm awake early due to worry about my dad (dementia), and money problems. You take care and snuggle up with your beautiful babe.

Flowers to all PPs

Here's to a break from all your worries.

glowingtwig · 18/12/2019 06:32

@TheFurryMenace thank you for holding them. Hearing about your lovely dd thriving makes me feel like my LO will be ok... she really is beautiful.
I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I'll take those worries for you.

Bloodybridget · 18/12/2019 07:35

This is such a kind and beautiful thread. I am post chemo and in remission, fortunate enough to have no worries at the moment, and I will willingly look after someone else's.
Here's a lovely people piece of music, Evening Prayer from Hansel and Gretel, which might help some of you to lay your worries down.

Trumpton · 18/12/2019 07:35

@2018SoFarSoGreat
I slept from 2am until 6am .
I can have them back now . Thank you for minding them for me .
Onwards and upwards .

@NaomiFromMilkShake
Thank you so much for starting this thread it was a great comfort to me .

FinallyHere · 18/12/2019 08:29

Thank you everyone.

I'm back at my desk in work, there is plenty of space: I am very happy to look after concerns small and large.

After posting last night, I fell into a very deep sleep, for which I am very grateful xx

thisisallnewtome8 · 18/12/2019 08:41

Good morning to anyone just going to bed around the world. I'm off for a run and will take your worries with me and burn off their energy so that they're too tired to trouble you when they get back. I shall give them all a piece of my mind and threaten them with extra mileage if they don't give you some respite. Possible the nicest thread ever. I have relationship issues at the moment but I thankfully have my health which I took for granted until reading this thread. Stay strong, rest easy. I've got your back for the next couple of hours. C'mon worries put your running shoes on. We're off!!!!!

Lordfrontpaw · 18/12/2019 08:50

The ancient Romans would scratch their wishes, curses (Sometimes insults) and worries onto something and throw it into water.

Gazelda · 18/12/2019 08:59

I'm doing a mind numbing job for 4 hours today.

If anyone would who is feeling overwhelmed would like to park one of their problems with me, I'd be happy to take them while you concentrate on your other worries.

I'll give your problem a little ponder, make sure it feels listened to and give it space to see if it can work out it's own solution.

Lordfrontpaw · 18/12/2019 09:04

Here’s a technique - give yourselves ten mins to worry as hard as you can - only ten now. That’s your limit for the day.